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To be annoyed at driving 91 mph on a 70 mph road.

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Jupitertomars · 09/04/2017 12:56

On a 70mph road with myself in the back as 7 month of DD was crying so 5 year old is in the front.

I was furious. OH rolls eyes when I shout "wow!! Slow down! Your going 91 mph!!"

Then give him death stare.

He replies "stop looking at me like that. I'm not going to crash."

It makes me so frustrated as he just doesn't take it serious.

I know it's common to go slightly over the speed limit but this was too far for me. It's really annoyed me but I don't want it to ruin our day out.

OP posts:
Photograph · 09/04/2017 15:41

a 5 year old in the front wow. Shock

Andrewofgg · 09/04/2017 15:42

animalsareDelicious

You meant (I think)

Inappropriate speed skills

You typed

Inappropriate speed kills

And you were right.

ImperialBlether · 09/04/2017 15:43

My cam belt went on my car and I had no power whatsoever. No warning. Luckily I was in the slow lane of the motorway and could get onto the hard shoulder - I can't imagine what would have happened if I'd been in the fast lane.

Speeding with a crying child in the car is particularly stupid - any distraction is more likely to lead to a slow reaction or an error in driving.

ZilphasHatpin · 09/04/2017 15:43

so your DP doesnt drive their own DC anywhere? really? are you still together?

My children's father. 3 accidents in his first year of driving, 2 on empty roads. I refused to allow my son to go in the car with him. He got his mother to drive when picking him up. Then he went away and grew up and realised what the fuck I had been so mad about. He is allowed to drive him now.

Papafran · 09/04/2017 15:44

Germany- 4.3 road deaths per 100,000 inhabitants per year. 3540 fatalities in 2015.

UK- 2.9 road deaths per 100,000 inhabitants per year. 1800 fatalities in 2015.

I know what I would rather.

Titty the issue is that you cannot stop in time if you are going 20 miles above the speed limit. It doesn't matter how good a driver you consider yourself to be. You physically cannot make your car stop in time.

TittyGolightly · 09/04/2017 15:45

No. Inappropriate speed kills. Speed on it's own doesn't.

90mph on a busy motorway = unsafe. 70mph on a busy motorway may be unsafe. 40mph on a motorway is likely to be unsafe.
20mph on a motorway is suicidal.

Lower speed doesn't necessarily equal safety and high speed doesn't necessarily equal danger.

It's about appropriate speed.

Papafran · 09/04/2017 15:45

I wouldn't be doing 91 were there another car close enough to make an incident likely

Sorry but from this I can only conclude that you are an idiot.

Andrewofgg · 09/04/2017 15:46

Oh, and Titty: I have just been driving at 25 in a forty. I was looking for a particular shop. If you were the woman behind me who roared off into the middle distance at - I will guess - 55 when I found the shop and pulled over it's too bad, it's my road too.

TittyGolightly · 09/04/2017 15:46

Titty the issue is that you cannot stop in time if you are going 20 miles above the speed limit. It doesn't matter how good a driver you consider yourself to be. You physically cannot make your car stop in time.

My car is race prepared. Its stopping distance is about 1/3rd of the Highway Code measurements.

I know my car. I know my reaction speeds. I know when it's safe and when it isn't to drive fast.

TittyGolightly · 09/04/2017 15:47

Sorry but from this I can only conclude that you are an idiot.

Huh?

I'd do 91 on a dry empty motorway at 2am.

I wouldn't do 91 on a crowded motorway during rush hour.

What's idiotic about that?!

Papafran · 09/04/2017 15:48

Lower speed doesn't necessarily equal safety and high speed doesn't necessarily equal danger

Well, there is a pretty strong correlation between excessive speed and likelihood and severity of accidents. Unless you are driving on an empty motorway, something could happen in a split second.

