To think that Mothers Day is just a way of confirming how under appreciated we actually are?

[Flumpernickel]

To all those having a shite day so far and feeling even more acutely that no one actually cares.

According to some other threads here, we are all just grabby and entitled. Lets just don pinny's , cook the dinner and meekly continue our motherly duties with a fixed smile (a la fifties housewife) from now on ladies. How very dare we expect our nearest and dearest to just appreciate us enough to make a cuppa for one day?

My husband brings me tea and coffee in bed most weekends

I don't know whether you want me to be impressed or envious of you, Lass

Neither. I think it is sad so many of you seem to have such unequal relationship that this one Hallmark card sponsored day ( which is what it is; despite what its origins) has to mean so much.

According to some other threads here, we are all just grabby and entitled. Lets just don pinny's , cook the dinner and meekly continue our motherly duties with a fixed smile (a la fifties housewife) from now on ladies. How very dare we expect our nearest and dearest to just appreciate us enough to make a cuppa for one day?

I don't think that at all. I I do think you (general ypu) might want to explore your (general your) family dynamics as to why both partners are not taking turns to do nice things for each other 365 days per year.

Is it even possible to have an equal relationship with your children? I've always expected it to be far more give than take.

Is it too late to bake a cake, so everyone is great from PIL with freshly baked cake cos I love them so much. Ooh extra icing on DH's bit as he did help me conceive my little angels. Sprinkles and a nice cake stand, best iron my Cath Kitson pinny.

I went out. Returned to find DH had cooked lunch. We had a lovely 45minutes....until DC decided to keep elbowing me in the baby bump, decided to collect her spit in a toy cup and tip it out on the sofa when asked not to, told me I was going to die and then I realised she had nicked bobbles clips, general detritus I was keeping safe and coins out of something in my bedroom (this morning when DH was watching her after she had thumped me in the head) and has lost them. So the rest of my mother's day will be spent in my room with a book. What a shit. I can hear her putting stuff down the back of the radiator downstairs......DH is on xbox. I don't give a shit if I sound grabby, today has been fookin shite on top of a shite week.

I love her really by the way

Is it even possible to have an equal relationship with your children? I've always expected it to be far more give than take

I was referring to one's partner , which was obvious, although it could equally apply to teenage children.

If you are happy martyring yourself to the extent that getting a cup of tea made for you one day a year on Mother's day is an acceptable price that's your choice.

Otherwise you might like to consider what is so bizarre about the suggestion family members might do random acts of kindness any day just because it's a nice thing to do.


Hmm. I don't actually tie up much of my self-worth in my parenting - I'm not a particularly good parent, it must be said, but nor do I spend much of my time doing housework or feeling martyred either.

I am generally spoiled by dh on a pretty much regular basis

He did however ruin mothers day for me last year so he is a bit paranoid today

I domt ask for much though, a card from the kids and a chilled day...for me

I am sorry for all those having a bad day

It depends. I had a 10K race this morning so no lie in but I got a card and choccies and DH is getting an Indian takeaway for dinner so I'm fine and not feeling under appreciated. DD is very affectionate and proud of the card she made for me so I hope it lasts till the dreaded teenage years.

Just got a message saying dh had painted our living room as he knew I wanted it done and is makimg my favourite tea as well as dessert.

I forgive him now for making fuck all effort this morning for the little one at least he tried to put it right.

My sympathies. We don't want 'things' we want a bit of their time. My daughter bought me a card, flowers (the ones I hate but hey ho) and some garden vouchers (thoughtful) but didn't turn up at lunchtime like she said she would and arrived home at 3:30 to say she couldn't stay long and left at 4 after going upstairs to collect some clothes and do her makeup. Saw her for all of 5 minutes. I was gutted. I do so much for her (she still lives at home). Texted her after she had left to say that I was hurt and had expected her at lunchtime so we could have a bit of time together (I even did lunch for us). She just said sorry - no explanation and said I was being a bit immature. Perhaps I was but I just felt she needed to know how I felt as she certainly lets me know if she isn't happy about stuff. Oh by the way she borrowed the money to buy my stuff because she has blown all her salary! Sob. 😫

Mother's Day, the gift that keeps on giving: the result of 'D'H doing the childcare yesterday morning and then me refusing to do any chores in the afternoon/evening means I have to spend half of today clearing u all the mess they made! Clothes on the floor, toys everywhere, all mixed up with other things. New games DD just got for her birthday with pieces scattered everywhere.

God it's depressing.

I feel sorry for you ladies that didn't get anything yesterday from your children (those who would need OH's assistance).

I always make sure that our son gets something nice for his mum and I help him choose. I also make a coffee and breakfast in bed, which I do a fair bit anyway. On top of that, I will do her housework for the day so that she can just lie back and relax.

As other people have said though, it should be a year long thing. If my DP is stressed with work, upset or on her period, then I will make the dinner, run her a bath, and get a hot water bottle to take up to bed, so that can relax and calm herself. Apologies for all the rubbish men out there!

Flowers to all of you that didn't get the attention and thanks you deserve!!

mitel1 you sound like a good husband, and very much like mine!

I didn't lift a finger on Mother's Day, breakfast in bed, card, chocs, flowers and jewellery were presented (from DC, courtesy of DH of course) and I had a child free dinner out after spending the day with DC at my mums. MN is full of women with astonishingly bad partners, but thankfully IRL, I find men are a lot more reasonable!