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To cause a massive scene in Sainsbury's car park

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momma1701 · 05/04/2017 21:10

Earlier today I went to Sainsbury's with both my DD's (7&1) I was just about about to pull in to the last mother and baby space when someone cuts me up to park there, ok annoying as fuck but whatever.
I find another non baby space which is a very tight squeeze with my car (it's quite big) not to mention the whole faf off youngest DD and her car seat palava, so we've finally got out just about and set out to go in store, this is when I notice the guy who cuts me up is on his own, not only that I recognise he's the same guy who done this to me last week!
So I flipped out!
Blush I asked him where his kids were and does he think it's acceptable to be able bodied (I know this now I've recognised him as I actually went to school with him and he lives near me) and watch someone else struggle whilst he doesn't actually need the space.
So what I got back was him shouting to me 'you don't have to have kids to park here' and 'I'll park where the fuck I want'
By this time my oldest DD was very upset with our shouting and his swearing so I started to walk away, he proceeded to shout abuse behind me and it was all just very embarrassing really!
All in all I'm glad I called him out in front of lots of tutting and clapping people Blushbut I wish I hadn't upset my DD, I just hate disrespectful people! And I went in and reported him Grin

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momma1701 · 06/04/2017 09:04

Ok well your the one reading and commenting, just saying

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SailAwaySailAwaySailAway · 06/04/2017 09:06

It comes down to the fact he does this everytime he shops there, it isn't a one off he always does it
Are you sure? How do you know this?

I think you're massively catastrophising this. Your behaviour at the time was not appropriate and trying to justify it by painting his behaviour as so very monstrous isn't doing you any good.
How could you handle it better next time so you don't flip out or lose your shit (and save your own blood pressure?)

SailAwaySailAwaySailAway · 06/04/2017 09:07

Oh and I do think he was being a massive arse.

MyBreadIsEggy · 06/04/2017 09:09
Biscuit Parent and child spaces are nicety, not a right. You missed out. Tough luck. Maybe he shouldn't have parked there, but you are not the "parking police"! I have a 23 month old and a 5 month old - if there are no P&C spaces, I find a space on the end of a row so I can open both doors without smashing into someone else's car. Problem solved. It's just a bit further to walk to the shop with a baby and a toddler Hmm
momma1701 · 06/04/2017 09:09

Way way way over this now, I'm off to Sainsbury's to shout at more inconsiderate folk!
Thanks for the laughs guys!

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Frouby · 06/04/2017 09:09

Jesus op. You are on a hiding to nothing here love. It won't matter what you say. You were in the wrong. The bloke was in the right.

Meanwhile in another universe supermarkets announce they will ticket cars abusing p and c spaces. Or stay beyond the 2 or 3 hours allocated time. Or park in a blue badge space without using a blue badge. They have lines around cash machines, trolley bays and loading bays. And zebra crossings near entrances and exits.

But in mn world these things don't exist so suck it up buttercup.

Sirzy · 06/04/2017 09:10

The thought of him with a driving licence is pretty scary shatners ShockGrin

We have already had people questioning use of the spaces though even when he is in his chair so it's pretty obvious (although according to one that's just because he is lazy Hmm)

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 06/04/2017 09:11

Meanwhile in another universe supermarkets announce they will ticket cars abusing p and c spaces.

They can say what they like. Doesn't mean that legally they can actually do anything.

Sparklingbrook · 06/04/2017 09:12

People parking at the Sainsbury's at the retail park today. Be afraid be very afraid. Grin

ZilphasHatpin · 06/04/2017 09:13

Wow! Do you stalk this man? How do you always manage to be there when he is there? And also, if he always manages to do this that suggests there is always a space. Unless someone keeps the space specifically for him then I'm guessing it's a case of there being several spaces and he takes one.

PigletWasPoohsFriend · 06/04/2017 09:30

Half of the mean girls on this thread must live in cloud cuckoo land!

'Mean girls'? Are you 12?

PollyPerky · 06/04/2017 09:38

Right girls if you are off to Sains today on a retail park keep well away from a woman with 2 DCs in a mahoosive car . She is liable to go off her trolley if you so much as even think of taking the last C&P space. Her 1 year old is so precious that she is unable to climb out of her car seat across the back seat, and her 7 yr old DD is so highly strung she will cry if she sees her sister being manhandled.

Oh and don't forget the Ticket Police.

