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To have asked for £160 from a single mum on income support

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lucindia · 03/03/2017 19:54

I'm a childminder. I looked after a child for a single mum on income support. She was doing the 15 hours free hours. She phoned to tell me she would be sending her daughter to the local school in 4 weeks time.

So I contacted the funding department to explain that I would no longer be having the child and the date that would start.

They got back to me and said they would only be able to pay the first week of the notice period and the rest would have to be paid for by the parent.

Even though the mum had given me a months notice, I didn't actually have her child at all during that month. The day she text to say she would be going to school in a months time, was the day she stopped coming to me as the Mum was visiting family for a month.

But I was still entitled to be paid for that month. It was also a compulsory notice period.

So I sent a very polite message to the Mum explaining that she would have a balance of £160 to pay as the funding department could only pay 1 weeks notice.

She said that was fine but would need to wait until her income support payment came in the next day and would then send me that. She would send the £60 the following week from her child tax credit.

I thought nothing of it.

I mentioned it in passing to my mother in law (who I get on very well with) and she said she couldn't believe I made her pay £160 when I never even looked after her child for that notice period month and that seeing as my husband and I have a joint income of 40k we could have easily afford to let her off with the £160 which was a lot for a single mum on income support.

I never considered I was doing anything wrong. I'm entitled to be paid for that month and there's a notice period for a reason.

I really like the girls mum and we always had a great relationship when her daughter was with me. She's been with me from before she was 1 as her mum was finishing university.

What do you think. Was I unreasonable to ask for the money?

She's on benefits but qualified in a professional job and job hunting. So does have options.

OP posts:
Maddison12 · 06/02/2021 01:32

You didn't look after the child in the notice period so there was no 'unpaid work.'
Sorry but I think you were really mean to take the money. On income support she was probably left with nothing for that fortnight after paying you.

viques · 06/02/2021 03:17

She owed you money, she paid what she owed. Good for her, being a single parent doesn’t automatically mean that you choose to live your life not paying your way and expecting to live off other peoples good will and/or charity.

kittycorner · 06/02/2021 05:50

I wouldn't have charged it. For me it's not about the contract, but doing the right thing.

At most I would have charged 1/2.

I mean you didn't have the child, just seems a bit much to charge the full amount.

TheCatThatGotTheCream · 06/02/2021 06:58

YANBU at all. You and her have a contract and she doesn't have any issue with paying, does she? To the people saying that they couldn't have taken it off her, I doubt they'd be happy if they handed in their notice and work said to them that they could work from home for the last month. However during that month, there was no actual work sent on to them to do and then their boss turned around at the end and said actually we're not paying you because there wasn't any work. They'd be pissed off I should imagine. So why is your time any less valued? That was a space that you could've filled and gotten money from.

Wyntersdiary · 06/02/2021 08:36

I wouldn't have either charge half price or not charge at all as i know how hard it is being on benefits.

But you arent unreasonable asking for it

SparkysMagicPiano · 06/02/2021 09:32

@FrameyMcFrame

Yes. Do you really need to ask this?
@FrameyMcFrame

She probably resolved it in 2017
Why on earth did you resurrect this thread?

KarmaStar · 06/02/2021 11:29

Legally,yanbu.
Morally,that's for you to decide,nobody else.

MaLarkinn · 06/02/2021 12:08

Yes I think you were very mean to ask especially as you didn't mind the child.

ThatsnotmyBorishishairistoneat · 06/02/2021 19:10

Depends what the contract said

ThatsnotmyBorishishairistoneat · 06/02/2021 19:10

Personally I would of let her off if I could.

FlapAttack23 · 06/02/2021 19:15

If she’s on universal credit she may be able to claim back 85 per cent of that cost

SparkysMagicPiano · 07/02/2021 09:18

@FlapAttack23

If she’s on universal credit she may be able to claim back 85 per cent of that cost
Four years later?

Really?

cadburyegg · 07/02/2021 09:26

I’m a single mum, although I work and I do get UC too but I wouldn’t expect to be treated differently due to my financial situation. In fact, I don’t want people to feel sorry for me and treat me differently. You’re running a business, not a charity. YANBU

cadburyegg · 07/02/2021 09:26

Oh sorry missed this is a zombie thread!

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