Does anyone remember the bride in Wales charging £££ for hotel rooms?

[cousinswedding]

I don't know of any of you will remember me. I posted months ago when my cousin was planning her wedding in a Welsh castle hundreds of miles away from where we all live. Her wedding is a three day event starting on a Thursday and she asked us to pay to stay in the rooms (£160 per night). When other pulled out she contacted us and said the rooms had gone up so were now £180 so at least £360 for accommodation but more likely three nights so £540. Just for accommodation. My mum is pressuring me to go and we have booked it and waved goodbye to the prospect of a family holiday.

Anyway- cousin and I (used to be close she's been a nightmare in all this) got together today as she wanted to come over and see my outfit for the wedding (in two weeks). She got really frosty with me as my dress is a nude colour- is this a thing?? She's asking me to change it and wear something else. The dress is new and was bought specifically for this occasion and I do have an old green one I could wear but I have worn it to another family wedding and I don't like it that much. The dress I've bought is not cream, more like a pale peach. The bride is wearing white.

I'm loathe to waste more money (can't take it back took the tags off) and resent being ordered around like this. Is nude ok for a wedding or AIBU?

Some people have a real cheek! It's hard if it's family. My mum is just the same. Easier if it's a not so close friend but family is a lot harder.

I'd be tempted to decline but if you feel it's easier to go I'd not be changing my dress.

Tell it anyway, Witch

I bet I'm not the only one who wants to read it.

So I've had a reply and it's worse than ever and now I'm

From cousin:

"What do you mean you can't afford another dress? You only spent £19 on that one anyway."

Ffs stop letting people bully you. Wear what you want.
I wouldn't personally stay at the hotel due tooth the cost and the fact I wouldn't want to subsidise someone's wedding but you have made a different choice.

OMFG!!!

Claire, I doubt OP will give away something that identifying but please tell us the story anyway!!

I can't show that to DH he will go bananas

Crikey YANBU at all.

I'm looking forward to hearing how she responds to you not joining the festivities till Friday!

Oh dear, she's too far gone. When you start reviewing and dictating what the guests will wear there is no hope left.

Just take the route you think she is joking, text back saying "lol cheeky 😂" and leave it at that. And wear the dress. I suspect the issue is you look great in it.

That dress is beautiful.

Here's what you need to do;
Tell the bride from hell to fuck off
Cancel your booking at the hotel
Book a family holiday
Wear your lovely dress on holiday with your family where you might actually enjoy yourself

I cannot understand why you are being such a pushover. Come on, she's bloody awful!!

OK - response:

"I hope that was meant as a joke as we have spent a fortune on your day so far? It's not usual for the bride to veto guest outfits and as you never notified anyone of a dress code beforehand I will be wearing my £19 dress. I don't want us to fall out over something so trivial when what is important is everyone being together and celebrating your marriage."

This is probably the first time in all the years i have been on MN that I have ever been tempted to reply to a bridezilla thread..

but seriously OP. She is barking.. Just cancel.. its not going to end well either way

Send a card and the picture frame..

Omg - she has a massive cheek.

You are a better woman than I am Wedding.

I would have lost it

I'd be so tempted to tell this woman to stick it where the fun doesn't shine.

sun not fun lol

"What do you mean you can't afford another dress? You only spent £19 on that one anyway"

Oh dear

Only one possible answer, in my view - a message saying "I assume you sent this by mistake"

Craig Y Nos Castle is extremely haunted. It was owned by an Opera Singer called Adelina Patti. After her death the house became a sanatorium.

My DF spent 2 years there as a child with his 2nd bout of TB (1950's).When the nurses were asleep, the children used to wander the castle ghost hunting. Apparently the operating theatre was massively haunted and the children held seances there and around the castle. He saw her ghost many times. He was a sceptical person, but always said ghosts exist because he saw her there many times.

Watching avidly....

What a restrained response, you are a saint

Wear the dress, tell the bride where to go. If it is Craig Y now castle tell her it was a Sanitorium.

"What do you mean you can't afford another dress? You only spent £19 on that one anyway."

She's a cunt. £19 or £190, your money and not for her to comment on what you can or can't afford.

Well done for commenting on how much you're already spending.

If you've already sent it, that's a pretty good reply, OP - I wouldn't have tried to justify myself personally as you really don't need to, but I like the comment about what the important thing really is

Can I ask why you don't want to show the message to your DH though? After all, what does it matter if he "goes bananas"? Maybe somebody needs to ...

Please - for the love of god - tell this bitch to ftfo.

Cancel the hotel, book a meal with your dh and wear your lovely dress there

Don't even bother with her wedding present, she literally doesn't deserve a thing from you.

She's ripping you all off AND being rude. She needs to ftfo, and your mum should be ashamed of herself pressuring you to fall in line with this crap, she should defend her family and call this idiots parent and tell them to rein her in once and for all.