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Weird text. Does she know it's her I like? [blush]

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smarties1991 · 04/03/2017 12:58

I very recently came out as lesbian. I've dated several men in my life but nothing has come of it so it's been so freeing to finally be out and proud! :-D

I really like one of my best female friends. I've always known she wasn't lesbian or bisexual so I've just left it.

I have a few drinks and just started telling her about how there's a woman I do like but she's straight so not interested. Caught myself saying too much and swifty changed the subject.

My friend text me today asking if I was going to tell the female friend I liked that I liked her.

I was mortified that she had remembered but I just replied saying 'oh I was just a bit tipsy last night. It's not big deal. I've already forgotten about it. Looking forward to tonight'.

She replied asking why I wasn't going to tell her how I felt.

Annoyed that she had brought the conversation back I said that the woman is not lesbian, does not feel the same, there's no point carrying this on'.

She replied saying I do not know she isn't lesbian and why don't I just tell her.

I then got annoyed and said I do not want to tell her, so please just leave it. I know she isn't lesbian.

Then she replied saying:

' Ah fair enough but you don't know that do you. Right now she's bored. Right now she's sat here doing spreadsheets. Right now she's drinking coffee. Right now she's eating a salad. Right now she's contemplating getting some water from the dispenser. But she's certainly not straight' See you at 6pm.'

HUH? I've not replied. Mumsnet users please help me. What does that even mean?! She couldn't possibly know it's her. Does she think it' someone she works with? I don't even know any of them.

OP posts:
Mummyoflittledragon · 04/03/2017 21:48

Wow how lovely!!

MiddleClassProblem · 04/03/2017 21:50

daisychain01 I dunno. To be posting 4 weeks ago about a date with a guy that she didn't fancy at first but then started to like that just left the date and to be wondering if he was going to get back in touch to then being not bi but a lesbian seems a bit of a leap to me.

PutTheBunnyBackInTheBox · 04/03/2017 21:51

It looks like I've joined the deleted club! Shall we start our own thread? Grin

HarryPottersMagicWand · 04/03/2017 21:53

I'm assuming as MNHQ haven't pulled the thread, they think it's genuine as presumably it's been reported?

Lessthanaballpark · 04/03/2017 21:55

Yeah but that date with the guy (that she didn't really like but was trying to) could have been the catalyst for the epiphany that she was gay.

NewnessMoo · 04/03/2017 22:06

Aw nooo, please don't tell me this is not for real! Sad

MiddleClassProblem · 04/03/2017 22:06

Maybe Less but then why post about it?

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 04/03/2017 22:06

Was it all bollocks then?

Oh well, was nice while it lasted.

I thought holding past posts against someone was frowned on.

I haven't ASed but couldn't someone have an epiphany in the space of a few days, and be inconsistent with previous posts?

ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess · 04/03/2017 22:07

The only things that jump out at me (and I completely believed/still want to believe) are the fact that twice the OP claims she was 'annoyed' by this woman asking about her crush. If I really fancied someone, I'd be quite excited about their curiosity, not 'annoyed'. And the fact that the crush texts about herself in the third person is a bit unusual. Also the time change for the date and the declaration "She's mine!". I dunno. Hope it is true bit feeling a bit jaded right now.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 04/03/2017 22:08

Lessthanaballpark - or it could have been the bloke at work who acted all weird around her and she didn't know what to think.

Damn. I thought this was a lovely "feel good" happy ending thread. I hope it is really.

WorraLiberty · 04/03/2017 22:17

I'm assuming as MNHQ haven't pulled the thread, they think it's genuine as presumably it's been reported?

They have no way of knowing if anything is genuine, unless an OP has posted something directly contradicting themselves, in a previous NN.

I'm assuming they haven't pulled the thread because the OP hasn't broken any rules.

GuiltyPleasure · 04/03/2017 22:26

I don't think someone's past posts should necessarily be held against them, even if they appear to be inconsistent with their current posts. I'm somewhat surprised that the OP would have taken time to comment on another post "mid-date". Well done though to the OP for coming back to the thread for an update at exactly the time they said they would Wink

DailyMailDontStealMyThread · 04/03/2017 22:37

I've taken so long to read from beginning to end I'm posting to see if the the thread is still here.

Sweets101 · 04/03/2017 22:40

Ha Daily Grin
I have AS OP, can't see any other posts from today. I do think previous threads sound like someone looking for a meaningful relationship and actually kind of tallies with someone who has recently come out.
Real life has a tendency to be a bit Hmm Confused Shock ime.

MiddleClassProblem · 04/03/2017 22:41

I hope you're right

RedBullBlood · 04/03/2017 22:44

I'd be surprised if anyone was genuinely upset to find out that the story was fake (if it is). It's relatively harmless, after all.

MiddleClassProblem · 04/03/2017 22:46

Not upset, just disappointed like when you accidentally hear a spoiler of a film you were looking forward to seeing lol

TheImprobableGirl · 04/03/2017 23:56

Alternatively op could be...ahem knee fist deep in sorting out her lovelife! Who knows?!

MermaidsTears · 05/03/2017 00:03

So so hope this is real

ItShouldHaveBeenJingleJess · 05/03/2017 00:08

Let's just imagine they are both snuggled up in bed and she'll let us know in the morning..

ScarletSienna · 05/03/2017 00:12

You said in OP that you have always known she wasn't lesbian or bisexual yet you then said she is genuinely bisexual and has been with more women than men?

PickAChew · 05/03/2017 00:20

Gosh, OP flips fast.
Reckoning the colleague i the more certain one.

Phoebesgift · 05/03/2017 00:26

Perhaps the OP only knew of her male relationships? Hope this thread isn't a wind up though.

sameoldscene · 05/03/2017 05:36

They were really good friends... but op didn't know her friend had been with more women than men?
They must have kept rather light Confused

MollyHopps · 05/03/2017 07:34

OMGOMGOM

OP, I am so happy about your most recent update. How wonderful Grin

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