To think that Mothers Day is just a way of confirming how under appreciated we actually are?

[Flumpernickel]

To all those having a shite day so far and feeling even more acutely that no one actually cares.

kingscross

HTH.

I got a card I can't complain, but then I saw him take his Mum a hamper and flowers. This card I can't figure out whether they saw it and liked it or whether it's a dig.

My first Mother's Day today. DD is ten months old. My 'D'h chose to do overtime today so was up and out at 5am and won't be back until after 8pm.

We took his mum out for lunch yesterday. She decided to wait until I was in the toilet to tell my DSD that she's going to have a second baby sister.

I'm at my mum's. I can't even be bothered to eat the chocolate I bought myself because it was on special offer.

That's what totally fucks me off. When they buy lovely things for their Mum; treat her beautifully; etc etc and then are verbally abusive twats at home/when they know no one is looking.

Mine is being awful today but I bet he'll be astounding to his Mum.

Kings cross- apt name! Leave the poor girl alone. You'd feel pretty bad if your birthday wasn't marked in some way. Just because you don't believe in mothers day, doesn't mean other people can't feel sad about it

Kings you are aggressive

Awww, there are some really cruddy tales here! Sending loads of to each and every one of you! Gawd... I wish I had bloody cake now! Might go make some banana bread...

Add me to this, shit day so far.

Last Father's Day (and all of the ones before it) I had a table full of personalised photo mugs, cards from all the dc (including step dc) and presents.

Because I thought it was important he had a nice day for some infathomable reason.

I usually get a generic card and frantic shop bought gift (dc's are too young to get their own)

This year I got a big fat nothing. Not even a 'happy Mothers day'. He knew it was because he was sat writing his own mums card!

I don't think it's just this one day though. I think this is a symbol of a relationship where I'm putting in more effort than I ever get back.

I've decided not to anymore.

As far as I'm aware, having a penis isn't a legitimate excuse to be a useless, selfish arse. And is an insult to all others who aren't useless or selfish l.

Oh and I told his dm why I'm not dropping off his card and present to her as I usually have to.

He can take it his flipping self.

I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself.

Ds (4) gave me a card that he made at school. He'd remembered that his teacher had told him to give it to me on Sunday. It was so lovely and I loved that he remembered to give it to me.

Dh still in bed until an hour ago. Phoned his dm to wish her happy Mother's Day and bask in the satisfaction of her being happy with the flowers and card I'd had delivered to her. No comment to me, just 'what are we doing today? You'll need to go to he shops there's nothing for tea'.

I don't know, it just makes me sad that a 4 year old can be more thoughtful than my dh.

Kings you are aggressive. Of course. Let's overlook the bit where the OP personally insulted me by calling me a twit. Just focus on my response.

I'm not the one who needs the biscuit.

Dd4 who has autism, had made me something at nursery though bless her, so that was lovely.

Just made me fume internally when she said 'sorry I had no X' (she had no card to put an x in)

I am so sad for my best friend today too, It is her first mothers day without her lovely mum, her teen kids are not there until much later on today and she had to make herself a cuppa this morning too because her fella didnt get up to make her one.

KingsCross I'm going sort out these issues trust me. But are we wrong or am I wrong looking at the massive ass hamper & flowers for MIL and then looking at my card, with even my request for milk being ignored. Just one day of the year, just one, can't I expect something?

He spent well of £100 on his Mum, more than £150 from my nosing at it. I can't even get a £ bottle of milk. Maybe I'm greedy expecting 4 litres.

Kingscross your first post was mean, that's why we are focusing on your posts. Chill out be nice

Kingscross, read your first post back. It was "rude and insulting", thats why I called you a judgey twit. You could have made the opposing point without all that venomous nonsense about self pity.

Kings cross- apt name! Leave the poor girl alone. You'd feel pretty bad if your birthday wasn't marked in some way. Just because you don't believe in mothers day, doesn't mean other people can't feel sad about it. You are right. But when someone posts and asks for opinions I don't really feel it's appropriate for them to then personally insult someone simply for having a different opinion.

I genuinely don't care, I don't like to read posts where people are feeling shit about a day, but it is just a day. Some people (and again I am not refrpering to the op, just as I was not referring to the op when I first responeded) just like to feel sorry for themselves. There is much much more to life and being a parent than a manufactured day.

Sorry, I don't see my first post as being mean. I HAVE read lots of self pitying posts this morning. As I said, I wasn't even meaning the OP, in fact when I wrote that I thought the OP was posting it generally to people having a shit day, rather than about her also having a shit day. It certainly wansnt meant to be rude or offensive, it was just my thoughts, I don't know how to dress a list up all pretty and sugary to make it look better, all I meant was that people shouldn't focus on the day and should focus on the kids.

He spent well of £100 on his Mum

Why just why are we doing this? Any of it? People have nothing....no shoes , no roof over their heads and no food. I'm talking 5 minutes from where I live.

The whole lot is bollocks.....Mothers day, Fathers day ,Grandparents day,auntie day, Egg day, buy shite and drink day AKA Christmas.

to everyone. Mine is significantly better this year after the total fail last year and my subsequent tears. My DP thinks it's total guff but I think it's a perfect opportunity to teach DC about appreciating what others do for them- including him!

If it makes people feel happy and loved and appreciated, which for lots of mums it does, then it is a good thing. Manufactured or not. Whilst we're at it why not let's get rid of Christmas too. Is that too manufactured for you as well?

There is much much more to life and being a parent than a manufactured day

kings is quite right and I agree with her.

Yes, it's just a day. But it's a day that focuses how shit all the rest of the days are for some people.

I made a big deal of Mother's Day for DW the first couple of years (nice breakfast, card, present, meal, etc.) but soon realised she wasn't going to do the same for Father's Day ("Here's your card. I'm off back to bed"), so I don't bother any more.

yes great idea re get rid of Christmas