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Original poster

Weird text. Does she know it's her I like? [blush]

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smarties1991 · 04/03/2017 12:58

I very recently came out as lesbian. I've dated several men in my life but nothing has come of it so it's been so freeing to finally be out and proud! :-D

I really like one of my best female friends. I've always known she wasn't lesbian or bisexual so I've just left it.

I have a few drinks and just started telling her about how there's a woman I do like but she's straight so not interested. Caught myself saying too much and swifty changed the subject.

My friend text me today asking if I was going to tell the female friend I liked that I liked her.

I was mortified that she had remembered but I just replied saying 'oh I was just a bit tipsy last night. It's not big deal. I've already forgotten about it. Looking forward to tonight'.

She replied asking why I wasn't going to tell her how I felt.

Annoyed that she had brought the conversation back I said that the woman is not lesbian, does not feel the same, there's no point carrying this on'.

She replied saying I do not know she isn't lesbian and why don't I just tell her.

I then got annoyed and said I do not want to tell her, so please just leave it. I know she isn't lesbian.

Then she replied saying:

' Ah fair enough but you don't know that do you. Right now she's bored. Right now she's sat here doing spreadsheets. Right now she's drinking coffee. Right now she's eating a salad. Right now she's contemplating getting some water from the dispenser. But she's certainly not straight' See you at 6pm.'

HUH? I've not replied. Mumsnet users please help me. What does that even mean?! She couldn't possibly know it's her. Does she think it' someone she works with? I don't even know any of them.

OP posts:
StillaChocoholic · 04/03/2017 13:10

Noo, you have to turn up, she is interested! She wouldn't have been pressing you on it so much and then sent that message if she wasn't.
Meet her tonight, take a chance and have some fun! Good luck

Crispbutty · 04/03/2017 13:11

She couldn't have made it much more obvious in those texts that she is definitely interested in you!! Go for it!

Elledouble · 04/03/2017 13:12

SHE KNOWS SHE KNOWS SHE KNOWS!

Cut your nails and have a good night Wink

GlitteryFluff · 04/03/2017 13:13

She definitely knows!

Original poster
smarties1991 · 04/03/2017 13:13

You reckon?

I've not replied yet.

OP posts:
Sweets101 · 04/03/2017 13:13

Jeez OP are you reading the same message as the rest of us? You definitely need to go tonight!

Original poster
smarties1991 · 04/03/2017 13:14

Cut your nails and have a good night wink*

elledouble !!!!!!!

Grin
OP posts:
streetch · 04/03/2017 13:14

She's telling you she likes you too! You have to go to meet her and report back!

cloudchasing · 04/03/2017 13:14

smarties come on now. She couldn't be any more obvious that she knows and she likes you back. How exciting!

Original poster
smarties1991 · 04/03/2017 13:15

Don't kill me for this.

But maybe she just wants me to know that she knows. But that doesn't mean she is interested.

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Tiredmumno1 · 04/03/2017 13:15

Someone think of a good response for her Grin

It does seem very positive though OP Wink

OurBlanche · 04/03/2017 13:15

You bloody idiot! You have been given one of the BIGGEST hints I have ever seen and you say she was being unnecessary, as if she has been mean!

Get your glad rags on and go and glom the face off her, cos smarties, that reds like you have pulled!

Tiredmumno1 · 04/03/2017 13:16

Her last message makes it show she is interested Smile

OurBlanche · 04/03/2017 13:17

reads

Your response:

Can't have you being bored, finish that spreadsheet and meet me at...

BonnyScotland · 04/03/2017 13:18

I'm feart......... I NEED to KNOW .....

OnionKnight · 04/03/2017 13:18

She knows so why are you considering not going? She wasn't being rude.

lazarusb · 04/03/2017 13:22

The only way she could let you know she's more interested than that message is to turn up naked! Please go, you could be missing one of the best opportunities in your life if you don't.

She likes you. Big time.

Original poster
smarties1991 · 04/03/2017 13:22

Thanks everyone. Just worried she only wanted to know. There's nothing that says she likes me in that message. Only that she knows.

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ToastVacuum · 04/03/2017 13:22

The signs are looking good OP, go for it Smile

shesnotme · 04/03/2017 13:23

She likes you.

tygr · 04/03/2017 13:24

Oh gosh. Her text made me smile in anticipation. How are you reading it the other way?

She's certainly not straight - she said that. So you have much more of a chance than you thought you did. In your shoes I would go for it. Good luck!

ShowMePotatoSalad · 04/03/2017 13:24

She knows you like her and she likes you. Why on earth would she say all that otherwise. Read between the not so subtle lines OP!

AnnieAnoniMouse · 04/03/2017 13:26

Look - unless she had actually said 'I am lesbian & I want you' she couldn't have been any clearer.

HOWEVER, my advice would be - this is one of your best friends, they are much harder to find & are very valuable in life. Go carefully & put your friendship first at all times.

On another serious note, do you know if you are on the autistic spectrum? I'd seriously consider getting yourself checked out, if you don't know because her comments are really clear. Or it could be nerves! But if you find yourself frequently confused about things like thus, it'd be worth looking into.

Enjoy tonight 💐
Gory details welcome tomorrow 😂

ThePants999 · 04/03/2017 13:26

Good Lord. Everyone goes on about how men can't take hints and need it spelled out for them - here's a text that couldn't be ANY more obvious and you're misreading it.

You. Are. IN. There.

OurBlanche · 04/03/2017 13:26

Wait... you say, please stop, she isn't interested...

She replies: you don't know that and goes on to tell you what she is doing... she is sat here doing spreadsheets...

Well.... to me that pretty indicative of interest.

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