AIBU or is DP?

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If you were given a present and your Dp asked for half of it, is it unreasonable to say no?

It was an Easter egg and I had already eaten half Dp wanted the other half and I (selfishly) didn't want to give it up but did say dp could have it. I know it's selfish to want to keep it to myself but I have issues around food going back to my childhood (which Dp doesn't understand).

Apparently because I didn't give it up willingly I am selfish and dp now won't speak to me.

AIBU? It was a gift to me as a thank you for the past few months and I wanted to enjoy all of it.

I agree worra.

And as a self confessed chocoholic I still wouldn't be rude enough to not share with someone else I was with at the time of eating!

OP, have you sought help for your childhood/food issues?

Do you have children?

Thanks, OP

(1) Does your husband sulk often?
(2) If yes, what does he sulk about?
(3) How does he speak to you about your weight?
(4) Do you feel he wants to control aspects of your life other than the food issue?
(5) How do you make up after rows? Do you always have to placate him and jolly him out of his sulking?

Sorry about all the questions. Please don't feel invaded if you'd rather not answer. I just wondered if we could help you more.

Good questions flora. This is what I'm thinking.

Not much sulking no. Weight wise it's not so much about my weight but commenting on people's size in general or X has lost weight. Dp needs to lose all bit but I need to lose more. We talk about losing weight but don't.
In terms of controlling, no I don't feel controlled. I sometimes get comments on 'you should wear X dress I stead" or something but I always say no I have picked what I have picked!
We don't generally have many rows, so don't often have the need to make up. Earlier has not been mentioned since and all seems fine now. The easer egg has even wrapped up in foil and Dp is going to have it later.

The easter egg has even wrapped up in foil and Dp is going to have it later

But Supermagic - hasn't it been soured by your selfishness?

It's a running joke in our house that if DH isn't quick enough, there will be. I chocolate left to eat, as I will eat it all. Same goes for cake/desserts.

If I opened a full Easter egg, I would be happy to share it. If I had already eaten half earlier, I would share the remaining half.

(Purely on the basis that I can go buy another one tomorrow, and probably would!).

I would not hand over the remaining half just because DH demanded it (and he wouldn't dare, I love my chocolate!).

If there was any stropping over my unwillingness to share, I would eat the lot myself.

well all is well that ends well OP sounds like it's all resolved now remember if you fancy a bit more chocolate pick some up next time you're out

I got an egg today from work for a job well done,won't be sharing it. I did the work so i deserve the reward.