To think that Mothers Day is just a way of confirming how under appreciated we actually are?

[Flumpernickel]

To all those having a shite day so far and feeling even more acutely that no one actually cares.

even!!

Also and a have some for later.

I'm as invisible to my family as I am to everyone else. The depression is winning today.

If you are underappreciated that's an all year problem not just on mothers day.

Actually, it isn't always.

I know I'm appreciated and loved. That's not the point. For me the point is my husband has let me down and for him that's very unusual and it hurts. I don't feel under-appreciated all year long by any stretch of the imagination.

Imsorry? That's merely to show all the cynics out there how mothers day is a force for the positive for some people. It just seems a bit mean and curmudgeonly to put it down simply cos you don't believe in it. To all those mothers put there who feel sad and under appreciated

Out there

Ok positive note:

Tomorrow. All the flowers/cuddlys/chocolate/other crap in the shops will be cheaper.

I love filling my house with cut price flowers 😄

Buy your own stuff just because and stick two fingers up to everyone else

Shit day here too. Tears from me most of the morning. Heavily pregnant, been caring for dc1 who has the pox all week, not left the house in days. DH stayed up til 2am this morning, woke me up when he came to bed, DC woke in the night three times, I went to her all three times as he always does a half arsed job and never settles her and he was 'tired (!)'. Woke up this morning to a bowl of granola, a card he had written that morning whilst getting my granola and five chocolates. Of which I obviously had to share with DC. DC seems to be feeling better as she has been a little shit, thumped me over the head, called me names and refuses to apologise and doesn't want to 'be friends'. DH and DC only just got out of bed, still in pyjamas and obviously we are unable to leave the house. Well fuck that. I am going out on my own! Feel utterly fucking shite and pretty under appreciated.
Women you are all badass. Luckily we don't need flowers and kindness to know this (but it'd be nice all the same sob sob sob).

I really don't get all the anger at kings post? She wasn't being mean, just disagreeing.

Have to say though, "judgy twit" REALLY made me laugh!

Well, I enjoy it. I got the converse I've been eyeing and flowers and choccies and a card, will be going to my lovely mums later with all the family and the 16 of us and four generations will enjoy it together. But I can see how crap it is for some who aren't treated and appreciated and those who've lost someone and thats awful, but don't generalise. It can be as hallmark as they want imo - always nice to show you love someone and people to show you they love you, I can't complain at a day dedicated to loving!

My son isn't home from exs yet, the one inside me kept me up every hour last night and OH was night shift so he's in bed. Christ even the cats don't want a cuddle just now.

I've not recieved a card, gift or simple "happy mothers day". However, I did come down stairs to find OH had hung up the washing when he came home at 6am. The same washing I planned to hang up yesterday but became too tired to do as I sat up till 3am finishing work due next week before mat leave starts.

On valentines day I spent the day eating a family meal while DS begrudged his Harvester chicken strips as they weren't the same as TGIs (which was far too busy) and went to see Lego Batman.

Neither of the days are particularly sentimental or overly thoughout in our house. I'm just grateful to spend it with my family and know they're safe, healthy and love me.

I genuinely do wonder how many people would feel if next year the likes of mother's/father's/valentine's day were cancelled. Would they still feel under appreciated because they didn't get gifts/have a special day or would they not bother? If it is the former then surely other things need looked at, unfortunately.

*thought out

Tbf, if I was gonna be mean I'd have just gone the whole hog and said judgy twat 😂

We're all adults, grown ups erm...allowed to swear!

I'm spending the next two hours watching a man clear out my garage and attic. Such a lovely Mother's Day present.

I also have found my people.

DH and 1 DC are not here this weekend but this year she has remembered to leave me a card and might call me later. Last year she told me she had bought a card but it never materalised (she doesn't live at home during term time)
DC2 is at home and after an epic fail last year where she was a moody stroppy teenager, this year I have a card and a present (small an appropriate) no breakfast in bed but then she makes an appalling cup of tea and I wasn't ready for breakfast so no complaints I am sure she will help with cooking the dinner later. She is also spending the day with me, visiting my DP although this may be because her BF is busy with his DM but I'll take what I can get as there will be no DC at home next year unless Mother's Day falls in the Easter Hols.

