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Do I drink too much?

321 replies

user1491413344 · 05/04/2017 18:35

I drink a bottle of wine every night. DH says this is too much and thinks I should stop.

Is it too much? Thought it was okay.

OP posts:
SmileEachDay · 05/04/2017 22:04
Shock
Do I drink too much?
booitsme · 05/04/2017 22:04

FruitCider knows what's she's talking about - please get some help in reducing and then stopping. It's very important

Viviennemary · 05/04/2017 22:06

Yes it is far far too much. You will end up with liver damage. It's more than four times the recommended amount. You need to stop this dangerous habit right now.

madein1995 · 05/04/2017 22:11

User, it's mad isn't it. It's meant to make you feel better but it doesn't, at least not for me. I have memories of sicking up in the loos and then going back and drinking more Shock I certainly wasn't drinking for enjoyment

Instasista · 05/04/2017 22:14

muttrat that's not the same thing is it? We're talking about people choosing to ignore guidelines, not being unaware of their existence.

Nhs guidelines on units aren't related to problem drinking or addiction. They're about long term physical health.

AddToBasket · 05/04/2017 22:16

OP, you can sort this. Part of feeling shit is just a chemical depression from the alcohol and a tiredness from bad boozy sleep. You are going to be so much happier on the other side of this.

I see a lot of medical records in my job. I can tell you that there are plenty of people who drink like you do now but who are able to turn it around. It gets harder the longer you leave it so don't delay.

Better sleep, better skin, better health, better happiness - you have so much to gain.

BlueChairs · 05/04/2017 22:21

I did this for a while at uni and then realised it was borderline alcoholic. You need to stop it is waaaaay too much.

BlueChairs · 05/04/2017 22:22

Try chamomile, turmeric tea, a hot banana

taffle · 05/04/2017 22:23

OP, yes, you are drinking too much. Please be aware that suddenly stopping drinking may be dangerous for you. The safest thing to do would to be assessed by your GP so that together you can work out a plan to cut down or stop drinking without suffering any ill-effects.

To counter some previous posts - I deal with people with alcohol issues in my professional life and this is in no way a "moderate" amount to drink. I have seen people on the wards with liver damage who drink similar amounts. Yes, livers are very resilient but what this often means is that people drink to excess for years, seemingly with no ill-effects, and then suddenly become very ill as the liver is no longer able to compensate.

BlueChairs · 05/04/2017 22:23

From your follow ups you sound like an alcoholic tbh

BlueChairs · 05/04/2017 22:24

Additionally after 6 months with 0 alcohol your liver will have FULLY repaired itself.

StrangeLookingParasite · 05/04/2017 22:25

Trifle,
Put a sock in it.

As well as derailing the thread,
your sanctimonious, prissy comments are enough to drive anyone to drink

God what an unfunny and highly inappropriate thing to say. You are not helpful. This isn't the only thread you've been conspicuous by how abrasive you are being on.

To op, the other thing about alcohol is that it's a depressant, so if you felt a bit crappy before, it will only make you feel worse.

TeenageCentaurMortificado · 05/04/2017 22:26

Not rtft. I used to do exactly this. I was fat.
And miserable. I think it was the miserable that made me drink.

I did dry January once and ended my marriage on Feb 1st.

Funnily enough I lost a fuck load of weight (not just the 16stone man) and drink loads less without even trying.

Really think why you do it. (No judgement here... it may be just habit..) but, ya know..

taffle · 05/04/2017 22:29

Bluechair

Completely false.

Nobody on this board can make that claim unless they have examined the OP, run liver function tests before/after, etc. And prolonged excessive drinking damages more than just the liver.

HorridHenryrule · 05/04/2017 22:41

Yes it is excessive I used to drink every night. I looked tired and felt like I never had enough energy. If you are only tipsy then your body is used to the drink which isn't good for your liver. Before going to bed tonight look in the mirror and ask yourself whether you should look like that. Drinking every night takes it out of you.

Ohyesiam · 05/04/2017 22:46

I imagine this had been said, but a bottle of wine has 10 units, and women are supposed to have 14 units a week.
You are having 70 units a week, almost FIVE TIMES the recommended amount.

So yes, you really are drinking a lot too much

Ohyesiam · 05/04/2017 22:50

Sorry, posted to soon.
You could go to your go, there is lots of NHS support, despite the cutbacks. A friend of mine had Just gone through this, and was amazed at the amount of support she was offered.
Best of luck with it op

mummymeister · 05/04/2017 22:54

several things about your posts worry me:

  1. you seem to lack self esteem, you want to do anything for a quiet and anonymous life.
  2. are you driving in the morning? if so by an individual breathe test kit and test yourself first thing in the morning before you get in the car. depending on your age, height and weight you may be over the limit and this will impair function and you should not drive.
  3. seek some proper face to face professional advice - now/tomorrow.

honestly you already know that this is excessive and you need some help. so please go and get it.

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:00

I have a problem with wine I know that, I have a high alcohol tolerance and can easily do more than you, the attitude on this topic is why I keep myself to myself. Go ahead and flame me but what you say will never ever be as bad as my daily battle with myself . I think drinking has become part of our culture and the mums wine or gin etc is a daily thing in this day. Just look at all the bloggers, just like the weight problem we have, alcohol is a problem.

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:01

And so is my grammar. Big apologies Grin

RunRabbitRunRabbit · 05/04/2017 23:02

You asked how people deal with feeling grumpy and moody?

I think mostly we just carry on with life while feeling grumpy and moody.

It is OK to feel like that. You don't have to medicate it away.

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:04

I also come from a long line of people with alcohol issues. Despite everything I want to break that. I don't want it to go full circle

Butteredparsnip1ps · 05/04/2017 23:12

Please go and see your GP. Yes, you do need to stop this, but most people are more successful when they have support, and you sound incredibly low.

Unfortunately alcohol related ill health tends to affect women earlier than men drinking the same quantity, so it really would be a good idea to seek professional help very soon.

Please take the first step and good luck.

SpreadYourHappiness · 05/04/2017 23:13

MasterOfNap It isn't a part of life in this day and age. The majority of people don not need alcohol at the end of the day to unwind. If you do, you have a problem.

It sounds like you know you have a problem, so now you need to do something about it for the sake of yourself and your family.

HorridHenryrule · 05/04/2017 23:15

Master have you thought about doing a course my partner uses courses so he don't drink. He gets bored easily. How I got of drink I worked awkward shifts and then I got pregnant. Even now I drink now and then but nothing like before. I can live with out it. Food is my problem.

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