To think these women are arseholes?

[Flypaperforarseholes]

Spent the weekend away with a group of women (most of whom I don't know) for a friend's birthday.
10 of us in total, 2 of whom (including the Laura, whose birthday we were celebrating) I have been friends with for 10+ years.
Shared a twin with Nora, on Sunday morning, before going to breakfast, we packed ready to check out. I then stripped the beds and collected the used towels together.
We went down for breakfast and Laura laughingly asked if I'd stripped the beds yet. It is a bit of a standing joke amongst us because it's something I've always done in hotels. One of the other women, Paula, asked what it was about and I explained. She was quite taken aback and asked why I felt the need to do it/don't I like to relax etc. She drew it to the attention of the whole group and took to calling me Mrs Mop for the rest of the day. A bit irritating but didn't bother me really.
This evening, a message from Paula came up in the watsapp group which had been set up at the planning stage of the trip.
"Thank you for a lovely weekend, girls. Laura, do give me flypaperforarseholes number, good help is so hard to come by these days. LOL!"
A few laughter emojis and "LOL"'s from some of the other women. Nothing from Paula or Nora yet.
Am I BU to think these women are arseholes?! It hasn't bothered me massively, in large part due to the fact that I found Paula a pretentious bore of a woman and thus give a minimum of fucks about what she thinks of me but I'm surprised that this such a small thing seems to have become quite the focal point for her. I'm assuming she doesn't realise I'm on the group chat because I haven't actually messaged on it. These women are school mum friends of Lauras and I don't want her to get caught in the middle so haven't replied...yet.

And you would know because you have been a chambermaid where....

NavyandWhite:

Perfectly possible, although the comment reads rather like boasting about leaving a tip (hardly unusual!).

That's not the issue anyway. Why would it annoy anyone?

NavyAndWhite Do you think what filters down from that £500 a night to the chambermaids is much different to what filters down from a £50 a night Travelodge?
Rousette ok. But as an ex chambermaid and waitress myself, I have also said I DID find it helpful. How can having one less job to do throw your routine out? You walk into the room/suite, you see the stripped bed linen, you put it in the linen sack, you carry on with all the other jobs and the couple of minutes it would have taken you to strip the bed is now spare, so you move on to the next room quicker or have more time to do a thorough clean. Not sure how that is annoying

Crap is scraping and stacking plates poor etiquette. Crap crap crap. Sorry, but that is not true. There is nothing wrong with doing it, and nothing wrong with not doing it. It is poor etiquette to notice, and even poorer to comment.

FWIW, my wider family is v well connected (mum married 'down') and everyone scrapes and stacks. Every single blood relative I have does that, both at home and in restaurants - even the Barts, the Counts etc.

It is polite to clean up after yourself, so picking up food dropped by children is good, too. One does not make others' lives more difficult if one can avoid it.

NavyandWhite:

No-one is saying you should do it! Just that it is a nice thing to do.

NavyAndWhite the hotels I worked at didn't allow us to keep tips from the rooms. Room tips were shared out amongst all staff including the lazy bastard manager who spent his days jiggling his balls

We're all different. I used to walk in and first job would be remove rubbish, then strip bed and deal with it, then remake bed and clean. It just would not be in my routine and I'd be hunting around for the second pillowcase because they'd only taken off one, or they'd taken off the mattress protector too, and I had to put it back on, or they'd crumpled up the bed covering because they'd stripped the bed or or or... lots of reasons why I would have preferred to do it my way.

And plate scraping would have made me murderous

Want your money's worth, well people like you always do, and fair enough whatever makes you feel great and better than everyone else.

If I get to stay in a nice place I still have in my mind the people who are cleaning up my crap for me and possibly can't afford the room I'm in.

Some people get a power trip off that, each to their own.

OP you have obviously bleated and whined to Laura about her new friends, that is winding her up.

Laura's response is wildly OTT and unpleasant, especially this bit: 'I'd rather shit in my hands and clap than spend thousands on a fucking handbag. Mwah.' - that is aggressive.

HTH

There is a difference between a friend teasing you and someone you don't know taking the piss. This is the later. YANBU.

Laura won't min a school mum "frenemy" situation, she's a feisty little fecker when she's got the bit between her teeth

Wow, OP, I had said you were reasonable, but now I find it weird that you said in your OP that you don't want to get Laura the caught between in the middle of you and the school mum friends but now you're yes saying Laura is a 'feisty little fucker' and won't mind having school mum frenemies?

I think what is odd about this discussion is that so many posters think that being a chambermaid is one of the worst jobs on earth. The simple fact is, they chose to do the job. (And yes, of course, it might be that job or no job.) The fact people do some of their work for them is patronising because it shows you regard their job as shit so you decide to help them out. It's the same attitude as stacking plates. You are paying for service FFS! I don't see how feeling sorry for the people who work in service industries equates with doing their job for them when you are the client.

If they can't get staff to do it then they will have to increase the hourly rate of pay. So you are actually keeping wages down by your kindness rather than allowing market forces to dictate a fair wage.

Stop what, debating on a talk forum?

Okaaay...

Absolutely totally agree PollyPerky. When I was a lot younger I chambermaided. It did my head in, but I can't say it was shit. I moved on to waitressing, I got bored with that. I then worked behind the bar in pubs, great fun. I then got sensible and went for a career. It IS a choice. And I just wanted to get on and do the job my way without someone trying to help me out because they felt sorry for me. There was no need. I was quite capable and got good tips.

I think what is odd about this discussion is that so many posters think that being a chambermaid is one of the worst jobs on earth. The simple fact is, they chose to do the job. (And yes, of course, it might be that job or no job.)

My barmaid days were the happiest of my life. Far more so than most of the office shite I've done. Never had a weight problem or needed the gym either.

Too old and knackered for it now, of course.

Laura's message is rude and aggressive because it involves everyone, the majority of whom had no part in all the drama going on, and has an angry tone to it. Totally unnecessary. Way to ruin the atmosphere after a weekend away too. Why she couldn't have just told Paula to fuck off being rude, without getting a big fat audience, is beyond me.

I'd be out of that group pronto and I'm pretty rough.

That's ok, surely, according to some I am patronising and embarrassing, so I suggest you suck it up.