Last year I had a go at DH for not organising the DC and he pointed out to me that they were old enough to decide themselves, so we didn't mark Father's Day either. It was hit and miss when they were smaller too, especially in the years after they stopped making cards at nursery/school but were really too young to go to the shops themselves. Some years he bothered, some years he didn't, he was actually better on the years when he knew he would be working away as then he could delegate the job to my mum!

Over the years I've grown a thick skin and when nothing happens it bounces off me, if I am treated there will not be any gushing on FaceBook. For me my own DM is near and great so I will treat her instead.

You do know Mothers Day actually has fuck all to do with Mothers right? Those on their high horse saying it's just another shitty Clintons Day. So get your facts right before you spout such rubbish.

Ahem

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother's_Day

Sorry meant to add the bit about Mothering Sunday too

Mothering Sunday is a holiday celebrated by Catholic and Protestant Christians in some parts of Europe. It falls on the fourth Sunday in Lent, exactly three weeks before Easter. (For Orthodox Christians in Europe and elsewhere, the fourth Sunday in Lent remembers St. John of the Ladder (St. John Climacus).) Once observed as a day on which people would visit their "mother" church, it has become an occasion for honouring the mothers of children and giving them presents.[1]. It is increasingly being called Mothers' Day, although that has always been a secular event quite different from the original Mothering Sunday.[1] In the UK and Ireland, Mothering Sunday is celebrated in the same way as Mothers' Day is celebrated elsewhere.

You do know Mothers Day actually has fuck all to do with Mothers right?

Huh?

Get your facts right before you spout off such rubbish please.

pencil, i remember you from that other thread ( which turned out to be fake i think) but it hi lighted how someone being missing is so hard to live with - i feel for you today.
My own mum isnt around for mothers day ( she died years ago) my dh is away on business trip, so he wont see his mum either, but life hasnt come to an end - you have to make the most of it. My two sent me a card and i'm happy with that! Its not always about the presents and so on, people can care and love you withouthaving to buy loads of presents. Being not appreciated is another matter though.

Fairy was likely referring to the original 'mothering Sunday' however I don't know a single person, religious or not who equates those solely with the religious meaning.

Anyhoo. Facts 😜

'You do know that Mothers Day actually has fuck all to do with Mothers right?'

Put the bottle down love its only 12pm!

LMAO ^^

My day started with DH asking me to make him a coffee. When I responded "Hang on, it's mothers' day.", he replied that he'd forgotten I'm quite baffled how anyone could forget, with all the adverts, social media mentions and shop displays over the past month. But he made me a coffee, at least...

I would have been delighted with a homemade card and breakfast in bed. The DDs are old enough to sort that out themselves, but they forgot too. They didn't get up until about 10. When DH reminded them they wished me Happy Mothers Day and then went off to play games on their phones.

Later when I asked the DDs to help with a very quick job around the house they grumbled and whinged.

I'm looking forward to seeing my Mum later, though.

Sorry it all got a bit shouty here!

My mother died a year ago and I miss her. My children are spending the day with their Dad (as they have often done on mothers day). I hope I might get some cards later. All I have to do today is clean the house (which is why I'm still in bed at lunchtime).

Be grateful for small mercies? And that you have people who love you however imperfectly? Love to all mums. x

It's sad that so many are made to feel unappreciated.
Go and do something that cheers you up. Go out with your dcs and tell them you're going out because it's Mother's Day. Make a cake with them. Paint a picture. Watch a movie with chocolates. Whatever you like.
Set a precedent for future Mother's Day, if it means something to you.

I have a dh who's not really into all this. He works really hard, does his fair share and I don't feel unappreciated but this year I bought my own card and chocs as he hadn't bothered by yesterday evening. I gave them to him to sort out with the kids so they'd have something to give to me.
They were so happy handing over a card and chocolates and gave me huge cuddles.
It would have been nice if dh had bothered himself but it was more for the dcs benefit than anyone else's so I'm glad I did it.