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AIBU? Neighthours and dropped kerb

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Mummysboy2014 · 08/03/2017 13:09

Right so we own a bourse with a dropped kerb directly outside our house. Next door do not have a dropped kerb they have a big tree at the end of their driveway assuming they can't get permission for a dropped kerb. Anyway so we have 2 cars next door has one. They use our dropped kerb to access their driveway as they wouldn't be able to access it otherwise. Last night my partners car was parked on our drive, I parked on our dropped kerb and was taking the shopping in. Next door pulled up behind me beeping their horn. I continued to get the things out the car took them to my front door, he beeped the horn again and I shouted wait. I then got the baby aged 5 months out the car and came To the front door to which my partner had now opened the door to see what was going on. I walked back to my car and got my toddler as he didn't want to get out the car. Next door beeped the horn again. Aibu in thinking his an arse and you know what he should be grateful as, Correct me if I'm wrong I'm allowed to park on my dropped kerb. And if it weren't for us he wouldn't be to access his drive without using our dropped kerb.

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mollyminniemo · 08/03/2017 13:51

I would've been over to his car window and given him a (calm) mouthful for hooting and causing a scene and frightening baby when he doesn't even have the right to use it at all, putting you under pressure on your own drive- to take your time is your complete right. I'd have told him to get his own dropped kerb (I don't care if he cant!) as his ungrateful attitude and frankly aggressive behavior- with your baby next to you- now means you wont be allowing him to continue using it. Literally, the red mist would've descended after the first hoot!

Nocabbageinmyeye · 08/03/2017 13:52

But its not YOUR dropped kerb is it? Its the dropped kerb OUTSIDE YOUR house, or am I wrong? So no i don't think you can park across it because it needs to be available to wheelchair users. Is he actually driving on your land or using the dropped kerb outside your house?

Moomintoes · 08/03/2017 13:52

Wow that is so usual! I was imagining how my house is in a corner of a culdesac but I now think they shouldn't be cutting across your drive to access theirs! Why on earth is there a tree there?! They should get that removed

Minniemagoo · 08/03/2017 13:53

I don't see any pics but if his partner has now blocked your driveway it seems like they think they have equal rights to the driveway/dropped kerb. Thats something I would be addressing straight away.

Annesmyth123 · 08/03/2017 13:53

Whoever is in the blue Audi runs a big risk of ripping the arse out of their car with that raised kerb and they're parked like a total twat.

Moomintoes · 08/03/2017 13:54

Unusual not usual!

Nocabbageinmyeye · 08/03/2017 13:55

Ah cross post, nope I see it, he is an arse, and now she is an arse too for blocking you in.

Minniemagoo · 08/03/2017 13:55

Oh I can see them now. First job, boundry wall.

scaryteacher · 08/03/2017 13:56

How far across does the dropped kerb go?
Where is the boundary?
Who owns the bit of path to the right of the Audi?

Nocabbageinmyeye · 08/03/2017 13:56

The blue Audi is the op on her drive is it not?

Annesmyth123 · 08/03/2017 13:56

But there's a raised border kerb right up where the Audi is parked?

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Mummysboy2014 · 08/03/2017 13:57

The pictures show that the drop kerb is directly at the end of driveway. The neighbour has to drive partly on our side as he isn't able to drive straight onto his drive as he got a bloody tree there.

Dp was asleep due to being on nights so was awoken by the beeping of the car

It was 6pm last night this happened.

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Aderyn2016 · 08/03/2017 13:58

I think this hinges on whether they drive across your property to access theirs. You don't have to allow that. If they are driving over communal land and the drop kerb exists with their use in mind as well as yours then you can't reasonably block it. Neither can they.

bonbonours · 08/03/2017 13:58

You can't park in front of or on a dropped kerb at all, even if outside your house. I got a ticket once for parking across my mum's drive with her permission.

But the situation with the neighbour sounds weird and I don't see that they have a right to drive over your drive to get to theirs. If they don't have a dropped kerb their drive is not really designed to be parked on.

gillybeanz · 08/03/2017 13:58

I think you need to contact the Police and ask them to explain the law ito your actual circumstances.

ThornyBird · 08/03/2017 13:58

Why didn't you just pull on to your drive to load shopping/children? Or did I skim read too fast?

SloanyAnne · 08/03/2017 13:58

Build a small boundary wall. Job done.

scaryteacher · 08/03/2017 13:59

You need to let us know who owns the Audi and where the boundary is on the pics.

You also really need to check your deeds as others have advised. Our neighbours have a right of way over our drive, and get really stroppy if I have a tradesman there, even if it isn't blocking their access.

mollyminniemo · 08/03/2017 13:59

Its your dropped kerb. He was lucky enough to be able to use it, but no more. You need to tell him this, I'd feel so pressured every time I came back home and had to unload DC/shopping/bags into house thinking Mr Road rage might turn up hotting at me. Not your fault he has a tree there!

bloodyteenagers · 08/03/2017 13:59

Are you sure your parking on your property? Isn't that raised thing a boundary indicator?

ThornyBird · 08/03/2017 14:00

I am assuming the silver car just out of shot is your partner's car so room for 2 on your drive? Or were they parked differently?

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Mummysboy2014 · 08/03/2017 14:00

The blue Audi is mine. There is a small ramp leading to our house (believe it was due to elderly person living here before the people before us)

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badtime · 08/03/2017 14:00

Are you sure that it isn't shared with them?

My house has a tree in front of it, so we access our drive via a shared dropped kerb (next door is treeless and also has its own dropped kerb). I cannot tell you how much I hate it when those cunts park across the shared one, blocking our access.

callmeadoctor · 08/03/2017 14:01

Clearly he is trespassing! He is an arse!

Annesmyth123 · 08/03/2017 14:02

Looking at the pictures, I thought the divide boundary was up the middle of the Audi from the way the border kerb is.

I'm confused.