ShatnersWig · 06/04/2017 09:40

There are (whispers) men on this thread too I suspect...

hellomoon · 06/04/2017 09:40

They can say what they like. Doesn't mean that legally they can actually do anything

And there's your problem right there. Because it isn't enforceable, then it's 'fair game' to give zero fucks about what the intended use of the space is. What happened just to common courtesy? As in ' I won't park there - that space is intended to make the life of a parent with a child a bit easier so as I don't have a child with me I'll leave it for someone who does'

But he didn't. Because it's not enforceable, it's a privilege not a right, he's entitled to part where he wants and all the other blather spouted on this post.

So the OP didn't cover herself in glory.. but hey, if he'd shown his fellow person some basic courtesy then this wouldn't have happened in the first place.

Can you imagine the thread if he'd parked in a disabled bay? Or (dare I say it) parked his car inconsiderately near someone's property, or (whispers this bit)...... occupied the space on the bus meant for prams? This thread would have been up in arms in support for the OP. But I repeat - that's mumsnet for you.

floraeasy · 06/04/2017 09:41

It comes down to the fact he does this everytime he shops there, it isn't a one off he always does it

How can you know this?

Does he never shop there when you are not there?

FairytalesAreBullshit · 06/04/2017 09:42

So even though it upset your daughter, you'd happily do it again, not only risking upsetting her again, but giving her the impression if something doesn't go your way, stomp your feet and cause a scene.

I have not insulted anyone's mental health, I posted a link that I found on Anger Management techniques. Show me where I insulted anyone's mental health. You can't because it didn't happen.

I acknowledge my replies haven't been sparkled with roses and fairy dust, but OP after all this, after upsetting her daughter, has said she'd happily do it again. As others do, I believe what was posted and what happened are few and far between. Unfortunately making it juicier didn't go in OP's favour.

I'm annoyed as you shouldn't behave like that in front of DC, full stop, especially if it upset them. I believe assertions were made about this guy, when she knows nothing about him. Her general demeanour through the post has been just Hmm on a topic any hardened MN knows will stir controversy.

She posted on NM & MN presumably getting the same or a similar response, yet we're in the wrong for not agreeing with her on this. Since we don't agree we're bullies.

Since its apparent OP has learned little from the experience, I won't be returning. FYI accusing people of what they haven't done, especially when they were trying to help is aggravating. OP knows this though and seems to enjoy provoking others. A means to an end, whether it be a car park, MN or NM.

You can't reason with stupid.

Have a good day.

viques · 06/04/2017 09:46

19 pages. frankly I can't be arsed to trawl through, so is there a diagram? if not I am off to the litter tray for some catherapy.

(Did I just make up a word ? )

ShatnersWig · 06/04/2017 09:48

viques I did ask where the car park was to go and draw a diagram because of a lack of one, but the OP wouldn't tell me. Sorry.

Endlessmusings · 06/04/2017 09:48

Clapping? Grin ... you do live in your own little world OP.

PutThatPomBearBack · 06/04/2017 09:50

OP- 'AIBU?'

Mumsnet-'yes'

OP-'no I'm not'

Ffs Hmm

Endlessmusings · 06/04/2017 09:52

Your 7 year old got upset your 1 year old was dragged from the opposite side of the car?

Why were you dragging a baby? Confused

Is your 7 year old a bit extra? She seems to get upset at the slightest thing.

Bananamanfan · 06/04/2017 09:53

It is very bad manners for a person without dcs to use a p&c space. Surely they are primarily for child safety? They are usually next to a footpath that leads straight to the shop & have trollies with child seats nearby. E.g.That way you don't have to walk across a car park with toddler/s (not suggesting age 7 is a toddler fyi) & no hands free while carrying a car seat.
Ywbu in your reaction, op, but it is rude behaviour to nip in to a space that someone is indicating to go in p&c or not. Would piss me off too.

VintagePerfumista · 06/04/2017 09:53

Pom- you missed out the

OP-" no I'm not and you're all bullying meangirlz" bit.

Seriously roffling now though at them all meeting regularly in the carpark. People will talk.

floraeasy · 06/04/2017 09:53

Inconsiderate though this guy was, what happened will likely have no effect on him whatsoever, so it's all been rather pointless as far as I can see.

The OP's energy would have been better spent getting up a petition asking the supermarket or local council to think about making legally-protected spaces to P&C to park in.

Would have been a great opportunity for teaching her daughter problem-solving skills and how to change the world.

Work smarter, not harder is a great motto!

I shall take my own advice now and depart from this thread as a cost/benefits analysis tells me this is not a good use of my time and energy.

JaxingJump · 06/04/2017 09:56

Nothing in this post matters except that she has a big car.

So flashy and unnecessary. How dare she.

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