Could you share your husband?

[Writerwannabe83]

I'm watching a documentary about Mormons and it focuses on men being able to have more than one wife. I watched an episode last week too so I imagine it's an ongoing series.

Anyway, I always thought that the family set-up was one that all parties were happy with but in both episodes I've seen the families certainly aren't harmonious with some of the wives being jealous, resentful and appearing to not like the other wives. It all just seems very awkward and unhappy at times with some wives overtly displaying their anger and frustrations to the husband and I'm genuinely shocked.

I assumed it is done for religious/cultural reasons hence why I thought the women were happy to be one of many wives because they had a belief that it's the right way to live, but it appears they aren't all comgortable with it.

I'm just so surprised that some of the wives aren't happy with their way of life because I genuinely believed that the women were just as willing participants in the bigamy as the men were.

Is anyone else watching it?

[IAmNotAWitch]

Only if I get to choose the other wives.

I would quite like some sister wives.

[TheFlis12345]

I saw part of the show and just really wanted to know how he supported 3 families, each with their own large house, by working as a postman! missespoint.

[TulipsInAJug]

I did a lot of reading about polygamy in Mormon communities and never once came across a family in which the wives weren't jealous, frustrated, resentful and unhappy.

Meanwhile the man gets to revere in 3 or 4 women fighting over him. (but he never gets a break, it can't all be good).

I once read about a polyandrous community in rural China where there just aren't enough women to go around. This woman had 3 husbands. She never got a break. Women can't win.

[AdoraBell]

Nope. He's mine. I have a receipt and everything.

[SleepFreeZone]

I think it's easy to say you could share your OH but in practise I would absolutely hate the emotional side of him having special conversations, in jokes, intimacy etc with someone else. It wouldn't be the sex so much as the emotional connection. I'd want to rip her head off (unless of course I too could shag a variety of men and then I might feel better about it all 😂)

[gillybeanz]

Polygamy refers to the practice of having more than one spouse. Polyandry refers to one woman with multiple husbands. Polygamy refers to the practice of having more than one spouse. ... polygamy is the concept of more than one spouse at the same time, while, polygyny is an example in which a man has more than one wife.

This quick search should make it crystal clear

[honeyroar]

I find it all very weird. And no I couldn't share my husband or live in such big families. They keep describing each other as sassy women, and I keep thinking I've never seen less sassy women in my life.

I find myself wondering what happens to all the boys in that culture. If a rough split of boys and girls are born, and men marry more than one girl, then surely that leaves a lot of boys/men with nobody to marry within the community?

There was a programme I watched while in the USA about women that had escaped from that culture and we're trying to sneak back in to persuade sisters to leave too. That was quite eye opening.

[maddiemookins16mum]

I couldn't share any "husband/wife"...How could I lie in bed "thinking" about how they cuddled, stroked etc. Call be "old bloody fashioned" but..... a man and wife are a couple. That is all.

[expatinscotland]

'I saw part of the show and just really wanted to know how he supported 3 families, each with their own large house, by working as a postman! missespoint.'

They are only legally married to one woman, usually the first wife. So the other wives claim benefits as a lone parent (contrary to what you believe, there are benefits in the US and in some states they can be quite generous). They work cash in hand, too. And they sets up their communities as a 'church' (churches are charities as they are here) and get out of paying a lot of taxes normal people pay.

[CoolCarrie]

No way!
Can't stand these bloody moron Mormons, all that sister wife shit, the way they treat anyone who tries to get away, expelling men who don't want to let their daughters marry elderly men, it's a bloody cult
Read ' Under The Banner Of Heaven' and the many other books about these fundamental misogyny

[amysmummy12345]

Does Donny Osmond have many wives? I'd be up for that misses point entirely

[expatinscotland]

'I find myself wondering what happens to all the boys in that culture. '

A lot of abuse. Lots of charities support kids trying to leave these communities and many of the young men have stunning tales to tell.

[thisagain]

No I don't want to share him. He is a selfish twat and they are welcome to him.

[Viviennemary]

I used to watch My Four Wives and at first I thought well I suppose there are some advantages. But it causes a lot of unhappiness and the wives try so hard not to be jealous of each other and need therapy. What's the point of that. And the men are hardly the ones most women would be forming an orderly queue to be married to. (They'd run for the hills.

[LellyMcKelly]

They can have him. Mind you, he's gay, so he probably wouldn't want them!

[Philoslothy]

I haven't watched the programme. Sexually I could not share my husband but in other ways I could and in a way I have done/ do.

He has a child from his former marriage and we have holidayed together, looked after each other's children, has evenings out together etc and I have enjoyed that feeling of an extended family and female companionship .

[expatinscotland]

'Does Donny Osmond have many wives? I'd be up for that misses point entirely'

NO, because these polygamists are NOT recognised by the Mormon church. They call themselves 'fundamentalist Mormons' but they're really just . . . a cult. Real Mormons have only one spouse, polygamy was banned by the Mormon church in the 19th century.

[Astro55]

*Today 22:14 doublesnap

With pleasure, they could have him for 99% of the time as long as I had the 1% when the bins need emptying

LOL

[BarbarianMum]

Some years ago I lived in a village in Nigeria where polygamy was commonly practised. Trust me, the relationships bw the wives were cold at best and often antagonistic. I never met a first wife who was happy at the arrival of number 2.

[Butterymuffin]

So basically the subsequent wives are forced to be reliant on benefits? Makes not wonder how churches and conservative groups can defend it when otherwise they'd be denouncing it as scamming the state.

[Herschellmum]

Ok, can I just clarify something please, because this is getting further and further from fact.

MORMONS DO NOT HAVE MORE THAN ONE WIFE.

If they did they would be ex-communicated.

However, there is a group who call themselves something like fundamental Mormons or reformed Mormons or whatever group they want to set up to practice political practices. There is a few break away groups, all with different ideas and all broke away from the original church when it ended polygamous marriages in the 1800s.

So no, Donny only has one wife, and all The Osborne's. 😀

Polygamy is illegal, they legally marry one wife but the others aren't legal marriages.

[EleanorRigbysNeice]

First husband, yes. Although I didn't know it, at the time.
My second husband of 12 years...No! Not ever.

[BarbarianMum]

《I'm wondering what happens to all the boys in that culture 》

In the "not really mormon" culture all but the chosen few are forced out, usually age 14/15. They literally end up abandoned on the street.

[Whatthefoxgoingon]

It's bizarre. The husband is constantly trying to keep them all happy (and failing) and it seems mega stressful all around.

No way would I share my husband, I would love to spend more time with him, not less!

[PennyPickle]

You don't love this man

Haha! You know that for certain - right? He has his good points for sure. But yes I could share him. Even if its for my own space from time to time. We both work hard all day. We are all entitled to some down time when we don't have to deal with adult children, are we not?