To think these women are arseholes?

[Flypaperforarseholes]

Spent the weekend away with a group of women (most of whom I don't know) for a friend's birthday.
10 of us in total, 2 of whom (including the Laura, whose birthday we were celebrating) I have been friends with for 10+ years.
Shared a twin with Nora, on Sunday morning, before going to breakfast, we packed ready to check out. I then stripped the beds and collected the used towels together.
We went down for breakfast and Laura laughingly asked if I'd stripped the beds yet. It is a bit of a standing joke amongst us because it's something I've always done in hotels. One of the other women, Paula, asked what it was about and I explained. She was quite taken aback and asked why I felt the need to do it/don't I like to relax etc. She drew it to the attention of the whole group and took to calling me Mrs Mop for the rest of the day. A bit irritating but didn't bother me really.
This evening, a message from Paula came up in the watsapp group which had been set up at the planning stage of the trip.
"Thank you for a lovely weekend, girls. Laura, do give me flypaperforarseholes number, good help is so hard to come by these days. LOL!"
A few laughter emojis and "LOL"'s from some of the other women. Nothing from Paula or Nora yet.
Am I BU to think these women are arseholes?! It hasn't bothered me massively, in large part due to the fact that I found Paula a pretentious bore of a woman and thus give a minimum of fucks about what she thinks of me but I'm surprised that this such a small thing seems to have become quite the focal point for her. I'm assuming she doesn't realise I'm on the group chat because I haven't actually messaged on it. These women are school mum friends of Lauras and I don't want her to get caught in the middle so haven't replied...yet.

I think it's irksome of them to make someone they don't know very well the butt of their jokes. There is a class implication IMO as well. It doesn't necessarily make them arseholes, but a bit dull and tiresome.

I've worked as a waitress and would never scrape a plate at the table in front of my fellow diners. That is just beyond gross.

There are lots of posts already explaining why the plate scraping is irritating.

I absolutely hate it when there's a plate scraper/stacker at the table. Was sure if I was BU or not but now I see I'm right

Because it's gross to look at mixed-up food gristle being scraped around. Because it looks like playing mother which is not what I'm looking for in an evening out (unless, I suppose, I'm with my actual mother). Because it makes the underside of plates dirty and greasy which can make them slippier to hold and/or harder to wash. Because wait staff have their own techniques to carry plates and your method will probably just annoy them. And because nobody actually behaves like this in real life, and so it's mildly embarrassing to be with someone who doesn't know how to behave.

Why is plate scraping irritating?

Well, the noise of it for a start!

And then the sight of half eaten unwanted bits of food jumbled up together. Just sitting there in a nasty pile until the waiter comes to take it away. It's like those gross leftover trays at school dinners that were taken away for pig food.

Yeuck!

I think she was mean.

If I had have been sharing a room with you, though, and you stripped my bed you would have made me feel very uncomfortable.

But yer lady in the OP sounds rude, agreed.

If I had have been sharing a room with you, though, and you stripped my bed you would have made me feel very uncomfortable

^This

Please don't tell me you stripped your friend's bed too?

I would be >>

It would be like sharing with my Mother. As would scraping the plates

Whaaaaat? Why would anyone do the work of hotel staff for them? Why on earth would you strip the bed when you are paying for the room?

Oh for god's sake, because it's kind.

If I have 5 minutes to spare waiting for a taxi I do it. I don't think it's something that the OP should have been ridiculed about.

Plate scraping???? Noooooo.

The plates are carried from the table by the staff!! Anyhow, it is poor etiquette to scrape - horrible word - the plates at the table. Any table. As for doing it in a hotel or restaurant, that shows one doesn't know how to behave properly.

Kind?!? Wow.
It's embarrassing.

Embarrassing? Wow.

When my dcs were little I'd stack the plates so they were out of the way and the dcs could have a toy to amuse themselves.
I strip the bed I slept in if I've stayed at a friend's house.

user1489179512:

What's embarrassing about taking the bed linen off?

It shows you do not know what is correct behaviour.

user1489179512:

Says who?

Paula was rude. Laura has over reacted.

Plate piling and scraping is vile and unhelpful (Used to be a waitress) and bed striping in a hotel is not something I would do. I used to be a chambermaid as well and a stripped bed made me lose my stride and also wonder what horrors lurked within. At least if the horrors were still on the bed I could be prepared!

If I'm staying in a hotel I'm either having a lovely time away with DH (rare) and I want to pretend I live in luxury for a bit or I am on my way somewhere with the children in which case getting all of us up and out and on our way is enough to be dealing with and thus I won't be stripping those beds either.
If I'm out for a meal I REALLY don't want a pile of plates lurking. Plus as a waitress I hated stacked plates as a) I was supposed to do the clearing in a certain way or the boss had a do and b) the underside was then all bleugh and meant I got congealed yusk all over my fingers when putting in the dishwasher.
Stop stacking the plates!

If it's not "correct behaviour" to be kind, then fuck correct behaviour.

What makes you think I'm troll hunting op? I'm just saying it's quite an incredible story. Which it is, isn't it? Or does this sort of thing happen quite often in your life?

Yes, but, you don't write about the boring shit do you? You write about the incredible ridiculous shit that happens. Which does happen every day just not to everyone all the time.