To advise MIL to tell this woman to fuck right off

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To be honest I don't think I am but My lovely future MIL has just called to ask advise after receiving a phonecall from her grandsons friends mother. Apparently this woman has rent arrears of 10 thousand pounds and is looking for MIL to lend her the money to avoid eviction. MIL has never even met this woman.

Both DP and I have suggested that if she were to she isn't likely to see much, if any, of it back and that this woman's problems aren't hers.

She could probably afford it but I don't see why she should have to.

Am I missing something here?

Yes she is praying on someone vulnerable, I would just tell MIL to say I am really sorry I don't have that kind of money available for loaning out I am really sorry. End of.

And yes I would involve the police as well ge tthe local community officer round to speak to MIL and advise her why this is a very bad idea - and hopefully warn off this woman

DP phones the woman, tells her to feck off and stop trying to con people out of their money and if she persists he will report her to police (doesnt matter if its not a crime it will just make her aware how serious he is taking it)

That should do it, your MIL sounds lovely but you should be protecting her, no discussion no 'she can afford it' crap no 'what if she doesnt pay it back', of course she bloody wont, "just feck off" is a complete sentance.

I think I mean preying sigh

Sorry quick school run. The mum called the grandsons phone and asked to talk to mil. Mil lives in a huge house with her other ds and dgs so the friend has obviously been round, seen the house and reported back to his dm.

I don't believe that mil is vulnerable. She is 50/50 as she is really kind hearted but I just can't believe that she would flip flop over what to me is such an obvious no

Contact the Police

WTAF? A big fuck off is in order then go to the police. Unbelievable!

God no. No. Never. No. No. Noooooooo. No.

Never loan money unless you can afford to lose it. And if your MIL is going to give away £10k, I'm sure she can think of about 1,000 better causes than her child's child's friend's mum's debt relief.

Can you ask your MIL for a few quid for me.
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I would go to the police - sounds like she's preying on elderly vulnerable people.

if she's kind hearted and has £10k to spare she can give it to charity. Giving it to this other woman would be like flushing it down the loo - I think its stupid she's even contemplating it.

Could you mention to your MIL that I am a bit short of cash at the moment for the hamster's operation - 8 grand should do it.

Just send the cheque to HappyFlappy c/o MumsNet. They know me here and will pass it on.

Cheers

Sorry, if she is 50/50 on this she IS vulnerable - to making a hugely misjudged decision. This person is stranger and she has no certainty of their situation.

If she gives them so much as a penny they will be back time and again.

Your dp should be on the phone to this chancer.

The fact she even called for advice on this shows that she is vulnerable

The answer is "No".

This chancer has seen the big house and well to do family and is trying her luck.

Whoever she is, grandson's friend's mother, the mother of her grandson's friend or the cat's mother, once removed. The answer is "No".

No, if your MIL is considering it at all, then perhaps convince her to make a donation to something like citizens advice and then tell the woman that she's donated to people who can help advise her, and if she calls again then the police will be informed.

Your MIL shouldn't even be considering this imo.

A complete stranger has asked her for money-WTF??

What Willow said. The woman needs to be told she'll be reported.

Sorry. I really didn't mean to drip feed but dp only just told me. Apparently the only reason she is 50/50 is because her dgs is bleating at her about how it would be a nice thing to do and would be a nice favour for him

Dp has already called and spoken to him. It was a brief, mainly one sided conversation.

He will also be visiting the friend and his family to reiterate that the answer is no

How old is the grandson? Could it be a scam he is involved in?? Sounds very dodgy to me... if I was the grandsons mother and I found out he was hounding my 70 year old vulnerable mother to pay out £10,000 for anything his feet wouldn't touch the floor!!!!

Definitely call 101 and report this.
It's not OK to approach an elderly stranger for £10K!!!
Jeez. Please contact the con artist and tell her to fuck off and that you are reporting her to the police!

To be evicted for rent arrears, you have to be at least 3m behind, owing a sum in excess of 3 months payment.

I'm assuming this scammer woman doesn't live in a place that has a rental amount of over £3k per month... IF this arrears even exists it won't be just for rent. Therefore it's a lie before it even starts.

Please get the police involved. Please call this grandson and his parent and find out wtaf is going on, and what their role in all this is.

Mil needs to contact her bank too and report this, to make sure that there are no attempts to withdraw any large sum of money for the time being.

Poppy - actually you've got a point. Sounds like something the ex dil (dgs dm) might come up with. I do think actually out of mil and dgs that the dgs is more vulnerable. Mil is a complete soft touch when it comes to dgs