Do you ever feel physically drained after speaking to someone?

[Bukkaroo]

I don't know if IABU or not but after being around some people or chatting to them I feel physically drained and just can't wait to get them to stop talking because I feel like they're making me feel ill. I know that sounds over dramatic and wondered if anyone else has ever felt the same?

I have not rtft (look forward to it later this eve) but I had this experience just yesterday and it has been on my mind ever since so this thread is very timely.

This woman and I are both self employed and in the same line of work. We meet up occasionally for joint projects etc. She has a heart of gold but GOD is she draining!

I think the main things are that:

• She is somehow not able to get 'in the flow' and read the micro-clues in a conversation about whose turn it is to talk, moving smoothly between topics etc.
• She speaks over you and dominates the conversation with her experience/opinion and takes no notice of your observations/input. It is basically mansplaining. Very frustrating!
• She has one of those droning 'chainsaw' voices. Not her fault but it is pretty grating when she is on a roll.

I don't think it's me. After an hour or so of her monologue I ended up getting quite blunt "It's getting late I need to get on now". But even this was not enough. The only way I could get her to stop talking at me in the end was to actually stand up, put my shoes on and start moving around. She did get the hint then though.

I needed a good few glasses of wine afterwards to relax all the knots out of my shoulders.

She is a sweetheart really and I do genuinely like her, but as others have said "in small doses only"!

The80s

Yes, even if I have to do a lot of interacting with people, and I don't mean dramatic people but I get so tired. I have a sister with mental Health issues though and we rarely speak. It really is difficult and I feel like I am walking on egg shells.

My dd may be heading this way - certainly in terms of not being able to keep things brief. Her anecdotes start at the very, very beginning and include every minute detail until she laboriously gets to the end about 45 minutes later. I try saying that brevity is the source of wit etc but she doesn't seem able to hear herself. I feel it is down to us to point it out to her, as when she has left home no-one is going to do it and it will be too late.
She has such tunnel vision once she starts, she becomes oblivious to what else is going on and the reactions she is getting. (She is quite funny too, it is just the rambling detailed anecdotes that have you lost by the time you get to the end).