To accept never having a job

[11122aa]

Hi. I've posted a few threads before but is it normal to accept you never have a job Due medical Reasons. I'm at uni doing law but a I'm finding the course hard and b I know I'll never get a job afterwards as I have autisum and dyspraxia and also mental health issues. I'd never cope with a full time job and I can't imagine I'm a suitable candidate for a part time shop job..

So it's your parents who are controlling what you do and whether you work or not?

It seems like you have an excuse for everything and a self-fulfilling prophecy so why are you asking MN for advice?

You mention how you wouldn't enjoy writing or making websites etc well welcome to the real world! How many people do you think actually ENJOY their jobs? Not many!

I agree with others that there will be something you can do and that the major part of your problem is your attitude.

The amount of people who have told me I should just go on benefits, that I'd get loads on disability allowence etc because I have bipolar disorder is pretty disgusting. You may feel like working is not an option for you but there have been some very good suggestions on here that you have dismissed very readily. It seems like you don't actually want to work and have come here looking for people to support your belief that you cannot work.

Not sure there any car boot. Sales. Rellay near me plus I have nothing to sell there. Or a car to. Sell. Stuff. From..

My parrents always manage to presuade people that I'm the problem.not them. I'm. Just waiting till I'm 40-50 and he dies then I will have a life.

I told student support and careers but their useless and have no specialised advice. I suspect I'll be too qualified for a job delivering leaflets or similarly stress free. Really. I shouldn't have gone uni but I had no other choice If I wanted to. Leave the house at least some times. When I was expelled from. My. Sixth form I had six months of leaving only 1-2 days per. Month on average.

I know that of I get a job it only end in me getting sacked after a while.. I hate the high and lows.. I'd rather cur out the highs as then the lows are not painful.. I wish through they were jobs like data. Inputting which I could do at home but there ain't..

Maybe I could write a novel but it Wouldn't be very good, I simply don't know. Human's enough to write characters very well.

If you want to work towards living independently, as it sounds like you're unhappy with your family, work would be really good, and voluntary work a good way to try things, and you could always investigate benefits etc.

You don't yet know how you'd find a job: why assume you'll be sacked?

And yes, minimum wage, zero - hours work might be a good start it's all still money in the bank. You don't need your parents' permission to work.

I don't thibk I could. Cope living. Independently. I can't even do some basic. Tasks. My parrents think I wouldn't cope in a charity shop so they are plotting to stop me doing that..

I do need my parrents permission to work. Otherwise I won't be able. To. Get. There.. They just won't let me out and have got the police and. Social. Services. Presuaded..

You don't need their permission to do voluntary work, you just need to be able to get yourself there and back.

Some areas have supported living schemes. You could look into any local services relevant to you.

There are also charities that might be able to advise you on work things.

I doubt, if you've attended school and then uni, police and social services would say it's OK for your parents to prevent you going out to a voluntary job.

😳
Starting to sound somewhat weird to me
.

If you can complete a law degree you can get a job. I have all the problems you listed (was institutionalized too) but I've still managed to hold a job. Remember that office work is often very flexible. You can work from home, part time, on a contract basis etc & a lot of companies take mental health really seriously. You will get reasonable adjustments made to your job.

Can you stop putting unnecessary full stops in your posts. It doesn't add to the drama and given you were perfectly able to write a coherent op, it just comes across as attention seeking.

There has been lots of advice on this thread which you are choosing to ignore, so I'm afraid you'll just have to wait for them to die like you suggested.

Why were you expelled from sixth form?

Of course you will be able to do something. You write competently and can cope in uni. It might not be something you really enjoy but loads of people do jobs that they dont like.

I'm at uni doing law

No mean feat! I didn't go to uni and I have never been out of work - I never expected to be out of work even without a degree. The fact that you ARE going to uni and doing law is a great thing and means you must be pretty intelligent. So getting a job should be within your remit too.

I'm finding the course hard

I imagine most of your fellow students do too. Law is a respected degree BECAUSE it's hard. Get any guidance you need from the uni. Keep at it.

I know I'll never get a job afterwards as I have autisum and dyspraxia and also mental health issues

Sounds like catastrophizing to me! How do you KNOW this, exactly?
How do you explain the people who have these issues and other challenges besides who all have jobs?

I'd never cope with a full time job and I can't imagine I'm a suitable candidate for a part time shop job

Again, you seem to think you have the gift of prophecy. Where on earth are you getting these ideas from?

Your problem sounds to me like (1) lack of confidence - look at getting some CBT or whatever chimes with you (2) forget about the future for now - invest your energies in your law degree (3) get biographies and movies about real-life people who've overcome all sorts of odds to make it.

You are young and smart. Don't throw away your opportunities on fear of the future. Just keep taking the next step and don't look too far ahead. No-one can predict the future - not even law degree students

I wish you the very best of luck!

I was stalking someone I was in love with.
I can't imagine any office company taking me on at first without experience, the graduate jobs are all full time and I haven't seen any part time ones. I'm always looking online at job websites and never see anything where I could imagine a company paying me knowing I'm reasonably likely to have a meltdown within a month or two.

If I had supportive parrents I could do something self employed but I resources I'd need for those type of things are just not there for me, my parrents don't encourage me to study and moan I'm doing too much.

The best job would be one at home that is basic or an office job that is simmilar to simple and requires little contact with humans or changes. But there all need experience or I'd be decleared over qualifired.

I suspect if I emailed 200 offices in london next year asking for any part time jobs I would struggle to find and be offered a job without experience of office work. I wish they were more small shops near me that don't only employ other family members.

Oh Christ.
DS, is that you?

Assuming not:

You're a student still, so presumably you are currently on holiday. Use it to book an appointment with your GP. Go alone (can you? Or is that too much new interaction?) and ask for counselling. You won't get it for ages, but never mind: it's a first step.

This black and white, catastrophic thinking is your current problem. You are trying to picture your future, and you don't see how it would work exactly, so you are assuming it can't possibly work out.

What you need is help to see things differently.

And if that is DS, get out of bed and walk the dog please.

I have consuelling but it's no good as the rest of the day afterwards I'm in a low mood and that sets my parrents off. I just can't picture myself finding a simple part time (I have no need for a full time job for the foreseeable future (I can live happily on 10 grand a year at the most) with hours that don't offend my parrents or increase my interactions with my dad when he is most likely to turn on me.

You'll have a lot more options in life once you have got your degree so please concentrate on that alone and forget the rest for now.

One step at a time.