To cause a massive scene in Sainsbury's car park

[momma1701]

Earlier today I went to Sainsbury's with both my DD's (7&1) I was just about about to pull in to the last mother and baby space when someone cuts me up to park there, ok annoying as fuck but whatever.
I find another non baby space which is a very tight squeeze with my car (it's quite big) not to mention the whole faf off youngest DD and her car seat palava, so we've finally got out just about and set out to go in store, this is when I notice the guy who cuts me up is on his own, not only that I recognise he's the same guy who done this to me last week!
So I flipped out!
I asked him where his kids were and does he think it's acceptable to be able bodied (I know this now I've recognised him as I actually went to school with him and he lives near me) and watch someone else struggle whilst he doesn't actually need the space.
So what I got back was him shouting to me 'you don't have to have kids to park here' and 'I'll park where the fuck I want'
By this time my oldest DD was very upset with our shouting and his swearing so I started to walk away, he proceeded to shout abuse behind me and it was all just very embarrassing really!
All in all I'm glad I called him out in front of lots of tutting and clapping people but I wish I hadn't upset my DD, I just hate disrespectful people! And I went in and reported him

I'd rather use any excuse op than say i have a disability!
I don't want strangers ( or anyone besides my family And close friends to know what is wrong with me!)
Plus i've had people state there is nothing wrong with me because i don't look ill
Unless you are this guys doctor you don't know anything.
None of my friends knew until a few years ago how bad my health was!

I told Sainsbury's customer services and they radioed the attendant that has a little cabin at the end of the car park

So it's a really small Sainsbury's where it only had one parking space left .. and yet they have a car parking attendant?

Small store but the only one near enough; see the guy all the time; he sits in his car 'watching' you; you recognise him; big car which morphs into a truck; cheaper to run company truck and pay for own fuel use on monster than to buy a second small family car; only other available space and the next car was parked over the line; Sainsbury's [small ones at that] suddenly have 'parking attendants' in booths; the alleged parking attendants issues tickets on the say-so of random angry customers; crowds of gleeful shoppers [in this small store with the small car park and no available parking spaces] stand round and cheer at a scene caused by angry shouty woman; upset child cheered up by crowd - so was she upset, or was she cheered up, surely there isn't that much time to be both?

None of it stacks up at all.

Anyway, if all the stories in the thread are true yes, YABU in SO many ways.

Nothing in this post matters except that she has a big car. So flashy and unnecessary. How dare she

Well I made my comment about the size of the car because the OP said she needed a large car because of her dd and equated getting rid of the large car with having to also get rid of her dd (though she's subsequently said it's a company car).

As for not wanting to walk across a car park with kids, I am reminded of a thread a few weeks/months ago where someone asked if they were being unreasonable to have a 3rd child I think it was. Well yes you AIBU if you then expect the rest of the world to accommodate you:

"I have to park next to the supermarket entrance in my large Chelsea tractor because I have 3 kids and I can't be expected to walk anywhere with them"

"I have to drive to school because I have 3 kids and I can't be expected to walk 10 mins in either direction with a toddler" etc

Out to be fair, the OP said the car park was on a retail park and shops have spaces allocated to them. (not that I am defending her actions.)

Maybe I've lived a sheltered life but after driving for over 40 years I've never seen a car park where you are given a 'ticket' (fine?) for using a parent and child space if you are not in possession of a child.

I've never seen any supermarket or retail park with a parking attendant in a booth, it's all automated these days.

And, no, they don't issue tickets for parking in a P&C bay, how could they? No law and no contract, so nothing to break the terms of. I have* heard of supermarkets putting a note on cars parked wrongly. (cue the OP coming back and saying 'yes, that's what they did' :) )

*there may be a contract re parking generally but I have never seen one that said anything about who could use the P&C bays. And, as a pp said, they'd have to see him get out of the car with no kids to be sure....they'd not take her word for it.

Mulled, a bit if reverse snobbery? You obviously have issues with people who have big cars or 'Chelsea tractors' as you like to call them.

It was clear that some posters took an instant dislike to the OP because if her big car. But that's nothing new these days.

It was clear that some posters took an instant dislike to the OP because if her big car. But that's nothing new these days.

No posters didn't like the 'big car' because the OP says she can't park in normal spaces with it!

If you have a big car either accept that you can't take it every where or get a smaller one.

No, it wasn't the car, it wasn't the over-entitled attitude.

She felt she was entitled to a m&c parking spot that a childless man took....

Who says the man was childless?

OP did.

She felt she was entitled to a m&c parking spot that a childless man took....

They are p&c spaces not m&c

Lol piglet! True.

Come off it OP, you keep digging that hard you're going to come out of the other side!

It was clear that some posters took an instant dislike to the OP because if her big car. But that's nothing new these days

Bullshit. Lots of us have big cars. People took an instant dislike to OP because she was so instantly dislikable. There is no mystery to it!

It was clear that some posters took an instant dislike to the OP because if her big car. But that's nothing new these days

I took a dislike to does he think it's acceptable to be able bodied (I know this now I've recognised him as I actually went to school with him and he lives near me)

She has no idea if he has disabilities, she has simply judged because he doesn't look like he does, lives at home and is a fb friend
I don't agree with people making snide digs about her car or outright attacks on the op though.
Though i do agree that if she struggles to fit it in a car spot except for the m&c then she may have to rethink things.

you were probably wrong but if id have seen it i would have been impressed because i have always secretly wanted to shout at people who did that. Living the dream.

Some people don't have hidden disabilities. They are just twats.

i have seen them - small towns are more paranoid on account of the daily mail and local papers going on and on about crime and danger....there's no need, but there are squares around all the cash machines -to keep immigrants away-

Actually what you have really taught your children is that it is ok to have a tantrum in public about something not very important at all.

Scaryclown, 😂

He was a lazy arsehole, YANBU.

I have actually seen supermarket signs near us now stating they will issue a fine for anyone seen abusing the P&C parking. I think that was in sainsburys actually.

I have a hidden disability, it's rubbish, but i'm not "disabled enough" for a blue badge. Therefore I don't park in disabled spaces, I wouldn't dream of parking in a p&c space without my dcs in the car, it's never crossed my mind this would ever be acceptable.

Guy was an arse, you called him out on it, he didn't like it, people like that rarely do. YANBU