To think these women are arseholes?

[Flypaperforarseholes]

Spent the weekend away with a group of women (most of whom I don't know) for a friend's birthday.
10 of us in total, 2 of whom (including the Laura, whose birthday we were celebrating) I have been friends with for 10+ years.
Shared a twin with Nora, on Sunday morning, before going to breakfast, we packed ready to check out. I then stripped the beds and collected the used towels together.
We went down for breakfast and Laura laughingly asked if I'd stripped the beds yet. It is a bit of a standing joke amongst us because it's something I've always done in hotels. One of the other women, Paula, asked what it was about and I explained. She was quite taken aback and asked why I felt the need to do it/don't I like to relax etc. She drew it to the attention of the whole group and took to calling me Mrs Mop for the rest of the day. A bit irritating but didn't bother me really.
This evening, a message from Paula came up in the watsapp group which had been set up at the planning stage of the trip.
"Thank you for a lovely weekend, girls. Laura, do give me flypaperforarseholes number, good help is so hard to come by these days. LOL!"
A few laughter emojis and "LOL"'s from some of the other women. Nothing from Paula or Nora yet.
Am I BU to think these women are arseholes?! It hasn't bothered me massively, in large part due to the fact that I found Paula a pretentious bore of a woman and thus give a minimum of fucks about what she thinks of me but I'm surprised that this such a small thing seems to have become quite the focal point for her. I'm assuming she doesn't realise I'm on the group chat because I haven't actually messaged on it. These women are school mum friends of Lauras and I don't want her to get caught in the middle so haven't replied...yet.

It's about doing what is appropriate.

user1489179512:

Appropriate according to whom?

NavyandWhite:

I wouldn't dream of stripping someone else's bed. That is weird.

Weird to you, kind to others. I just imagine the smile on the face of the poor overworked minimum wage job slave that I don't even know or would ever likely meet and that makes me feel like a nice person. Fuck me, eh?

I think you agree with me then FerdinandsRevenge .

An incredible story.

I think the staff might have a bit of a laugh about paying guests who do these sorts of things.

No, believe me they don't.

As previously explained, I stack plates when eating out with my children, not when out for group dinners etc. Personally, I find people who leave plates/napkins/cutlery strewn all over the table rude. Even worse, people who stuff napkins in glasses/leave knives and forks resting in gravy/sauces to be fished out by the waiting staff. I've been a waitress and found people who stacked their plates properly helpful, not irritating. To each their own.
"Why would anyone do the work of hotel staff for them?" Erm, because chambermaids have a shit load to do in not very much time and the two minutes it takes me to strip the bed I've just slept in is worth it to me to know I may have made their day that tiny bit easier. As also previously stated, I wouldn't strip a strangers bed (wouldn't share a room with one) and wouldn't have stripped my friends bed if I thought it would make her uncomfortable - we have known each other a long time and it is accepted in the spirit it is intended, not as some sort of bloody power play!
NavyAndWhite well, God forbid anyone try to be helpful. How bloody awful and embarrassing I wouldn't be clearing your plate because you aren't one of my children. But, should you tell me to "sit still and leave them alone" like I was some sort of naughty child, you may find yourself with your plate in your lap.

How should one "behave properly", user? Perhaps by averting ones gaze from the ghastly sight of someone clearing up?
I don't do these things for praise or gratitude and I certainly don't stick around in the hope that the chambermaid will thank me for the small task of stripping a bed. I do it because I try to treat people how I would like to be treated and when I was a chambermaid, the stripped beds and rubbish in the bin went some way to making up for the rooms where people had excreted in the wastepaper basket and pissed the bed. (Yes, actually did happen). The stacked plates were a nice change to the customers who would leave food all over the floor, ketchup smeared on chairs and snotty tissues stuffed in the bottom of glasses.

Would you do the same if you were staying in a Gleneagles type hotel?!! Bet they would not see that sort of thing often - actually ever!!

user1489179512:

Isn't it sad to avoid doing something to be kind in case people laugh at you?

How can anyone judge that Laura has over reacted when no e of us, including me, know what was said by Paula and the other two women?! Talking of incredible, it seems incredible to me that anyone would think they can make a judgement on what the correct reaction is when they don't even know the exact cause.
Is it really that incredible to find a group of women being bitchy and making snide comments about someone they don't know? Judging by this thread, it seems really quite normal for some...

But as an ex chambermaid and waitress I've said before I don't find it at all helpful, in fact it throws me and puts me off my routine.

Of course I pick up rubbish and put in the bin but stripping the bed is annoying and odd. Ditto stacking plates.

*Would you do the same if you were staying in a Gleneagles type hotel?!! Bet they would not see that sort of thing often - actually ever!!"

Yes I would, I did on honeymoon, they still get shit pay wherever.

ithakabythesea not sure how I've wound anyone up, could you help me out with that bit? And if you'd be so kind as to signpost me to Lauras "aggression", I'd be very grateful

Ruddy drama

Just mind you strip those crumpled sheets off the bed afterwards!!!!!

NavyandWhite:

We don't need to know the amount! The chambermaids are paid minimum wage irrespective of how thoroughly you got rogered by the owner

No, seriously, no-one expects you to do it. I just don't understand why it would irritate you for someone else to do it.

I haven't read the whole thread yet but I used to work as a chambermaid and I am forever grateful to those kind people who stripped their beds