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Weird text. Does she know it's her I like? [blush]

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smarties1991 · 04/03/2017 12:58

I very recently came out as lesbian. I've dated several men in my life but nothing has come of it so it's been so freeing to finally be out and proud! :-D

I really like one of my best female friends. I've always known she wasn't lesbian or bisexual so I've just left it.

I have a few drinks and just started telling her about how there's a woman I do like but she's straight so not interested. Caught myself saying too much and swifty changed the subject.

My friend text me today asking if I was going to tell the female friend I liked that I liked her.

I was mortified that she had remembered but I just replied saying 'oh I was just a bit tipsy last night. It's not big deal. I've already forgotten about it. Looking forward to tonight'.

She replied asking why I wasn't going to tell her how I felt.

Annoyed that she had brought the conversation back I said that the woman is not lesbian, does not feel the same, there's no point carrying this on'.

She replied saying I do not know she isn't lesbian and why don't I just tell her.

I then got annoyed and said I do not want to tell her, so please just leave it. I know she isn't lesbian.

Then she replied saying:

' Ah fair enough but you don't know that do you. Right now she's bored. Right now she's sat here doing spreadsheets. Right now she's drinking coffee. Right now she's eating a salad. Right now she's contemplating getting some water from the dispenser. But she's certainly not straight' See you at 6pm.'

HUH? I've not replied. Mumsnet users please help me. What does that even mean?! She couldn't possibly know it's her. Does she think it' someone she works with? I don't even know any of them.

OP posts:
AnthonyPandy · 04/03/2017 14:26

She eats salad and drinks coffee at the same time? I'm not sure whether to be impressed or worried about her digestive system. ShockGrin

Have a good time tonight but look after your digestion too!

RaspberryOverloadsOnChilli · 04/03/2017 14:27

This has made me smile. I really hope it's the start of something good. Thanks

StumblyMonkey · 04/03/2017 14:28
Grin
Valentine2 · 04/03/2017 14:29

placemarking

NeedMoreSleepOrSugar · 04/03/2017 14:30

Aww, her message sounds very like one I sent my now DH just before we started seeing each other. I'm glad you're going! Enjoy tonight! 😁

HelgaHufflepuff76 · 04/03/2017 14:33

What WeAreEternal said. If she wasn't interested there is no way she would have responded that way. She could've never mentioned it again and you could've carried on as friends.
If I were you I'd see her tonight with the expectation of having a nice evening with a friend and just see what develops. You don't need to worry Smile

Inertia · 04/03/2017 14:33

Was just thinking what Bewty said - if you think back to the tipsy conversation, did you just blurt out that you liked a particular woman, or was your friend taking an equal lead? It definitely sounds like she's interested - don't let your embarrassment crush both of your hopes.

jinglestheelf · 04/03/2017 14:33

I think she's definitely sending positive signals. Go out, mildly flirt with her a bit and see what happens!

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smarties1991 · 04/03/2017 14:34

I've always thought she was straight. Dated a few men since I've known her.

She's very feminine so didn't see anything remotely lesbian in her.

But then I couldn't be more feminine if I tried so it was silly of me to presume. Absolutely no one knows I'm lesbian until I tell them.

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MoominMamma3 · 04/03/2017 14:35

My first and only shameless placemark. NEED to know how this turns out! Go for it OP!

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smarties1991 · 04/03/2017 14:36

The conversation came about because she asked me if I had met any nice ladies since I'd come out.

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Onemorewonthurt · 04/03/2017 14:36

In the bag op! How nice Grin

WowserBowser · 04/03/2017 14:36

Good luck

user1487175389 · 04/03/2017 14:38

Sounds like she knows. Hope it all goes really well. Hopefully she'll be one of the 'straight' bi women who are looking for more than an ego boost. Sorry. Voice of bitter experience here. Just ignore me and have a great time.

theoracleofdelphi · 04/03/2017 14:39

She wants you to make a move on her! Go for it! She couldn't have been clearer!!!!Flowers

ferriswheel · 04/03/2017 14:40

Yeah. What everyone else said!

DancingOnMyOwn · 04/03/2017 14:40

Good luck for tonight Smile

MunchMunch · 04/03/2017 14:42

Op if you've misinterpreted it then so has everyone else!

She likes you! Go for it, you don't have to go straight in for a snog but say something like "did you manage to finish your spreadsheets" or "how was the salad!" Then she'll know that you know that she knows that mystery woman is her Grin

You'll have a relationship built on a good friendship, sounds like a good start to me.

user1487175389 · 04/03/2017 14:44

Also, if she likes you, I'm not sure what's stopping her from just telling you. Maybe she's got that planned for later.

Zoflorabore · 04/03/2017 14:51

Woo hoo op! Get thee to the bathroom for a pamper Grin

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/03/2017 14:53

Hope all goes well. My heart is smiling x

Castieldeansam · 04/03/2017 14:59

good luck.

Ginkypig · 04/03/2017 14:59

Good luck smarties.

Whatever happens you will be ok!

twinkie81 · 04/03/2017 15:00

I've never placemarked before but I just have to! Good luck and have a fantastic night! Looking forward to the update!

AnneEyhtMeyer · 04/03/2017 15:00

Placemarking good luck from me too!

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