With the matriarch thing, some how ex SIL lined herself up for the role whilst poor Mum was still alive. She'd organise family 'events' then poor Mum would have to cater, whilst ex SIL did fancy really unnecessary stuff.
It blew my mind that everyone ran round her, she had the same pregnancy thing, first time nightmare. It was getting too much, for a brief period some family didn't talk, she was wailing how awful it was as family were missing out on this super special time. You'd honestly think she was the first person to get pregnant.
She saw me get hyperemesis twice, plus we had losses so we got HCG checks, progesterone level checks and scans. She seemed livid that no matter what she said they didn't want to scan her early, all the way through there would be something. Like I agree certain foods make you feel green in pregnancy, for me it was a few things, unfortunately garlic was one. Especially garlic breath which is bad enough when you're not pregnant. She pretty much had a tome of foods that had to be avoided 48 hours before seeing her. Nausea is something I deal with generally anyway, she made a lot of fuss for someone super nauseated, plus she'd vomit in front of everyone too. Admittedly sometimes it can't be avoided, but I was pretty much in bed or in the en suite. I remember nearly passing out booking a dental appointment, hearing the gore of advice post extraction. She happily watched videos of cysts being 'dealt' with, which I don't think I'd cope with now.
But yes, if there's a honeymoon baby, best way to try and trap an apprehensive groom to be, especially one trying to put their foot down but failing. You'll easily have 8 months of material for us, as they pretty much announce it from bloody conception with ovulation kits. I found that quite distasteful jumping on the 2 week wait, to see if you get a positive test. Usually they (we're talking none fertility tx & none loss women) like to have a test every 48 hours like a DIY blood test, so major panic if you get crappy tests and the line doesn't get darker. I can pretty much picture it now. Your Mums excitement at the third generation progeny. Your experiences will be null and void, don't dare think about day dreaming back to when you were expecting, this will ALL be about her.