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AIBU to charge parents some rent?

211 replies

Goneforgood72 · 10/03/2017 11:57

My parents are in the process of moving house. They are in a bit of a pickle as they sold their place, agreed a moving date, put in an offer on a new place - then changed their minds and withdrew the offer. They've since put a deposit on a new-build which is great, but their entry date is several months after they have agreed to vacate their existing house. So they have to find temporary accommodation for 4-5 months. Neither myself nor my sister are able to accommodate them easily: I live overseas and my sister doesn't have a spare room; she and her OH would have to move into their child's bedroom if my parents were to go there.

DH and I own a 1-bed flat in the same city that we currently rent out. The rental income is really important to us: I've been a SAHM for a while, and the rent we receive goes some way to making up the shortfall of living on one salary: it pays for activities for our children, for big spends like new bikes, and is a pot of money for emergencies. The tenants have just given us notice that they are going to leave in a few weeks. We'd be very happy to offer the flat to my parents as long as they need it, but would we BU to charge them some rent for it? They are unlikely to find anywhere for free, and the reduced rent that we'd charge would be considerably less than they would pay elsewhere. They don't have loads of money to throw at it, but at the same time a 4-5 month period of no rent would really put a dent in our family income.

So AWBU to charge a reduced rent to my parents?

OP posts:
goodeyebrows · 12/03/2017 09:54

I find a lot of these comments really bizarre. These people that 'wouldn't take money off family unless it mean I couldn't put food on the table' would you not accept gifts from grandparents for your children or let them take your children out for the day? That is essentially accepting money from them. And this is (partly) what the OP is talking about having to give up if she didn't charge her parents. If a member of my family were in financial difficulty I would do what I could to help them but if they weren't I wouldn't just give them a huge amount of my money simply because we're family.

Deadsouls · 12/03/2017 10:56

I don't think it's bizarre at all, people have different viewpoints on this that's all.

FreeNiki · 12/03/2017 12:38

i think it's bizarre this thread exists at all
when the patents brought it on themselves in the choices they made and havent actually asked to live in the flat

Deadsouls · 12/03/2017 13:47

This is true. It's all hypothetical. Might not even happen and the parents might offer anyway.

Benedikte2 · 12/03/2017 15:18

I agree with Goodeyebrows and others that contrary views are bizarre. The parents aren't destitute and homeless and must have realised the consequences of their actions in pulling out of the house deal. Most parents (myself included) do not expect our children and grandchildren to go without unless it was a dire emergency (and then only for the briefest of times).
If I was offered the OPs flat and I preferred that to a private rental I'd offer and expect to pay the going rate. I'd have the advantage of living their until the new house was built without worrying about how long that might take -- notoriously new builds take much longer than the estimated time.
So OP you would not BU to ask for the rent. Maybe the way forward to avoid embarrassment would be to offer the flat as more convenient to rent than with a private landlord because of the uncertain time frame

Familyof3or4 · 12/03/2017 17:23

When I read the thread title I though ywbu but now I think not.
I'd want to offer them a vastly reduced rate though

Goneforgood72 · 12/03/2017 21:43

Thanks all... we offered it, they are really grateful and definitely want to pay something, so we are going to offer a reduced rent and them staying as long as they need to / no deposit / no notice - and they might freshen up some paintwork too). It has worked out really well (I hope). Thanks for all the input: it clarified that we are NBU to charge some rent, but will reduce as much as we can.

OP posts:
LineysRun · 12/03/2017 21:53

What interest will they earn on the money from the house sale whilst waiting to pay for the new property? Maybe they could pay you that as rent?

Yeah, massive fuck all %.

irregularegular · 12/03/2017 21:55

This thread is actually making me quite cross. YANBU at all to charge them rent, perhaps a bit below market to be generous. They will be benefiting from an easily arranged, reliable flat, with a nice, responsive and flexible landlord who does not impose a minimum tenancy etc.

Suppose the OP's tenants hadn't happened to move out at just the right time, so she was earning rental income from them. Should she have offered to hand over that rental income to pay for their accommodation? Surely not?! It really isn't any different. After all, she clearly doesn't need the money, it's only for treats, she's clearly well off, and after all they have done for her bringing her up she owes it to them...

Ohyesiam · 13/03/2017 13:48

Yanbu, and of you explain the reasons as you've done here, they will understand. Their other options would cost them much more.

Huldra · 13/03/2017 14:53

It would be fine to say that you can offer the flat at £xx rate. It's a very different situation from them moving in with you and being asked to pay rent.

The flat is a business that you rely on for income.

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