To think that this girl deserves some help to pay for her mother's funer

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This is so sad
m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10155916416985898&substory_index=0&id=67764650897
Her mum died and she can't get the ashes until she's paid off the funeral debt
Can anyone help her with her fundraising?

Terrible publicity for the funeral directors. Couldn't they have let it go? I suppose they might be struggling themselves but to withhold the ashes seems heartless and awful .......

Why should they? They are a business, not a charity. They aren't refusing to bury her, they have provided the service as they were hired to do, and now they are just saying that she can have the ashes when she has paid. You don't get to take your groceries from the store and come back later to pay. I have no doubt that they have probably experienced many times when people say they will pay, but then don't and now they have to take steps to make sure they do get paid.

Don't be harsh on the funeral directors. Its a whole series of events.
I'm a lone parent and I have life insurance but only in the last year. I couldn't afford it prior to last year and mine are teenagers

I am leaning towards having no sympathy. She chose a funeral that she knew was out of her price range and had no inclination to pay. You don't get a bill after the event for a random figure she would have had meetings with the funeral directors to discuss options you don't buy a £2,294 funeral if you only have £1,244 in the bank. I'm guessing she thought whats the worst that can happen as the funeral will be over by the time they want the money and didn't realise that they could hold her mothers ashes for non payment.

I'm not sure you can get it cheaper than that, Drawward.

Thanks for that gabsdot

Jade sounds like a very sensible young adult to have saved up like that and be juggling study and work.

Really disappointed with the amount of judgement on this thread.

Here's the just giving link www.justgiving.com/crowdfunding/con-jad-1

No sympathy Drawward - for an eighteen year old left alone in the world - really??

Glad I made a small donation, like a lot of others.

One of my closest friends is also in this position. Her mum struggled with her mental health and had v little money. She died suddenly 3 days ago. Due to her mental health, she hadn't been in a state to claim the benefits she was entitled to. This means no funeral grant allowance.
My friend is studying, and working, and completely alone now. Even a co-op 'basic funeral' is £1900 - without cremation fees, minister or anything. We're (group of friends) are helping out - means she can put her mum to rest. It's so expensive.

HOW DARE YOU DRAWWARD , if read her story in the gazette she got the cheapest possible , and she also as her student loan Due which would use and alway knew was there and will have to use that if no other way of finding the final bill,but really doesn't want to use student loan as needs that for travel and books ect , she knew would be holding the ashes , she as tried all ways of raising the rest via loans ect but her age is against her , she did not expect her mum to die , your a horrible heartless disgusting vile person and I hope karma repays you for your nasty comments

No sympathy for a poor girl. Left without a mother.

You're a disgrace.
Ill shut my beak now, because. I won't stop.

I think you could get a cheaper funeral but it would be a direct cremation, without a funeral director. It can be done for ~£1000

She probable unlike you doesn't run from her bills and pays what is expected , the funeral guys told her t pay as and when can and not to rush but she wants her home and to pay her bill as soon as possible she took the cheapest in this area , sold things ,used her savings which was for her first car , and skimped where can , lost her home lost her mum , and now trying her hardest to get her life straight and her mum home , for your information the funeral guys told her to go and do a just giving to help so she wouldn't have to use her student money , but if she as too she will ,

A direct funeral here is 1700

but obviously I don't think it's appropriate to condemn an 18-year-old for not shopping around, the costs aren't necessarily discussed in an upfront manner nor would cheaper alternatives necessarily be presented.

and £2,300 is still, in reality, a cheap funeral.

Hun she did shop around , and this was the at price they even got a minister for a cheaper price for her and threw in a few things , x

Funerals, how to arrange them, what happens are a murky business I am afraid rather like Bounty reps going onto maternity wards and flogging pictures of babies bound up in other stuff.

We dont talk about death in this country - we don't know what we can do when someone dies. Why didnt the funeral directors ask more about finances before doing it and come to arrangement.

I hope in years to come, more people talk about all this and we can see - basic funerals become norm, with other types of memorials instead.

Once again it was discussed and she paid just over half upfront , and the rest we could sort after at no rush or pressure , but she wants her home and doesn't want her studies money swallowed as then her uni will suffer

Please if no words of support and all you have is nasty judgmental comments DONT reply , I will and have reported all nasty comments

Talking about funeral plans - my DGM had paid into one for years (I think it was a Co-op one because she used to work for them), she'd been paying into it for decades and it didn't pay out enough to cover her basic funeral at the end, she'd paid in thousands over the years, far more than her funeral cost, and yet my DM had to somehow find the money to make up the shortfall.

Glad her inital goal has been reached and she will be able to get her mum's ashes..

This thread is horrible. Such little empathy for a poor girl who has lost her mum at a young age and clearly trying her best.
I am so sorry to hear that she lost her home too Slavo, I was wondering that when I started reading. She is lucky she has you to look out for her.

In 1962 when I was a baby my parents were broke and my mum got very down, wondering what my dad would do if anything happened to her. She took out a funeral policy for about ten shillings a month. Her neighbour did the same. Other neighbours followed suit. It cost very little to make the bare minimum contingency plans and not leave your kids struggling.

Sorry just saying I sympathise with this young woman. Her mum could have avoided this.