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AIBU? Neighthours and dropped kerb

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Mummysboy2014 · 08/03/2017 13:09

Right so we own a bourse with a dropped kerb directly outside our house. Next door do not have a dropped kerb they have a big tree at the end of their driveway assuming they can't get permission for a dropped kerb. Anyway so we have 2 cars next door has one. They use our dropped kerb to access their driveway as they wouldn't be able to access it otherwise. Last night my partners car was parked on our drive, I parked on our dropped kerb and was taking the shopping in. Next door pulled up behind me beeping their horn. I continued to get the things out the car took them to my front door, he beeped the horn again and I shouted wait. I then got the baby aged 5 months out the car and came To the front door to which my partner had now opened the door to see what was going on. I walked back to my car and got my toddler as he didn't want to get out the car. Next door beeped the horn again. Aibu in thinking his an arse and you know what he should be grateful as, Correct me if I'm wrong I'm allowed to park on my dropped kerb. And if it weren't for us he wouldn't be to access his drive without using our dropped kerb.

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Floralnomad · 08/03/2017 14:02

I don't think you should be blocking the dropped kerb , and neither should they , that said I think I'd be putting up some kind of wall / fence / trellis divide right to the end of your driveway between the houses to define what is yours .

Aderyn2016 · 08/03/2017 14:03

I would be inclined to park just on the drive so he doesnt have space to cross your land if he is doing that x

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Mummysboy2014 · 08/03/2017 14:03

I think a boundary wall is definitely the right way to go.

I just don't see why people cant have a little patience I was literally no more than say 4 minutes tops

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SloanyAnne · 08/03/2017 14:03

So the paving that the audi is parked on is yours, the tarmac to the right of that paving is his and the paving next to it is his?

Patriciathestripper1 · 08/03/2017 14:04

You are not blocking his drive so tell him to fuck off. The tree is blocking his drive.
Tell him after the shitty way he has been blowing his horn at you to go make a new accesss on the other side of the tree and use some of his garden.
It's your dropped kerb that you paid it so don't move your car,

purpleladybird · 08/03/2017 14:05

You need to take a photo of the driveway facing the house. It sounds like your neighbour doesn't have a driveway (because he can't drop the kerb to get on to it) he has a large front garden that he is parking his car on by using your dropped kerb/driveway as access. His driveway looks pretty wide though - can't he drop the kerb just passed the tree?

You can't park on your dropped kerb if that is in fact the pavement! If you want to be really difficult about it you could build a wall to stop him doing it, assuming he doesn't have legal access. It depends how much it, and good neighbourly relations, bothers you.

londonrach · 08/03/2017 14:05

You are not allowed to park on a dropped kerb even if its yours.

mayaknew · 08/03/2017 14:05

Thanks for the pics op can you explain what car belongs to who and where the border is please? If there's no shared land and they're constantly driving over your land I'd stick a fence up. If they were lovely neighbours I would mind but if they're ungracious about it then it'd be fence up for me.

Mummyoflittledragon · 08/03/2017 14:06

I would imagine the dropped curb is for his use too.

Can he access his property without driving over yours? It looks as though he can if he drives on the grass verge.

As stated earlier up, you can block it temporarily to offload. But not permanently. I'd try to avoid this scenario in the future and either park completely on your drive or beside the pavement in front of his house.

sobeyondthehills · 08/03/2017 14:06

I think you need to go back and look at your deeds, find exactly where the line is.

To me it looks like you are parking partly in his drive.

If, however he is driving on your land to park his car, put a little wall up, and then its up to him to sort out getting access to his drive, by talking to the council.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 08/03/2017 14:06

Did you pay for the dropped kerb or did it already exist? It looks like you need to drive over the pavement to reach your drive? It looks like the tree is not on your neighbour's property but on the pavement?

Annesmyth123 · 08/03/2017 14:07

What sobeyond said. Looking at it, I thought you were parking half on his drive.

EchoesofEmpires · 08/03/2017 14:07

Looks like neither driveway was ever originally meant to be a driveway I have to agree that the raised kerb the OP is parked over looks like a boundary marker, that said maybe it marks the edge of the drive with an additional strip of land up to the boundary marked by the path. Another who doesn't understand why the OP didn't just pull onto the drive to unload?

bloodyteenagers · 08/03/2017 14:07

As for the arse blocking you in, if the drop is yours and not shared, call parking enforcement for the area and tell them that someone is parked blocking access.
If they aren't supposed to be there they will get a ticket.

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Mummysboy2014 · 08/03/2017 14:08

I'm not sure whose the middle piece is I'm assuming both as its a kind of path to the alley way which leads to both our gardens

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getdownshep · 08/03/2017 14:08

They have to drive up your dropped kerb at an angle to get onto their drive? I would have a small boundary wall built to separate the two drives, then it's nothing to do with you how they access their drive.
Why can't they have a dropped kerb built on the other side of the tree?

Hillarious · 08/03/2017 14:11

Oh dear, looks like relationships are breaking down here. He doesn't have a dropped kerb directly outside his house because there's a tree there, and the Council are not likely to agree to felling the tree to put in a dropped kerb when he can already access his drive anyway. It looks like he can easily swing onto his drive with minimal, if any, impact on the OP. The dropped kerb and footpath are public highway, even if you or the previous resident paid for the dropped kerb to be put in, so the OP was in the wrong for that reason if she was parked on the public highway and not allowing the neighbour access to their drive.

Is there a reason, other than you don't want him to, for the neighbour not to use the dropped kerb? This all sounds a bit petty, and the pettiness inflated into events last night.

Annesmyth123 · 08/03/2017 14:11

If the bit on the right where the concrete flower pot is is his drive, then he's only driving across the pavement to get on to his drive, not actually on your drive which I initially thought.

In that case, you could go to parking enforcement etc but you'd be a bit of an arse really. And if you can park up on your drive and not block a dropped kerb off a pavement you should, really.

But he shouldn't beep the horn.

londonrach · 08/03/2017 14:11

Just looked at the photo. That blue car is surely on the boundary of both sides. You need to get your plans out. Or better still a diagram.

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Mummysboy2014 · 08/03/2017 14:11

Don't know if this helps

AIBU? Neighthours and dropped kerb
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bloodyteenagers · 08/03/2017 14:11

You really need to look at the deeds.
You are assuming access isn't shared.
You are assuming the path is shared.
They might be fucked off you are parking on their property but don't say anything because they are nice/don't need additional space

Annesmyth123 · 08/03/2017 14:13

And where you blocking the pavement as you parked on the dropped kerb? Because that's not allowed any way? Or is it?

sobeyondthehills · 08/03/2017 14:13

You need to find out who the middle bit belongs to, because if this does start to blow up to be bigger and its their land, you might find you have to park somewhere else.

Don't do anything till you have double checked all your deeds.

Sirzy · 08/03/2017 14:14

That looks like he drives across the pavement not your property?

Nobody should be blocking the pavement anyway

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Mummysboy2014 · 08/03/2017 14:15

There has never been a problem before. I have no problem him accessing his drive but I don't condone his behaviour last night as it was totally unnecessary.

There has not been an issue before as I said I don't have a problem but if this is going to be his behaviour we shall be having a boundary wall or fence put up.

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