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To think DD's punishment from PE teacher was draconian?

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moonlightshadow1 · 01/03/2017 17:15

DD is in Year 10 and came home quite annoyed about a punishment she got in PE for something very minor in the first place. Her teacher made her get changed into her PE kit at lunchtime (without any tracksuit in the cold wet weather), and run laps around the football pitch for all but the last 15 minutes of the break (so she could eat), much of it whilst the boys were having football practice, who apparently found it quite funny. Is it overreacting to think this is a bit out of order? I might not have been surprised when I was at school but I can't help be a bit annoyed, seems a bit like it was intended to embarrass her and unnecessary.

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MaisyPops · 03/03/2017 19:54

Thanks all for the responses, hope people understand my DD isn't a complete horror and is generally well behaved and liked

I don't think they would. It's tempting to take the word of a usually good kod at face value but youve been really open about the process. I also like that you posted the conversation, including bits that showed your DD only gave part of thr events/her version of.

Even lovely teenagers get stroppy and try to get one over home/school. No sensible person would think based on what you posted that she's a total horror. Trust me, i see almost 200 a week and even the nicest ones have off days. Usually (when they have parents who support school like you) they only need catching out once to not try it again.

PuffinDodger · 03/03/2017 20:11

What was the bit about the farts? Think i missed that.

Italiangreyhound · 03/03/2017 20:55

I think the comment that started it off was about a room being smelly!

Bitofacow · 03/03/2017 21:03

Puffin a fart is never simply a fart at school.

Good result all round Moonlight Smile

Italiangreyhound · 03/03/2017 21:05

I do wonder if the fascination for 'gas' is universal? But I said Farr I think the word given originally was smell.

Bitofacow · 03/03/2017 21:08

Italian I spend a disproportionate amount of my life having 'smell' conversations one way or another.

Sometimes it would be nice to join the grown ups.

OnHold · 03/03/2017 21:09

There are loads of threads on MN about farting,so I don't think it's something some peopke grow out of laughing at.

Bitofacow · 03/03/2017 21:09

I would also point our the teaching adverts on MN never mention farts and discussions thereofWink

OnHold · 03/03/2017 21:10

People *I will end this stupid phone

PuffinDodger · 03/03/2017 21:11

Thanks Italian

Gildedcage · 03/03/2017 21:43

Frankly farts/smells etc are still topics of conversation and urrggh comments in a corporate office so I imagine a classroom has no chance Grin

Userone1 · 03/03/2017 22:58

Well done OP, for supporting your dd and in turn the school and getting to the bottom of it. Balanced parenting at its best x

Italiangreyhound · 03/03/2017 23:26

Just picking up on a comment from way back, not sure if you are still reading Itshouldhvaebeen 'humiliation /deprivation' these are not the same things.

I might deprive my son of sweets that would rot his teeth, there is no humiliation there.

Being nervous/shy/embarrassed as a teenage girl around teenage boys should be glaringly obvious to anyone, especially when wearing only shorts and T-shirt.

I am quite so shocked so many people cannot see this. Would you consider this a suitable punishment at work if you screwed up? If/when I have screwed up at work my boss was angry, didn't want to talk to me, I have had to stay extra time to make up for things I should have managed to get done (the latter being my own sort of punishment of myself to get things sorted!)

Had my boss ever expected me to dress up and run about I would be putting in a claim for abuse at work.

I think the OP did very well to stick with the thread and follow through with the school. Two large tasks.

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moonlightshadow1 · 04/03/2017 00:23

Thank you Italian.

And yes, fart jokes and saying somewhere "stinks" is very immature, but she's 14. And also has I think very much learnt her lesson now.

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Pseudonym99 · 04/03/2017 00:42

If she had been made to do it in her knickers like I had to do at school she would have learnt, or probably wouldn't have happened in the first place

ElvishArchdruid · 04/03/2017 02:43

I'm glad you've got this sorted, thank you for the luck. I had a word with DS tonight about a few things, this post prompted me to have to courage to give DS my view on it all.

Hope you have a good weekend.

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moonlightshadow1 · 04/03/2017 10:21

That's great ElvishArchdruid. I hope things went well talking with your DS!

Thanks MaisyPops and Userone1 for the kind comments, and everyone for the help Smile

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Emboo19 · 04/03/2017 11:00

Glad it's sorted moonlight I think you handled it great.
I'd like to tell you that at 14, you've probably made it through the worst with your dd. I'd be lying of course! Keep the lines of communication open and let her know she can come to you, even if you won't always agree with what she's done.

Pseudonym99 you made a few references to doing pe in your underwear, what year did you go to school? My grandma's both said this never happened in secondary school when they went in the 1960's! They had to wear lost property which was embarrassing, but developing girls would not have done pe in underwear.

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moonlightshadow1 · 04/03/2017 12:13

Very kind of you to say Emboo and thanks for all your help, it's been really useful! I have a feeling you may be right on there being worse years to come with DD, but hopefully we'll keep on top of any issues like this one. For now she's being very good, I think the just told off at school and home effect is a strong one!

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Dulcimena · 04/03/2017 18:03

Re the PE in your underwear comments - I had gym knickers at school, which was basically doing PE in your underwear. I was at a single sex grammar in the mid 80s-early 90s though.

SparklyUnicornPoo · 04/03/2017 18:26

I had gym knickers in a girls grammar too, this was late 90's/early 2000's , they were the most itchy, horrible thing i have ever worn. think the school got rid of them when my sister was year 10, so 2013! they were allowed to wear netball skirts over the top by then though.

Dulcimena · 04/03/2017 18:32

We wore netball skirts over them for sports, but on their own for gymnastics and athletics. God, I hated those things!

Emboo19 · 04/03/2017 18:43

My mum had gym knickers and skirt 90's it had changed to a skort when I went. I was asking as Pseudonym mention bra and knickers! And as I said even my grandmas both said it was gym knickers and a t shirt not your underwear.

PuffinDodger · 04/03/2017 18:50

We had gym knickers in a single sex grammar too but they were worn over normal knickers. Big difference between gym knickers and wearing just bra and normal knickers in front of boys imo. Even in a single sex school we'd have been mortified to wear just bra and normal knickers. It would never have happened though as our teachers weren't mad.

PuffinDodger · 04/03/2017 18:51

Well most weren't. There was the odd one or two i suppose. Grin