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Does anyone remember the bride in Wales charging £££ for hotel rooms?

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cousinswedding · 01/03/2017 22:53

I don't know of any of you will remember me. I posted months ago when my cousin was planning her wedding in a Welsh castle hundreds of miles away from where we all live. Her wedding is a three day event starting on a Thursday and she asked us to pay to stay in the rooms (£160 per night). When other pulled out she contacted us and said the rooms had gone up so were now £180 so at least £360 for accommodation but more likely three nights so £540. Just for accommodation. My mum is pressuring me to go and we have booked it and waved goodbye to the prospect of a family holiday.

Anyway- cousin and I (used to be close she's been a nightmare in all this) got together today as she wanted to come over and see my outfit for the wedding (in two weeks). She got really frosty with me as my dress is a nude colour- is this a thing?? She's asking me to change it and wear something else. The dress is new and was bought specifically for this occasion and I do have an old green one I could wear but I have worn it to another family wedding and I don't like it that much. The dress I've bought is not cream, more like a pale peach. The bride is wearing white.

I'm loathe to waste more money (can't take it back took the tags off) and resent being ordered around like this. Is nude ok for a wedding or AIBU?

OP posts:
DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 02/03/2017 13:48

Her next reply had better be as classy as yours.

LeninaCrowne · 02/03/2017 13:50

I give this marriage 6 months tops.

Glitteryfrog · 02/03/2017 13:53

I give this marriage 6 months tops.

Yep, if the wedding happens. I think they'll piss everyone off and cancel the whole thing...

JammyGem · 02/03/2017 13:55

Honestly I'd just not go. Your relationship with her is never going to be the same after all this anyway. Sounds like a few others have dropped out as well if the room prices have gone up.

FilmaWlintstone · 02/03/2017 13:55

Uh...

Not sure if anyone has made this point but it sounds like she might think you look a lot prettier in her dress than yours 😂

I'm getting married this year and bridezilla threads like this scare me GrinConfused

clairethewitch70 · 02/03/2017 13:55

Is she being this controlling with other guests or is it just you?

Jackiebrambles · 02/03/2017 13:56

What an absolutely raving cunt from hell!!

Tell her to fucking do one. Cancel hotel, send back gift.

JammyGem · 02/03/2017 13:57

Also I'm getting married this year and would never dream of getting our guests to pay for the wedding, I'm aware that travel/accommodation is already going to cost them enough. And vetting people's outfits?! She's lost it!

diddl · 02/03/2017 13:57

By your husband going bananas, do you mean that he would do the sensible thing & call time on the whole charade?

PlumsGalore · 02/03/2017 14:00

Go in black, with a veil.

gaaahhhh · 02/03/2017 14:03

I remember the other thread. Ask her if you can just wear jeans and a nice top grin. Or even better, tell her you have bought a new dress and get your £19 dress altered slightly so it become kneelength!! ha

gaaahhhh · 02/03/2017 14:04

Why can't I get my smileys right anymore!! Grin better.

GreyStars · 02/03/2017 14:04

I would be telling her to fuck right off at this point!

Regardless of whether I could afford it or not, it's a disgusting way to treat people.

GreyStars · 02/03/2017 14:06

And the dress is beautiful by the way, I would never have thought that was £19 Grin in fact when I first saw the update assuming it was much more I thought she was even more of a rude cow than I currently do who would think that was possible

PunjanaTea · 02/03/2017 14:09

Are you married OP? If so, and you still have it I suggest you go in your wedding dress Wink

RegTheMonkey1 · 02/03/2017 14:10

FFS, everyone in the family running around enabling this entitled behaviour from this cow. Show the reply to your husband, let him go bananas, it's time SOMEBODY did! I'm agreeing with others, if you don't lose a deposit etc, then I would cancel and go on holiday and wear your lovely dress. Why subject yourself to this horrorshow?

TheSnorkMaidenReturns · 02/03/2017 14:11

I remember your earlier thread, so have read all the way through. OMG! I can't believe that response. How dare she!

Hope things don't kick off too badly for you with your DM.

Fluffycloudland77 · 02/03/2017 14:15

Time to bow out op.

3 days of enforced fun will not be fun.

I never had a dress code for my wedding, people know how to dress for a wedding.

PasswordInvalid · 02/03/2017 14:15

The dress is beautiful OP! The bride sounds dreadfully spoilt and entitled. Go with the dress.

Original poster
cousinswedding · 02/03/2017 14:15

I'm going round to my mum's I'll update soon

OP posts:
WaegukSaram · 02/03/2017 14:16

If you're going to fall out over the dress, you might as well fall out over pulling out of the whole shebang. Can you still do that and get your money back? Not. Worth. It.

user1486737884 · 02/03/2017 14:16

Let your husband go bananas, someone has to. You need to bow out, this is not going to get any better.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 02/03/2017 14:18

Totally your decision of course OP, but I do hope you don't allow your DM to railroad you into anything further, in the interests of "keeping the peace"

It's usually a great aim, but for me the whole thing would have gone just too far now Sad

FreeNiki · 02/03/2017 14:18

What do you mean you can't afford another dress? You only spent £19 on that one anyway."

I dont mean to be unkind to you but in a way you are bringing this upon yourself.

I have been there and learned the hard way. Now if I get messages like that I dont dignify with an answer and cut them off for a while. I let them back in and if they do it again they're cut off again.

If you go to this wedding well.....you kind of deserve what you get.

bigbuttons · 02/03/2017 14:20

FGS don't go OP. This woman is a nightmare.

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