Oh fucking hell its a parking one..

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Tell me please what fresh hell is this?

Of course there is a backstory but it culminated with dh being threatened today

We live on a new housing estate, we share the entrance to our driveway with two other families....
We have owned the house for 8 years but it has been rented out while we've been abroad. We just recently moved back and discovered that no one now living here is aware that it is in fact a shared entrance but not a shared drive. The parking has been pretty bad and I've had to knock on my ndn1's about 5 times to be able to leave my property as she was parked on it. Interestingly enough this seems to piss my neighbor off
I had been getting some building work done, it took about 6 weeks. I informed my neighbors beforehand and wouldn't allow work after 6pm in order to not put the neighbors out to much.
A truck dented my neighbours (2) fence i got it fixed immediately and was mortified and apologetic.
A delivery truck was blocking the exit once by about 5 inches and my neighbor 1 went batshit at me in the street. It was the same neighbor who was consistently blocking me in and i was only ever nice & polite to her when she was on my property
My ndn2 stood out on the drive with her dh and dm and shouted over to my gardeners that i was a disgrace for having building materials on ndn1's drive.

Still with me?

When the work was finished i took round wine and a card to both neightbours (i also arranged to get their windows washed to clean any builders dust)and thanked them for their patience. In the card i attached a photo copy of the property boundaries for their information and so they would realise that they were in fact parking on my drive and that I wasn't storing property on ndn1's drive that it was in fact my
property.

So that's the back story ... now this is where it starts to get nasty.
Just to make things better we live opposite a school.
Sometimes a random blocks the drive entrance and uses it as a parking space. Last week i lost my rag and put a note on the windscreen with Pratt stick saying RUDE - this isn't a parking space. (Fucking bastarding mumsnet giving me these ideas)..anyway turns out it was ndn2's visitor...I didn't know ...it made no sense, why would he park blocking when the neighbor had 2 spaces on his drive???
Anyway the ndn 2 stopped speaking to us (which really is ok because they were never very nice to us anyway), but unfortunately they added in talking about us loudly so we overhear , stink eyeing us, ignoring us when we greet them....sort of a pack mentality when they have. Visitors...sort of low level intimidation but very unpleasant.
The council put in keep clear signs at our drive entrance yesterday - i requested them about 6 months ago. The ndn2 has gone apoplectic. Now they don't park on their drive at all, they are parking both cars at the entrance to make it difficult for us to leave.
They've now set up toys for their D.C. On the entrance so we would have to ask the D.C. To move them temporarily while we exit.which we did, politely of course...
This has resulted in non dh going mental 'squaring up" pointing in my dh's face calling him names, taunting him, telling him hit me hit me go on...my chest just kept very calm with his hands behind his back....ndn's poor poor ds was crying terribly it was awful begging him to "leave it dad please"....when people walked by the ndn doh cuddled his boy and said to my dh...look what you've done to my poor boy you're scaring him ....
I have no idea how to deal with this situation.

Any help please?

*dd - thankfully my Df has nothing to do with this circus.

Cctv and report to the police. Get all your paperwork to show you are in the right when it comes to boundaries ready.

Do not engage with them.

It's now against the law to wheel clamp on private property.

chrisrocks
They are not actually parked on the keep clear....well not totally. They are straddling the grass either side of the access.....how far out they let their arses go is very much dependent on their mood.

Would an ambulance or fire engine be able to access the properties while they are parking like that?

You can also claim that supermarkets are refusing to deliver as they can't access your home.

Clearly the man has a massive chip on his shoulder about something. I feel for you.

purple, owned by OP, yellow, owned by ndn1's landlord and is for ndn1's use

green, owned by ndn2. red, council land owned for access. can be played on, cannot be blocked.

that help those looking at the diagram? :D

Woodhill made a excellent and really important point re emergency services. They're putting all three families at risk. If you can't get deliveries because of them - how can an ambulance get through in an emergency?

I'd call the council and point this out. I'd also mention this to the Police.

Poor you - I really hope you can find a resolution to this. It disrupts your life every day.

Just on a serious note that pp made re emergency services, someone local to myself died in a house fire a few years ago and it seemed that the fire brigade couldn't gain access to the property in time due to inconsiderate/ illegal parking, so I would really consider reporting them if they park there again.

I'd be tempted to tell NDN2 wife that she'll lose her job as a TA with a conviction for anti-social behaviour so to get herself to the far side of fuck off

This is more or less what I was going to say! Aggressive, abusive behaviour does not go down at all well with a job in a school.

They are nasty fuckers, poor you OP. The emergency access issue is very serious and hopefully will scupper the gits.

I was just thinking the very same thing about emergency services.Ive been told you can object to council if fire engine can't get through if due to poor parking.Your neighbours have somewhere totally suitable to park that doesn't hamper access and I'm sure on this point alone you have a good case as it shows they are being totally unreasonable.

I would use the police/solicitors as the absolute, end of the line, last resort. It will get their backs up even more and just escalate everything. Trust me - I'm a lawyer and I've seen it over and over again. I'd definitely have a last ditch effort to try and build fences even if it means you backing down and apologising. Maybe invite them round for a drink? Think of the bigger picture here. Unless they are just renting in which case I wouldn't worry so much.

I would say the same to NDN2 about her status as a TA next time she threatens you/acts menancingly, especially in front of young children. Schools frown on such things...

Report it to the police and if it doesn't improve, put in cctv to gather evidence. My neighbours have been through something similar with another neighbour. It stopped once they had the cctv. I feel for you.

Become a school governor

FloweryTwat - clever thinking 👹

Really feel for you. Hope the police make them cower like the bullies they are.

Ndn dh is home and he's parked in his usual spot at the shared entrance

The police haven't called my dh, they said they would once they had spoken to ndn2...I don't know if they've been today & spoken to ndn2's wife.
Thanks for the clarification flowers

I really feel for you too Op - they are terrible. I agree with those who said that the next time they're getting aggressive, take your phone out & tell them that you're videoing them. It'll hopefully make them back off (although doesn't solve the actual problem).

Good luck. Hope the police visit helps.

What makes me angry is greedy builders squeezing houses in so you get these terrible shared drives etc. There are so many neighbour disputes. Creating cost for police. We all need a bit of space around us. Lots of new building in my area. The houses are tiny and so is the space around. Already cars everywhere. I expect noise will be a problem also.

Do your neighbours rent? If so could you complain to their landlord? We had a similar situation with tenants next door to us. They let their dogs bark constantly all day and night. We complained to the police and they contacted the tenants landlords. The tenants were threatening, abusive and also smoking cannabis. Luckily the landlord was a school governor and we stated that if they carried on allowing the situation then we would complain to the school as they weren't concerned about our children! It worked and the landlord sold the property soon after :-) Definitely complain to the school as people like this shouldn't be allowed to be with kids. I wouldn't want my children spending time with such aggressive people!

You really need to send photos of their parking to the council and tell them they're obstructions would stop an ambulance/fire engine visiting properties in an emergency.
Grrrr wankers!