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Weird text. Does she know it's her I like? [blush]

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smarties1991 · 04/03/2017 12:58

I very recently came out as lesbian. I've dated several men in my life but nothing has come of it so it's been so freeing to finally be out and proud! :-D

I really like one of my best female friends. I've always known she wasn't lesbian or bisexual so I've just left it.

I have a few drinks and just started telling her about how there's a woman I do like but she's straight so not interested. Caught myself saying too much and swifty changed the subject.

My friend text me today asking if I was going to tell the female friend I liked that I liked her.

I was mortified that she had remembered but I just replied saying 'oh I was just a bit tipsy last night. It's not big deal. I've already forgotten about it. Looking forward to tonight'.

She replied asking why I wasn't going to tell her how I felt.

Annoyed that she had brought the conversation back I said that the woman is not lesbian, does not feel the same, there's no point carrying this on'.

She replied saying I do not know she isn't lesbian and why don't I just tell her.

I then got annoyed and said I do not want to tell her, so please just leave it. I know she isn't lesbian.

Then she replied saying:

' Ah fair enough but you don't know that do you. Right now she's bored. Right now she's sat here doing spreadsheets. Right now she's drinking coffee. Right now she's eating a salad. Right now she's contemplating getting some water from the dispenser. But she's certainly not straight' See you at 6pm.'

HUH? I've not replied. Mumsnet users please help me. What does that even mean?! She couldn't possibly know it's her. Does she think it' someone she works with? I don't even know any of them.

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allchattedout · 04/03/2017 13:41

I don't know what to reply. If I go I would have to be tipsy at least. How awkward if I go and she's only meeting to let me down nicely!

Why would she do that though? If she was not bi/lesbian and she suspected you might have a crush on her, surely it would make sense to just keep it quiet, especially since you had clearly said you were not going to tell the woman. If she wanted to let you know that she was also lesbian/bi, she would not have sent that message and asked to meet you. She was basically telling you that the woman you liked (her) is not straight and that you should tell her. If she was not interested, she would not have encouraged you to tell the woman.

Unless of course she is a huge attention seeking weirdo who is just leading you on, in which care lucky escape if she lets you down. But I am pretty sure you will pull tonight. Congrats.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 04/03/2017 13:41

I'd read it as. She knows you like her and the feelings recuperated

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 04/03/2017 13:41

Well I know I'm not very good at picking up on when someone is interested in me, but even I can see that she's giving you a MASSIVE hint to go for it!!

I do hope you take a chance on this, meet her, be open and upfront and see what happens! PLease.

birdling · 04/03/2017 13:43

I've never been so excited about someone else's date Grin

FaithAgain · 04/03/2017 13:43

Text back 'Looking forward to seeing you later!'. If she is interested (and I think she's making it clear she is!) and you bottle going tonight then she will think she's misread the situation and it may never happen!

BeerMuggles · 04/03/2017 13:44

Exactly Daisychain this aint the movies. People often do shit to bolster their own egos and because they're afraid that new ground lines will leave them isolated. They don't want to nail their colours to the mast but they know they'll miss you if you find some else and even though they don't want to be your significant other they can't help but slow you down finding somebody who can give you exactly what you want.

Have. Been. On. The. Receiving. End. Of. This.

HollyJollyDillydolly · 04/03/2017 13:45

It sounds like she definitely knows. Good luck.

SimonSmithsAmazingDancingBear · 04/03/2017 13:47

You are a bit of a wally, aren't you? Blimey, even I can tell the signs are all there in that one!!

That is a pretty cool message you've had from her and now she's probably wondering if she got the wrong end of the stick and it wasn't her you meant after all...

Reply to her!

CheckpointCharlie2 · 04/03/2017 13:47

Haha me too birdling 🍾 For you for tonight op!

tygr · 04/03/2017 13:49

I hope you've replied. She's gone out on a limb and she's probably doubting it too now - thinking maybe you meant someone else afterall. Unless she's super confident.

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smarties1991 · 04/03/2017 13:52

She's lovely and confident so I don't think she'd be doing any of this for an ego boost. She's plenty of friends.

I've messaged saying 'see you at 6pm'. I'm worried now that's a bit cold.

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Seachangeshell · 04/03/2017 13:52

Hopeless romantic here shamelessly place marking. Good luck op!

Glossolalia · 04/03/2017 13:53

Good luck for tonight, OP!

HostaFireAndIce · 04/03/2017 13:53

OP, if one of my friends told me they fancied someone and I thought it was me, but wasn't interested, there is absolutely no way I would encourage them to tell 'that person', i.e. me, or that 'that person' might well be interested. If she's not interested, surely she would rather avoid that!

HRHCocoa · 04/03/2017 13:53

It means that a new and exciting romance may well be about to start for you.

Congrats!

MollyHopps · 04/03/2017 13:54

OP.....

DO IT DO T DO IT DO IT DO IT DO IT DO IT Grin

Good luck and tell us how it goes. If she is a friend, and you know she is a nice person who isn't one for gossip or two-facedness then it's highly unlikely that she is trying to lure you into telling her.

CalmItKermitt · 04/03/2017 13:55

I don't see how you can possibly interpret her message as anything other than "I know it's me you're interested in and I'm interested right back".

gggrrrargh · 04/03/2017 13:55

Good Luck for tonight, that was a very promising text from her! Smile

ComeOnSpring · 04/03/2017 13:55

If she's one of your best friends just use caution. You could loose her. But it might be a risk worth taking. I'm straight and one of my best male friends wanted an ego massage way back when and let me on a bit and I came a cropper. We couldn't have the same friendship again.

I seriously wish you all the best if you go for it :)

allchattedout · 04/03/2017 13:55

Don't turn up tipsy/drunk- personally I would be a little weirded out by someone who had preloaded before 6 pm. Do order a bottle of wine and see what happens... You don't have to talk about the text straight away. I am so excited for you OP.

aintnobodygottimefodat · 04/03/2017 13:55

Oooh this is lovely! How exciting for you OP.

It's pretty clear she's interested imo.

Enjoy tonight and please let us know how it goes Smile

Tiredmumno1 · 04/03/2017 13:56

Ah I am so excited for you, I hope you have a lovely night, and everything falls into place naturally Smile

ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess · 04/03/2017 13:56

Did you put a kiss? I'm so overinvested in this thread, I actually just found myself flipping through my wardrobe! WTF? I'm staying in and watching telly!

Hassled · 04/03/2017 13:57

I think that's the biggest "I know it's me and I feel the same" hint I've ever seen. It's really, really sweet. Have a fun evening!

SpartaCarcass · 04/03/2017 13:58

Really hope you have a lovely night

She's telling you to TELL the woman ... and then tells you she knows the woman is her:
Right now she's sat here doing spreadsheets means she knows it's her (the here bit)
If she's a good friend she would want you to humiliate yourself. So either she wants you to say so you can talk about it - but MOST likely from what she's said the feeling is mutual.

Good luck!!