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Do I drink too much?

321 replies

user1491413344 · 05/04/2017 18:35

I drink a bottle of wine every night. DH says this is too much and thinks I should stop.

Is it too much? Thought it was okay.

OP posts:
MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:20

I know I have a problem
. I asked for help. Smile I am not a bad person, just a lonely one? And that is my main issue

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:21

I cannot do a course as I don't have the means to go about it Blush

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:23

Can we ignore me please I am not the op Blush

Kikikaakaa · 05/04/2017 23:25

I don't want to be sanctimonious but it is the alcohol that is perpetuating these feelings, I promise you. Tackling the alcohol seems scary but once the brave step is taken your own positivity comes back and you stop feeling like you are stuck in the cycle of feel shit, feel anxious, drink, feel temporarily better, bad sleep, wake up grumpy, feel anxious, only just manage to get through the day till wine time. So many people have given good advice and they have been in your shoes.

I honestly don't think whacking labels on people helps. It makes them feel ashamed and that never helps people to get help.

I haven't suffered from any anxiety at all since stopping drinking and the more better I feel the more positive my mood becomes by it's self. But getting support from your GP is a good thing too

Kikikaakaa · 05/04/2017 23:26

Master I was too, lonely. But I recognise now the wine made me maudlin and sadder, I had no chance of feeling more positive whilst actively choosing to drink something that highlighted and intensified those sad depressing feelings

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:27

I asked gp years ago unfortunately the NHS is dire. But I cannot fault it in other ways, they know who is priority

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:29

@Kikikaakaa it's an awful place to be, but finding the Ines to help you out of the bad place is harder

LuxuryWoman2017 · 05/04/2017 23:29

Masterofnap I understand totally.
There are some very helpful and supportive threads here where you can talk things through with other people who get it.

Alcohol is normalised in our society, it just is. It's something we've discussed at length on the support threads I've mentioned.

Tbh if I can kick wine I think most people can, oceans of the stuff I've glugged in the past. But it is the past.

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:30

I have been on them threads but I am scared of being noticed irl unfortunately.

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:31

I AM NOT THE OP Blush I'm loving all the responses though from the vipers Blush

LuxuryWoman2017 · 05/04/2017 23:32

I know you're not, it's just you sound like me a few months ago!

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:33

I tried to be a penguin, but I do not fit in. I also had a safe place that lead to a Facebook group. But no one gets it

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:34

@LuxuryWoman2017 you sound awesome

TheStoic · 05/04/2017 23:35

Don't be mean? This is aibu and you are.

Are you drunk now? You sound it.

It wasn't actually the OP who said that.

Do you think you could see yourself cutting down gradually OP, if going cold turkey seems too overwhelming?

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:36

How the hell has this turned to me Confused I'm off to do what I do best and hide

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:37

And FYI Aibu is the worst place for "us"

SpreadYourHappiness · 05/04/2017 23:37

MasterOfNap The NHS will help you; you need to go back to them to get this sorted. There will probably be a wait, but that's fine. At least then you'll have taken the first step.

JHMJHM · 05/04/2017 23:38

Ah man good luck to the OP and best wishes for being so brave- you are human.

I don't think a bad fancy for booze is any worse or damaging than a horrible body obsession, shopping frenzy, anxiety tablet thing.

Sounds like you know what to do OP- get out of the shitty hangovers and get some decent sleep. If you get on the right groove again you can still have a nice time when you go out. Boozing at home on your own sounds rubbish .

Have some sleep and juice and save it for weekends and the good times x x

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:39

I've asked, I've done cbt, I've been on a lovely load of meds. Nobody cares. I'm going with plodding along these days Grin

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:40

Nhs has failed me in a lot of ways. But they are strained

ThereIsIron · 05/04/2017 23:41

You see I have already drank my bottle of wine. I Am not drunk but I do feel like shit.

OP you're not drunk because you drink a bottle every night - your body is used to it.

SpreadYourHappiness · 05/04/2017 23:41

MasterOfNap They do care. It sounds to me like you haven't put the effort in, and have convinced yourself nobody cares so you don't actually have to do anymore.

CBT is amazing, but it only works if people actually put the effort in and do the work.

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:43

Cbt made me worse .as long as my children are happy then I am Grin

No one in

MasterOfNap · 05/04/2017 23:44

Hmm that went wrong

No one understands you until they was in your shoes Wink

Original poster
user1491413344 · 05/04/2017 23:44

you are all so nice and I don't deserve it because I am an idiot Sad

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