Oh fucking hell its a parking one..

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Tell me please what fresh hell is this?

Of course there is a backstory but it culminated with dh being threatened today

We live on a new housing estate, we share the entrance to our driveway with two other families....
We have owned the house for 8 years but it has been rented out while we've been abroad. We just recently moved back and discovered that no one now living here is aware that it is in fact a shared entrance but not a shared drive. The parking has been pretty bad and I've had to knock on my ndn1's about 5 times to be able to leave my property as she was parked on it. Interestingly enough this seems to piss my neighbor off
I had been getting some building work done, it took about 6 weeks. I informed my neighbors beforehand and wouldn't allow work after 6pm in order to not put the neighbors out to much.
A truck dented my neighbours (2) fence i got it fixed immediately and was mortified and apologetic.
A delivery truck was blocking the exit once by about 5 inches and my neighbor 1 went batshit at me in the street. It was the same neighbor who was consistently blocking me in and i was only ever nice & polite to her when she was on my property
My ndn2 stood out on the drive with her dh and dm and shouted over to my gardeners that i was a disgrace for having building materials on ndn1's drive.

Still with me?

When the work was finished i took round wine and a card to both neightbours (i also arranged to get their windows washed to clean any builders dust)and thanked them for their patience. In the card i attached a photo copy of the property boundaries for their information and so they would realise that they were in fact parking on my drive and that I wasn't storing property on ndn1's drive that it was in fact my
property.

So that's the back story ... now this is where it starts to get nasty.
Just to make things better we live opposite a school.
Sometimes a random blocks the drive entrance and uses it as a parking space. Last week i lost my rag and put a note on the windscreen with Pratt stick saying RUDE - this isn't a parking space. (Fucking bastarding mumsnet giving me these ideas)..anyway turns out it was ndn2's visitor...I didn't know ...it made no sense, why would he park blocking when the neighbor had 2 spaces on his drive???
Anyway the ndn 2 stopped speaking to us (which really is ok because they were never very nice to us anyway), but unfortunately they added in talking about us loudly so we overhear , stink eyeing us, ignoring us when we greet them....sort of a pack mentality when they have. Visitors...sort of low level intimidation but very unpleasant.
The council put in keep clear signs at our drive entrance yesterday - i requested them about 6 months ago. The ndn2 has gone apoplectic. Now they don't park on their drive at all, they are parking both cars at the entrance to make it difficult for us to leave.
They've now set up toys for their D.C. On the entrance so we would have to ask the D.C. To move them temporarily while we exit.which we did, politely of course...
This has resulted in non dh going mental 'squaring up" pointing in my dh's face calling him names, taunting him, telling him hit me hit me go on...my chest just kept very calm with his hands behind his back....ndn's poor poor ds was crying terribly it was awful begging him to "leave it dad please"....when people walked by the ndn doh cuddled his boy and said to my dh...look what you've done to my poor boy you're scaring him ....
I have no idea how to deal with this situation.

Any help please?

Well they've moved from the keepclear area...but have parked in an even more difficult way for us they've basically positioned there cars so that i cant turn around in the shared area making me unable to reverse in.

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I think from now on smile and wave and thank them for parking back on their property again.

Honestly it is costing them more in anger and vex and they will have to move to accommodate their visitors only inconveniencing them!

Sorry they are such dicks

The black square I've added into the diagram is supposed to be kept clear at all times to allow everyone to reverse etc

I'm going to have to see a solicitor aren't I?

CCTV and report to police.

Oh you poor thing. I really do feel for you. Sending a copy of the boundary with the wine etc was not a good idea as it's very patronising to the lower classes. I think the only way round it all is to fully apologise
to the neighbours verbally and say you're truly sorry for getting off to a bad start with them but it was a shock to come back and find that the neighbours were using your drive for parking when it only allows access. Failing all this if it's to late to go this route then you need to take the high road. Get your facts together and get a Solicitors letter sent out and find out what your neighbours can reasonably expect from the access. Are they allowed to park up to empty shopping etc. Where are they supposed to park.

Crickey...if i apologise im truly done for aren't i?
They are not reasonable people are they?

It sounds awful. I would let a solictor deal with it, but then I hate confrontation of any kind.

Good luck.

Where does it say to keep clear at all times? By the look of your last diagram, they are parking on their own land.

The hedge isn't a bad idea, though i cant help thinking they're just getting started

Surely how they are now parking inconveniences NDN1 more than anyone.
Fuckers!

We are looking out all our material at the moment from when we bought the house....but as we remember it the square area in the middle is joint owned iyswim... they are not supposed to park on that at anytime..the shared area is a shared access area that we all require use of to park on our respective drives.

Ndn1 are ok...they can just reverse out past their front on my drive...

It's a long tricky way for us to reverse out of our parking area and reverse out of the entrance onto the road and we don't have enough room to turn around on our parking spaces.

Is the diagram from the builder? It's the title plan you need to look at, it's usually coloured in to show your property, land and communal areas.

I agree with previous posters about the Antisocial behaviour and her TA job. She is treading on thin ice. Police involved should initiate a LADO, which is basically an investigation into her behaviour and suitability to work in her role. I think you are doing the right thing and I wouldn't want her working with my children, so if it does impact on her job, then so be it, but I fear they will then have more imaginary reasons to bully you.

Have had similar problems in the past. Record all interactions with neighbour. Times, dates, conversations. Yes get cameras incase it escalates. Check title deeds as they have some interesting clauses which will help if you need to take it down a legal route. We used this in the past and all it took to end the issue was a letter from a solicitor pointing out the neighbour had no options but to comply. Good luck, we've moved for less!!

A dashboard cam will catch them out! It will also record how difficult it is to manoeuvre yourselves around the area.

My dh fitted a dashboard cam for me today.
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Did you instruct a solicitor?
I was thinking if this continues i will get all my information together and send my ndn a letter advising them of the "rules" and advising them that i will have no choice but to instruct if the rules aren't followed by everyone.
I was hoping this would be enough?

Just ignore them now. They will get bored of parking in awkward places if they don't get a rise from you.

I personally wouldn't contact them directly. As they might respond directly and they don't sound like reasonable people. Yes solicitor wrote to them on our behalf with the legalities and action we would take if they didn't concur. However the title deeds had a clause which was in our favour. Our new house is in a really nice area and it has some interesting clauses. This is why I say check, it may mention parking or it might be a long shot but worth looking.

Nothing of value to add here op but just wanted to wish you luck. Your neighbours sound insane. Bless you

Sounds awful! Definitely talk to a solicitor! X