To be annoyed about topless sunbathing?

[Belle1102]

Topless sunbathing on holiday can be just about tolerated. I, myself, have done it on occasion if the General vibe of the place seems totally laid back about it.
AIBU to be annoyed about the woman next door to me walking around her garden in nothing but a tiny thong with her huge fake boobs out?! I don't want to be looking at her practically naked body when I'm wanting to go into my garden. Plus my DP will get an eyeful of her too which will make me feel a bit shit. And whose to say that the neighbour's on the other side of her house two little boys won't get an eyeful too.
People can do what they want in their own homes and gardens, but here is nothing but a very low fence separating us and she is only about 1 meter away from my living room window

Can't believe how many women on here, would have no problem with an attractive naked woman parading in front of their front window, and their DH. Lots of "cool" wives on here today.

And as for saying "they're only breasts", wow, breasts are very sexual to me (my own obvs) and they are not the same as a pair of hands

If a man was gardening naked, with small children in the neighbouring garden, the responses would be so different. How do you know she isn't a pedophile? Females can be too (albeit rare). She isn't naked for the tan lines, as it's too cold, so exactly who is she trying to garner attention from here?

I'd have to say something, personally.

Huskylover1 - well, I guess I'm lucky enough to not be married to a lecherous man with an inability to control himself around any random breasts he sees.

If that makes me a "cool wife", then I can live with that.

None of you can be as cool as the Topless Thongless Lady.

She must be freezing!

LordScuttlebutt - I laughed out loud at that!

Lots of "cool" wives on here today. confused

Or, maybe just 'secure' wives. Granted the 'secure' wife is yet to feature in a pithy rant by a deranged woman in a throwaway novel but, apparently, they do exist.

Does your husband have to wear blinkers when he goes to the beach then, Husky or do you not allow such activities. It's not about being cool it's about sensible. What happens when you come across a breast feeding woman when out and about?

Where the fuck do you live? Must be warmer than Yorkshire!

Not exactly parading is it. She's in her own garden. I'm often in my pants in my garden it is partially overlooked but no one is forced to look out their windows into my own garden.

It's taken me a bloody long time and a long and tiresome eating disorder to overcome to feel this happy in my own skin. If I want to relax in my own garden in my pants I will and I don't care who's bothered by that.

Soooo, all these ppl saying it normal, ok, not unreasonable.... I assume you'd be happy with your kids playing in your garden while the man next door, whom they can see very clearly, gardens in the nude?
Really?!?!?! Come on!!!

Soooo, all these ppl saying it normal, ok, not unreasonable.... I assume you'd be happy with your kids playing in your garden while the man next door, whom they can see very clearly, gardens in the nude?

Really wouldn't be bothered. DD would probably giggle a bit and then not notice it all because its not the first naked man she's seen (she's been in the men's shower rooms and sauna with OH). So long as no one is masturbating or clearly doing it to offend/intimidate other people then its fine, its just a body.

I disagree. As a family we are happy with nudity. If you don't want to se her grow high trees between your garden and hers or don't look that way.

If you think your children will be harmed by seeing breasts perhaps take them to therapy.

I'm getting tempted now... I'd traumatise the dog, though, not to mention DSs.

Come to think of it, OH went out naked this winter when he couldn't find his swimming trunks and wanted to roll in the snow. The neighbours are all old though, probably a bit too used to naked bodies to complain.

So if you are a bloke who wants to expose himself you just have to pretend you are gardening then it's ok. 🤔

Or would it be different if it was a bloke.

I'm the very last person who would ever be described as a cool wife, quite the opposite really. By using the term cool wife it implies that we think our husbands etc would be perving over her and that we would be fine with it, when many pps are saying the wouldn't be concerned about it because their dhs have enough respect for women to not perv at all.

A grown adult man can control himself, dh doesn't watch porn, he can cope if nudity is on to and he can be around breast feeding women and topless sunbathers abroad without gawping at their tits, he'd manage perfectly fine in his own home too, he's not unique and many other men are like him, but if chose to go the window and perv over her, it would be him I have the problem with, not her.

I'd find it odd as its freezing cold here, but I wouldn't be worried about dh catching a glimpse of her because that's all it would be, a glimpse and then he'd carry on with his day, not stand and deliberately gawp. If I was worried about him doing that I don't think wouldn't be with him because imo it would show a lack of respect for me and a lack of respect for the woman he's perving over.

I would hate this for me - she may have the right to do this on her own property but why should I have to look? It's not so warm she can't put up with clothes and tanning is dangerous so she's stupid or exhibitionist or both.

DH would just laugh. I'm far from cool but he's an adult who can also recognise an exhibitionist.

I'd be pleased if DS saw it and made loud obnoxious comments though. I could prompt him

knackered I'd have reported the neighbours filming to Social Services.

It would be the same the other way round, if dh was home and saw a male naked in his garden, he wouldn't be concerned that I'd choose to ogle and perv on him. I wouldn't automatically assume a man gardening naked was prancing around and flaunting himself (I don't think I've heard men described as prancing around and flaunting themselves) to catch the attention of married women or young girls either.

In both cases, I think I'd just shut the blinds.

Genuinely cannot believe, that so many women wouldn't be irritated or shocked, at a female neighbour walking in front of the lounge window totally starkers. We speak to all of our neighbours in passing, and I would be speechless to find one on the lawn with no clothes on. Where the fuck are you all living? BIZARRE.

I certainly would find it bizarre because it just isn't the norm round here.

Nottingham knockers are a thing you know.

I'm guessing this is Bulwell?