Was I U to wear the same outfit to two weddings?

[GameOldBirdz]

Since Christmas, I've been to four weddings. I'm that age where everyone I know is getting married!

I wore the same outfit to three of these weddings. Two of these same-outfit weddings were the same crowd of people- family. My cousin, who was at both family same-outfit weddings, sent me a load of photographs yesterday and said in the email "It's a shame you couldn't be bothered to wear something different".

I replied to thank her for sending and said "I'm sorry if I offended you recycling my outfit, I'm cheap ". We have a good relationship, we're friends, I thought she'd take this in good humour. But no, she sent a massive paragraph saying I was disrespectful, that it was very bad show, it was rude and that if I didn't want to go I should have declined the invitation rather than turn up inappropriately dressed (her words).

I did want to go to both weddings, it wasn't remotely meant as a 'fuck you' to the couple getting married. I told my mum about it and she agreed with my cousin that it was inappropriate.

So now I'm doubting myself and worried that I've made a massive faux pas and that everyone hates me?

So, was I being unreasonable to recycle the outfit? I should say that I did use a different bag/ accessories for both weddings but the basic outfit was the same.

YANBU, the only way you could be was the first wedding was yours and you rocked up to the second in a full white dress and veil. In future I'da be wearing that jumpsuit to every occasion I attended with the nutter.

Talk about first world problems! Why would anyone care whether a wedding guest wore the same outfit to two different family weddings?? As long as she was dressed appropriately of course. YANBU!

Wow. Far from you being disrespectful I would say her email to you was the disrespectful bit of all this!

I've worn the same outfits to many weddings. No one cares/notices. And at my own wedding I was concerned with how I looked, not how my guests were dressed!

Your cousin is batshit crazy

I have a (beautiful) dress I have worn to about 4 weddings - different sets of people though 😂

Agree about the men wearing the same suits! What a load of bollocks - wasn't so long ago people had one set of good "Sunday best" clothes and kids would wear school uniform or guides/cubs uniforms to weddings.

World has gone bat shit crazy - there are people starving.

If this is all your cousin needs to worry about then she needs to get a grip, you've done nothing wrong! X

I think the twatty witch has been watching too many of those reality shows with the unfeasibly large.....budgets and people who can get something new every time.
Meanwhile, back in the real world, the rest of us wear what we have, maybe change the accessories a bit.
I don't remember what people wore to my wedding. Clothes, I expect. I think I'd have noticed if they hadn't.

Fucking good glue she's on. Get me some and post it would you?

To be fair. Same group of people, i wouldnt wear the same, but thats just me, im a clothes horse and any excuse for a new dress, but if it was someone at my wedding, i wouldnt find it rude if it was a recycled outfit, id just be happy they put the effort in to come

But for your cousin to mention it to you, is unbelievably rude

Was it from the point of a few weddings.....photos looking similar etc?

OPS cousin would have a field day with me. I have one blue dress that does weddings, christenings, parties, nice dinners etc

One black dress that does interviews, work and funerals

One green dress for parties and BBQ etc where a small amount of effort is required.

That's it. For the last 7 years

If she does ever get married..Do not under any circumstances accept to be a bridesmaid unless of course you start a thread on here..

She is a bridezilla in the making.

Tell her you thought the focus would/should be on the bride & groom (or groom & groom!).
Where can we all buy this fabulously versatile jumpsuit so we can have a MN meet up with all of us wearing it?!

My darling wife has just forked out an outrageous £35 for a SH silk dress via ebay .... For our nephews second wedding in three years.

YABR.

There is war and famine in the world?!
She needs to get a life / some perspective of this is a concern enough for her to write a paragraph about it.

Styling herself as a curator is hysterical.

Yanbu, I would have done the same.

I wish your cousin could see these replies!

I've been moved to comment by how nuts your cousin is! I have nothing original to add, but am so shocked anyone cares this much what someone else wears!

(My family still talk about how a family member's then bf came to a wedding in surf shorts and looked utterly ridiculous amongst the floral dresses and suits and champers on the hotel lawn! But they wouldn't have noticed that he wore the same pair on another occasion! It was the inappropriateness of the outfit, not how many times it had been worn!)

Wow. Just wow. Unbelievable behaviour. Her, not you!

Also, at my wedding, my best friend, who was also my maid of (dis)honour, bought a pink dress from a charity shop and was sewing up the hole in it the night before my wedding. Over several glasses of wine. I couldn't have cared less! It was fab.

When my friends first started getting married, my mother very kindly bought me a beautiful dress they I would not have been able to afford at the time. I wore that dress to nearly every wedding in the next few years; all the same people . It was affectionately referred to by my friends as MY wedding dress, and it was much mourned when I got rid of it.

My 'formal' wardrobe consists of a smart funeral / serious occasion frock and a smart wedding / happy occasion frock. Weddings are expensive enough anyway without spending a fortune on a one-off outfit for each one.

The only rude or inappropriate thing to wear is white ( but that seems old fashioned at a few weddings I've been too ) or going against the couples wishes I.e wearing a hat when they have said no hats etc.
I personally would have worn a different outfit if overlap of same guests or accessorised it differently at least. I'm cheap and wear charity shop or borrow posh clothes. But your mum and cousin are rude and v unreasonable
I didn't notice or care what people wore to my wedding

I went to 3 last year. One in June, one in July, and one I August wore the same dress for each. Can you imagine the RSVP?
'Sorry I'm going to have decline your invite as I have nothing to wear. Although I did have something to wear for everyone eles wedding. Just not yours'

Wow what a nasty attitude your cousin has!

If it had been me though, I would have got 3 different outfits if I was going to 3 weddings where everyone knew each other at all 3. (like the poster softkitty said further back in the thread.) You don't have to spend a lot to ensure that you have a different outfit for every one. That said, there is nothing wrong with wearing the same outfit at all 3, and the attitude of your cousin was laughable and ridiculous.

My friend had 4 (family) weddings in 2016, and actually got 4 different outfits: from Catalogue Surplus Shops, and New Life Stores. Total cost £66 the lot. Though she did only have 2 pairs of shoes for all 4.

That said, you committed no crime wearing the same outfit for all 3 weddings you went to, and yes, as many posters have said, men wear the same suit. You did nothing wrong OP, but I personally would have got a different outfit for each occasion. You can save on the cost by going to a Catalogue Surplus Shop, or a New Life Store, or even try Charity Shops. Like I said, my friend got all 4 of her outfits for £66.

That said though, you cousin sounds like a bitch. SO YANBU!

Can you imagine the RSVP?
'Sorry I'm going to have decline your invite as I have nothing to wear.Although I did have something to wear for everyone eles wedding. Just not yours'

Hee!