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To not want to use the gift.

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Mumtobe12 · 01/03/2017 21:16

Now I don't want to sound ungrateful but MIL is very excited about new arrival which is lovely. But the other day she brought us a Moses basket with out us seeing first and well it so not what I envisioned. It silk and covered in lace looks like something straight out of queen Victoria's nursery.
I don't know what to do DH doesn't want to hurt MIL feelings and has already told her how pretty it is and how much we like it. But I really don't and know he is not a big fan either,
I do appreciate the kindness of the gift but I'm a bit upset I didn't get to pick this out myself.
I have attached picture so you can see for yourself.
What can I do? I can't not use it now?

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morningconstitutional2017 · 02/03/2017 00:25

Ooh, ouchbollocks that's brilliant and yes that basket isreally the most hideous piece of shite I've ever seen (apart from the turd sofa from a while back).

Papergirl1968 · 02/03/2017 00:27

Love the cat's unimpressed expression!

Whathaveilost · 02/03/2017 00:28

Do you know what, it isn't to my taste but I would be happy that someone bought me something for the new baby and was excited as I am.

I think it is bloody awful that some, or should I say, most of you think it is ok to take the piss out of someone's kind actions!

Maybe someday some of you lot will be MILs and not be able to right for doing wrong and have people taking the piss out of you behind your back.

littlefrog3 · 02/03/2017 00:35

good point 'wahthaveilost/' ^

Sugarlumps333 · 02/03/2017 00:36

^^whathaveilost this: nasty smug comments. Can't believe some of the stuff i read on here sometimes, luckily i don't think i know anyone / am friends with anyone who would stoop so low - sulking because a gift wasn't up to their expectations. Get a real problem people.

ThomasRichard · 02/03/2017 00:58

vinorosso that looks like a pink poodle has exploded. Where does the baby go?!

RedastheRose · 02/03/2017 00:58

Actual Moses Basket and stand are fine. Just need to buy new covers for them that you like. Get them as a change and then when she asks either swap them on if she's babysitting or say baby got too hot in the satin ones so you got some cool cotton ones or something. Tactful white lie and no one gets their feelings hurt.

littlefrog3 · 02/03/2017 01:06

sugarlump333

nasty smug comments. Can't believe some of the stuff i read on here sometimes, luckily i don't think i know anyone / am friends with anyone who would stoop so low - sulking because a gift wasn't up to their expectations. Get a real problem people.

This ^

I know we all have a right to whinge about stuff, but some of the comments I read from some women on this site about their MIL's do make me wonder if there are 2 sides to their stories.

I know some pig headed MIL's who are a nightmare, but I also know some who can't do right for doing wrong, and who have the biggest divas for DILs. And the poor SIL/hubby is stuck right in the middle.

It does seem OTT to go hysterical over a gift from a kind person.

VERY diva-ish actually!

littlemouse15 · 02/03/2017 01:08

Could you source a baby box from somewhere? They are being promoted for safe sleep at the moment and would last as long as the Moses basket, say you got it from the health visitor and she recommended that you use that rather than the Moses basket. Then say seems as though we will be using the box now for sleeping would you like the Moses basket for when baby stays at your house and for naps when we visit? It's not too my taste but I would hate for her to see this picture/post and get offended, she obviously means well, but I too was annoyed when everybody kindly offered me their handme downs for my first (and only) baby, I know everyone's excited and trying to be helpful but I wanted to go shopping and get nice new things, plus for safety reasons you need to use a new mattress etc anyway.

kiwipie · 02/03/2017 01:48

Even the cat looks horrified! Shock

Trifleorbust · 02/03/2017 06:40

Gross! Drop something in it like a carton of orange soup...

Bringbackpublicfloggings · 02/03/2017 06:48

My ds2 didn't sleep in his Moses basket, preferred his cot Wink

MyOtherNameIsTaken · 02/03/2017 08:49

When your baby arrives, put him/her in the moses basket for a photo (MIL will adore it) and then you don't have to use it again. No-one's going to force you to use it! Your husband's mum is just excited too. :)

PointxTaken · 02/03/2017 08:49

littlefrog3 sugarlump333
We get it, you like the basket, someone must if these things are created and sold Grin

ALittleMop · 02/03/2017 08:50

one photo with baby in it
take all the frou frou nonsense off it, then = perfectly sensible plain moses basket that the baby will only sleep in for 3 weeks and only then when not sleeping on you
for bud nipping go shopping with MIL and be heavy handed with the kinds of things you like.

child will inevitably get some clothes that make him look like Prince George based on this though

2014newme · 02/03/2017 11:59

It doesn't look like silk it looks like polyester. Sweaty baby.

JessieMcJessie · 02/03/2017 17:12

Baby will adore this for her dolls when it's older. Unless MIL lives with you it should be fairly easy to pretend you are using it more than you are and in future years she can join in the dolly games. Such a minefield to avoid hurting feelings.

ChrisYoungFuckingRocks · 02/03/2017 17:40

Oh Lordy - it reminds me of the lining of a coffin Confused.

dowhatnow · 02/03/2017 17:45

You have to be honest and say you hate it now. If you don't bite the bullet and put a stop to anything hideous now, then you'll continue getting horrid stuff forever more. Don't think up excuses either, or you will be doing that always too. Just tell them you appreciate the thought but could they take it back to the shop please as you really don't like it.

Be assertive.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 02/03/2017 18:20

Trouble is, OP's DH has already told her how pretty it is and how much we like it.

S1lentAllTheseYears · 02/03/2017 18:27

Whilst I do agree with posters saying that she meant well etc etc I do think the parents should be given a choice when buying big items like this.

If I am fortunate enough to get some grandchildren in future, I can see myself either giving my son and dil some money for a pram/cot of their choice - I've had my babies, now it's their turn. They are the ones who are going to be seeing that moses basket at 3am for months on end after all!

Baby boxes are gorgeous!

Roanoke · 02/03/2017 18:39

The only solution is to burn it. With fire.

Then claim it was an accident.

Then burn the ashes to make sure that demonic thing can't resurrect.

nicp123 · 02/03/2017 18:52

I don't blame you!
I had similar experience (friends though not MIL)
I only took a photo of DC in the Moses basket for the 'Thank you' card and chucked the morbid covers in the washing basket. When they came to visit us, the covers were still 'waiting to be washed' ;
... so we were told by them: "The covers should be washed ONLY by hand!"
Those covers always remind it me of my deceased granny... Sorry!

Iwannasnack · 02/03/2017 19:07

You should really wash all baby items before use. Maybe a really hot wash and tumble dry may accidentally destroy it?!

RortyCrankle · 02/03/2017 19:09

That is truly hideous OP.

There's only one solution, your baby poos and projectile vomits all over the satin and lace (baked bean juice should do nicely) and when you wash it, you inadvertently set the washing machine to cotton and highest temperature setting. After 2 hours at 90 degrees, it should be sufficiently mangled to be unusable Grin

Do let us know how it goes.

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