In Germany, when there are accidents, they are very serious ones, due to excessive speed. Despite flat roads with good conditions. Nobody sets out to have an accident- they happen in the blink of an eye.

picklemepopcorn · 09/04/2017 15:48

Some people like to defend the indefensible. I think they feel 'big and clever'.

In the grown up world, speeding increases the risk which is inevitable in driving. Increases the risk of an accident, increases the severity of an accident.

It makes me smile wryly when people who think they are good drivers can't cope with the existence of other people on the roads, who need to drive according to the conditions.

NotYoda · 09/04/2017 15:50

Titty

So, according to what you wrote in your last post, 90mph is more unsafe than 70mph. You wrote that

It's definitely not less dangerous than 70mph (the legal speed limit). From what you wrote.

NotYoda · 09/04/2017 15:52

Furthermore

The OP wasn't on an empty motorway at 2am. The only time that you would consider 91mph a safe speed. From what you said

BluePeppersAndBroccoli · 09/04/2017 15:52

Re Germany, actually st insurrance companies there will not insure you if you were going over a certain speed, usually 70mph....

So no speed limit by law but still some because you know... its safest!

Papafran · 09/04/2017 15:53

Nice bit of back-tracking there Titty. Originally, it is 'I regularly do 85-90 with my 6 yo in the car'. Now you are suggesting you only do it driving at 2 am on a clear motorway. Driving at 2 am isn't great either because you are likely to be tired so doing 90 is doubly dumb. I also doubt your car that you drive your child around in is 'race-prepared'. Who are you? Lewis fucking Hamilton.

Go on another speed awareness course, please. One where they show you videos of what can be the result of speeding drivers. If you saw a young woman cut down in her prime and completely paralysed (in an accident that the police said was caused by excessive speed), if you had a shred of humanity, you would modify your idiotic behaviour.

araiwa · 09/04/2017 15:56

i'm the one driving, i am much better to decide what i think is an appropriate speed than some arbitrary limits set more than 60 years ago.

empty motorway with clear visibility- can safely go faster than 70. 40mph limit road outside a school at 3.30- i drive well below the limit

JacquesHammer · 09/04/2017 15:57

Titty - do your idiotic turns of speed on a racetrack then.

You can't defend the indefensible. I do hope you get stopped again for speeding.

Such utter stupidity

NotYoda · 09/04/2017 15:57

I often decide which laws I'm going to break

mrssmith79 · 09/04/2017 15:58

You know what can kill as well as speed? Shouting at a driver doing 91mph.
Not saying he's right though.

JacquesHammer · 09/04/2017 15:58

i'm the one driving, i am much better to decide what i think is an appropriate speed than some arbitrary limits set more than 60 years ago

Snigger. If you get stopped by the police good luck with that argument 😂

TittyGolightly · 09/04/2017 15:58

Nice bit of back-tracking there Titty. Originally, it is 'I regularly do 85-90 with my 6 yo in the car'. Now you are suggesting you only do it driving at 2 am on a clear motorway.

I didnt say I'd only do it at 2am. It was a fucking example! As we usually drive through the night our 6 year old is often in the car while we're travelling at over 70mph.

(Unlikely to be able to get up to 90mph during rush hour due to all the other traffic. That's the point! The speed isn't the dangerous bit - it's the other drivers!)

Driving at 2 am isn't great either because you are likely to be tired so doing 90 is doubly dumb.

How dumb to assume I'd be tired at 2am. You have no fucking idea what my schedule is like. I'd be more dangerous at 7am which is when I am not naturally alert being a night owl.

I also doubt your car that you drive your child around in is 'race-prepared'. Who are you? Lewis fucking Hamilton.

My daily drive is a 500*+ rally car with a roll cage. I commute to work in it and race it at weekends. Think of me as Lewis Hamilton with tits if it helps.

TittyGolightly · 09/04/2017 15:59

I do the school run in it too.

NotYoda · 09/04/2017 16:00

Titty

I am so turned on right now

araiwa · 09/04/2017 16:03

i know speeding is illegal

but its not always dangerous

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