My rapist is 100% to blame for my attack but I made the decision to put myself in the situation where he had such a golden opportunity to attack me without getting caught. My actions didn't invite his attack but it gave him the perfect opportunity that he might not have otherwise had. Perhaps if I had made another choice and walked home through a busy street he would still have attacked or I had got a taxi the taxi driver would have attacked but I cannot and will not go through life assuming everyone is a potential attacker and that every man walking down the same street as me is waiting to pounce because I would never leave the house if that was the case.
Therefore I don't assume everyone is an attacker but I do consider the risks of any decision ... so which is riskier, walking home in a dark park or through the well lit area? Which is riskier, walking home alone or getting a pre-booked taxi through a registered taxi company? It is about personal risk assessment
You cannot control other people and there are people out there that willingly, knowingly and actively break the law even thought they know it is wrong, because they have no concern for anything but themselves.
You cannot change everyone, you cannot prevent them from committing crimes but you can protect yourself - man, woman or child - from becoming one of their victims by being aware of your own actions and making decisions based on your own personal safety.
So yes, you should have the right to walk unmolestd through a park at 4am, but in reality the rapist in the bushes doesn't care about your rights, nor does the mugger lurking behind a tree. So you can be stubborn and walk through that park and take the chance with your personal safety or you can be sensible and take the longer, but well lit and busy, route home because it significantly reduces your risk of becoming a victim of crime. That is not victim blaming, that is taking responsibility for my own personal safety.