Does anyone remember the bride in Wales charging £££ for hotel rooms?

[cousinswedding]

I don't know of any of you will remember me. I posted months ago when my cousin was planning her wedding in a Welsh castle hundreds of miles away from where we all live. Her wedding is a three day event starting on a Thursday and she asked us to pay to stay in the rooms (£160 per night). When other pulled out she contacted us and said the rooms had gone up so were now £180 so at least £360 for accommodation but more likely three nights so £540. Just for accommodation. My mum is pressuring me to go and we have booked it and waved goodbye to the prospect of a family holiday.

Anyway- cousin and I (used to be close she's been a nightmare in all this) got together today as she wanted to come over and see my outfit for the wedding (in two weeks). She got really frosty with me as my dress is a nude colour- is this a thing?? She's asking me to change it and wear something else. The dress is new and was bought specifically for this occasion and I do have an old green one I could wear but I have worn it to another family wedding and I don't like it that much. The dress I've bought is not cream, more like a pale peach. The bride is wearing white.

I'm loathe to waste more money (can't take it back took the tags off) and resent being ordered around like this. Is nude ok for a wedding or AIBU?

If - IF - you can afford it, I would pay for the room. Gives her fuck all come back and would show you to be the bigger, more generous person in the mix. No way would I give her the satisfaction of 'and I had to cover her toom. No. Fucking. WY. (If I could afford it).

Moral passive aggressive high ground aaaaaaaalllllll the way.

Italic and typo fails a go-go. Soz.

Cross posted.

"and doesn't realise the extent to which cousin has been tormenting me."

Perhaps you should make it clear then.

This has been a super read while I got my baby to sleep! Go OP, be proud of yourself. I I remember your last thread. How long has this madness been going on for? More than a year? Have a good sleep tonight and tomorrow you should book your hols!

That's a rubbish idea! Spend the money on a family holiday like you planed!

She can stuff off

She can't afford to throw about £500 on a room she's not going to use, Pringle. They were going to go without a holiday for the sake of this wedding.

SO glad you're not going, OP.

Well if cousin does what she has already done, she will up the price for everyone else & if they are stupid enough to pay it, more fool them!

Don't be sucked back into the drama or for paying for anything, OP.

Well done, don't let her wriggle her way back in!

Not related but light relief given the context and some of the bridezilla stories we hear! http://waterfordwhispersnews.com/2017/03/02/save-thousands-on-your-wedding-costs-by-accepting-that-nobody-gives-a-fuck/?utmsource=WWNNFacebookPage&utmmmedium=Facebook&utmcampaign=SociallLink&utmcontent=Article

dingdong

Really want to post that on Facebook.

Brilliant dingdong

dingdong spot on

That article is spot on. People just want to feel welcome, enjoy the celebration and be fed and watered. That is all.

I wonder if she is the Queen of all Bridezillas! She will take some beating.

I bought a dress from Asos for £16 before. Bloody bargain! If you hadn't told her the price, she would never have guessed it was so cheap.

What an utter bitch! I hope you can get your side across to your family as no doubt she will be trashing you. Just think, no twatting games!

Our £500 wedding was a registry office in a dour 1960s council office, followed party for about 40 in our back garden.. ( with 'marquee' aka garden gazebo). but we had lots of lush food (made ourselves ) and champagne.. I wore a silk Monsoon dress, I bought from ebay for £80.. The weather (July) was stunning, luckily

That sounds lovely, Laska. Perfect, in fact - glad you're still happy.

I just find it hard to get over the vulgar aspirational bad taste - if your everyday life doesn't involve castles or whatever, then why pretend? Particularly if you can't afford it. It's just tacky & vulgar.

What a bitch!

Really want to post that on Facebook

Double dare you...

Please hold your head up high, and be proud for maintaining sanity while all around you buy into the craziness.

Sooooooo glad you are not going.
without being mean, your cousin needs to feel the effects of her behaviour, she can't push people around, be difficult, twist the truth, and come out of it feeling good, it's not how the world works.

Have a great holiday, and swan about in your £19 frock looking a million dollars

I love that article.

I just remembered that I got banned from a wedding years ago, I was meant to be bridesmaid. Had a minor disagreement with Btb not wedding related and it escalated into a full scale war in which we barely spoke for a couple of years or more.

She eventually (when we made nice years later) went on and on and on about her wedding and how I could have come if only I did this and this and I said matter of factly back that I dont care about her wedding or that I wasnt invited and didnt even cross my mind at all and did she think that was all I had to worry me?

Her face was

She didnt expect that.

Fuck it OP and tell it like it is and like that article says: no one gives a shit.

Thanks off the cuff we still have people saying how fab our wedding was..

One dear remembrence I have of the day was is of a good friend sitting tucking into a huge bowl of beautiful cherries ( not the sort of thing we usually indulged in buying !) with a huge grin on his faceas they were such a treat..

People did bring wine and bubbly also, but not by request from us .. I think a garden party guest does tend to turn up with an offering or two.. We wouldnt have dreamt of asking for contributions.. (but then I dont think people did in those days) just wanted our guests to have a good time..

Btw .. weve been married only 13 years ( ebay wasnt around 20+yrs ago ) but have been together 24 years.. (we didnt like to rush into things!!) .. I still have, and sometimes wear, that silk dress.. Its blue, I could wear it to a wedding!

Glad you stood up for your family, hope you mum comes around to your thinking soon.

I'm wondering how many other guest will now decide to drop now someone has been pushed too far as well.

good for you op, your family sound hard work

Cousin

Hahaha I dare you!
Not one single lonesome fuck 😂😂😂 too funny... and too true!

it is true, no one gives a bugger really and these weddings where you need to get everyone new clothes, spend ages getting there and paying for a hotel room, then give a present and spend money at the bar....too be honest it's all a pain in the arse

send me a photo every time!

Nude is fine for a wedding.
What sort of weddings do you go too KoolKoala?!

Ahem. Bajoran weddings, of course! Sheesh, no Trekkie, thou.