To think that this girl deserves some help to pay for her mother's funer

[insancerre]

This is so sad
m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10155916416985898&substory_index=0&id=67764650897
Her mum died and she can't get the ashes until she's paid off the funeral debt
Can anyone help her with her fundraising?

No
I'm the op
I don't know the people involved
I just saw it on the Blackpool Gazette Facebook page

Slavo if I can help please message me. I have just had to pay and organise my funeral as I have a large tumour. It sounds like jades mum did her best under difficult circumstances and you are a star.

Ignore posters like nun she is not a reflection on the majority of posters. Some people have no idea how people live. I hope everything goes well x

MyNunsMet

It's a shame compassion isn't a pre-requisite to having kids, isn't it? Seeing as you seem to lack it.

Most 44 year olds aren't thinking they're going to drop dead suddenly and most people can barely afford their outgoings as it is, let alone a funeral plan on top of that.

Hi thanks insancerre she is definitely continuing her studies , I'm not the op , jade is with my son and I have known her 7 years , and now lives with me, where I will care and support her as a mum would her own , she is a lovely kind girl who would help anyone , xx

Please can everyone share the just giving

The one thing we can be sure about is that the god you talk to is a fictitious one

Terrible publicity for the funeral directors. Couldn't they have let it go? I suppose they might be struggling themselves but to withhold the ashes seems heartless and awful .......

I am not blaming the mum. You don't expect to die in your early 40s. Poor girl.

These people are a great charity for helping poor people with bereavement costs (and Quakers do not proselytise) www.quakersocialaction.org.uk/we-can-help/helping-bereavement/down-earth

"I don't feel smug. I feel sorry for the girl. That's why I donated some money and feel for her. My karma has balanced my good luck with her bad luck I think."

So you talk about people needing help and God being fictitious, but then you witter on about karma? How does that work???

You sound smug as fuck to be honest.

Justicewomen Thank you we will look into this , and I'm sure no one is feeling smug , please no arguing let's all just get along , no one expects to pass away , but it happens as made me realise I need to sort insurance out as I'm 40 this year and have young kids my self as well as jade now x

I hope she goes on to complete her studies and I hope she manages to leave Blackpool

Thats pretty patronising, as well as rude.

Thanks hun, but as said blackpool ain't all bad , and luckily we live in a nice area of blackpool, and away from the rough parts , plus lovely beach just over the sand dunes , x

I've donated. Let's get Jade's mam home for Mother's day

Circumstances change. You may be financially secure pre children and then end up impoverished later on. You cannot predict the future

This is the best comment on the thread and applies to so many many people

I don't understand funeral plans- what if the company goes bust?

Also, fuck off suggesting only people rich enough to pay for 2 funerals should have children.

Circumstances change. You may be financially secure pre children and then end up impoverished later on. You cannot predict the future

Yes! Describes my situation extremely well.

Over £800
Wow

wannabestressfree I'm so incredibly sorry to hear that.

You probably won't recognise my name, but I recognise yours, and over many years on MN, you're a poster I've always admired and been inspired by.

I'm so very sorry to hear you're now facing this.

Nearly £1000 raised now.

All the best to you Jade, your Mum would be very proud of what you are doing.

I've donated and shared on my fb page. Poor girl, so terrible to have lost her mum so young and having to deal with all of it too

Jade said thank you to everyone who as donated and wished her well, she is so overwhelmed and appreciate all you have all helped her achieve x

While I was pregnant my husband collapsed and nearly died. When my baby was 10 days old we sat in consultants office and got his diagnosis. Doctor kept looking at me and was obviously uncomfortable about the prognosis, husband permanently disabled, no longer able to work, that the paralysis would get worse and that by the time the baby was getting towards the end of primary school his father would by paralysed from the neck down. Yes we really should have planned out future better. I wonder if we should have sent the baby back?

Sometimes things don't work out how you plan.

Whilst I do respect the funeral business, and feel its cathartic to send someone off in a nice coffin with flowers etc, and all the trimmings, on the other hand, if you are short of money its a huge worry and burden when you are grieving.

I found this recently and think its an excellent idea, many people nowadays do not want trad church funerals....

www.theguardian.com/money/2014/jun/28/funeral-die-low-cost-options

You can even pick up the body from the morgue yourself.

Google pure committal,

People are now choosing a simpler funeral and choosing to remember their loved one by different means after. I think its really sad there is a strangle hold thats hugely expensive on funerals in the UK.

Sometimes, it doesn't matter how prepared you think you are.
My dad died, ten days later, his dad died, a year to the day of my dad dying, his mum died.
It was so incredibly difficult organising everything and trying to find the money to pay for 3 funerals within a year.
Slavo, I hope Jade finds some comfort from the support here.
Hopefully, in time, she will be able to feel peace.

Sometimes, it doesn't matter how prepared you think you are.
My dad died, ten days later, his dad died, a year to the day of my dad dying, his mum died.
It was so incredibly difficult organising everything and trying to find the money to pay for 3 funerals within a year.

I'm sure you would have grateful to each of them if they had made provision to pay for their own funeral instead of leaving to up to those left behind.