To think that this girl deserves some help to pay for her mother's funer

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This is so sad
m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10155916416985898&substory_index=0&id=67764650897
Her mum died and she can't get the ashes until she's paid off the funeral debt
Can anyone help her with her fundraising?

SabineUndine - I feel so happy for you that you clearly live in some kind of Utopia where everyone can afford life and/or funeral insurance. It's clear from reading this thread that Jade's Mum didn't have a lot of money but did her absolute best to bring her daughter up well.

Seriously, who expects to die at 44? I think you should show more compassion and understanding.

And to those posters denigrating Blackpool, as someone who grew up there I can assure you it is not as bad as the media portray (although there are areas of severe deprivation) and to suggest you hope that Jade 'gets out' is incredibly patronising.

Shocked by the judgement on this thread.

slavo huge credit to you for supporting Jade. She has nothing to apologise for or justify. It must be a horrible time for her right now and I am glad it seems like there are some supportive people around her

There are some genuinely horrible posters on this thread

all this talk of funeral preparations makes me think of the Funeral Club/Life insurance schemes that were running into the 20s and 30s

Kind of tragic really since the money put aside for funerals would have been better spent on the lives of those thus insured
www.1900s.org.uk/1900s-funerals-cost.htm

Whether or not the mother should have had funeral insurance is not the topic. The woman is dead, let her rest in peace. Her daughter is 18 years old and no one expects to have to have money saved up to bury a parent at 18. Give the kid a break.

A few posters on here are an utter disgrace. Shame on you.

Draw and Dick
I am telling you, because I know, not just guessing, that the figure quoted for Jade's mum' s funeral would have only covered the basics.

It is probable that Jade had to make hard decisions and not have the things most of us would want for our mum's send off.

All this talk of preparation and prepayment is ludicrous . Its the sort of thing said by people desperate to justify their lack of compassion.

If we can blame the poor we don't have to bother ourselves with their plight.
There are thousands of people in Jade's position. You can keep telling yourself its because they are irresponsible and feckless. It won't make it true.

I feel pity for all those being ignorant , and show no compassion at all, jades mum couldn't avoid this as you don't know the financial situation she was in, I DO, she struggled every single day but made sure jade was cared for brought up correct clothed and fed, she went without a hell of a lot , and her money was stretch , she could not work as not well , and she did try before the ignorant open their mouths , all because some of you may have spare money at end of each week/month others don't , and this thread as now turned into pure hate evil and nastiness, completely gone off the main reason was here for and to help a 18 year old girl pay for her mums funeral so she can continue her studies and become a midwife to help others bring new life into this world , I hope non of you end up in a bad situation but if do that's karma

The money raised will be going to the final bill , she as not even looked at the price of a plaque for her mum at the crem, that's something she will save for , so she's not being over realistic she just wants the help for the cost of the initial funeral x

Ignore the haters. Wish her all the best in the future and I'm glad she has you to help and support her.

I've donated. I realise she has hit target but she can use any extra any way she wants that helps her.

Slavo Ignore the horrible posters on this thread. All the best to Jade. I will donate after I get paid.

Am genuinely shocked by some of the judgemental comments on this thread,

Who expects to die at 44?

A crystal ball is a nice thing but they don't tend to exist.

My parents now have funeral plans but they are in their 70s. They certainly did not have them when they were in their 40s because they had four children and every penny counted.

So so glad that Jade's goal has been reached and that she can bring her Mum home for Mothers Day. I really hope more on top is raised to allow Jade to buy a piece of jewellery to remember her Mum with.

£2300 is very much at the lower end of what a funeral costs. It's really not an elaborate one. My dad's funeral was fairly basic, as would have been his wishes - typical Yorkshireman and that still cost over £3k.

Slavo You are brilliant and it sounds like Jade would be lost without you. It must have been such a shock to lose her mum at such a young age. I am the same age as her DM was, frightening.

Was she able to claim any sort of bereavement benefit, or did she not count as being a dependent, as she is 18?

...and I have reported Drawward's* post.

Just sheer and utter hideous lack of compassion.

I would suggest Draward researches the cost of funerals as the price Jade got is pretty standard for even the most basic funeral.

Sadly I know a family locally to me who have been in a similar situation recently. Their relative who was not quite 42 died suddenly and unexpectedly. The cost of the funeral was £2500 and this did not include a hearse. The coffin was taken to the crematorium in the back of a black private ambulance from the undertakers. It covered the cost of the funeral directors, crematorium staff, the service and the cremation. There was nothing else covered for that price.

So I have no problem in understanding that Jade couldn't have got a better price. Funerals are expensive and I am so glad that a young bereaved teenager has managed to get this final cost covered so she can bring her Mum home.

Some horrible comments on here
Some posters need to either engage their brains before hitting post, or have a long hard look at themselves.

I've donated and hope Jade raises enough to cover the full £2300 and therefore get her savings back.

She comes across as hugely mature and together in the article, and I hope things get better for her after this awful shock

slavo what a wonderful person you are to have taken her in and supported her

The other thing about funerals is that the bereaved relatives are in no state to start ringing round and comparing costs. They just want to get through a painful process as easily as possible.

Exactly barbara

Thank you all for your kind words and encouragement, she being 18 wasn't classed as being a dependent somhad to be on her own two feet. And yes she is a a credit to her mum, and that's down to her up bringing , her mum was a wonderful person and a fantastic mum , very unselfish and her daughter always came first , so again the negatives here are being ignored they are not worth anyones time, but a lot of lovely kind words from all of you lovey people xxx

Sorry again if all can share the just giving it helps and thanks to all who donated very much appreciated, the necklace she wants is one you send some ashes off too and they put them into glass pendant, so sweet x

I am very sickened by some of the posts on here
There is just no need for it

www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/con-jad-1

I am the girl who's lost her mum and I think some of you are disgusting in saying my mum was selfish for having me, how many of you can say you still have your mum's scan picture of when you were unborn, or have a thousand pictures that you have made her from every little scribble to every work of art, so every school letter I was given to my bump notes when I had hurt myself my mum cared about me very much and she would be very proud of what I have achieved, my mum DID try to get life insurance in her last couple of months but was refused, I have now got life insurance at my age because dive come to terms that I am probably going to die young because of family history so before you all start judging find out the facts!!😡, and on a positive not thank you to all the messages of support and the donations people have given☺️❤️

Jade I'm so sorry you had to read the bile from some people. Try to focus on the positive posts. We wish you well, I hope you have a wonderful life, I'm sure your mum would be so proud of your maturity.

Jade you don't have to explain yourself to selfish vile people, you and your mum are two of the greatest people I known, ignore them they obviously don't have much love in their lives and few have to hurt others , xx

My dads recent very basic funeral (as per his wishes) cost just over £3k. So this was no "elaborate" funeral.

Good luck Jade.