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AIBU to not wear a white dress for my wedding?

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user1486504659 · 28/02/2017 20:23

I'm not really a dress person and I've been looking at coloured dresses/non wedding dresses for my wedding this summer, which is not going down well with family...mainly my mum surely I'm not BU?

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LordPeterWimsey · 28/02/2017 20:45

YANBU. I wore green (floor length, very dark, with a high collar). No on-screen pics as it was pre-digital! Still married after 20 years. My mother didn't approve but it wasn't her wedding.

Whosafraidofabigduckfart · 28/02/2017 20:49

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jamaisjedors · 28/02/2017 20:51

I wish I had put my foot down to my mum who insisted on me wearing a big white dress. I hated it and do not have fond memories of it at all. Stick to what you want.

isseywithcats · 28/02/2017 20:53

sorry just rechecked white dress is purity of soul symbolic the veil was virginity the lifting off the face was giving to new husband by father of the bride

hareagain · 28/02/2017 20:53

I wore black. Full on wedding dress too. Wear what you want!

NuclearSwan · 28/02/2017 21:02

I'm wearing black

ETanny · 28/02/2017 21:18

I got married nearly 8yrs ago in a black and purple dress.
My mum was horrified when I told her what colour I wanted but as soon as she saw it she was happy with it.
I have never been a 'girly girl' and a traditional dress just was not me.

If you want to get a coloured dress do it, It is your wedding :)

MermaidsTears · 28/02/2017 21:20

I'm choosing a dusky blush kinda color with lace...Maxi dress from ASOS

Goodasgoldilox · 28/02/2017 21:21

There is nothing in the vows about wearing white - you are free to choose!

SheepyFun · 28/02/2017 21:27

I'm another one who looks ill in white/cream, and went for a coloured dress (think royal blue type shade, not pastel.) I got married in church, and the vicar didn't bat an eyelid. Your wedding, your choice - my mum wasn't terribly keen either, and she made my dress, but the mockup she made in white to check the fit looked sufficiently awful on me that I think even she was convinced!

CasparMum · 28/02/2017 21:34

I'm another that look really ill in white, so my dress was red (exactly the same colour as rouge noir nail varnish).
I loved it and it suited me
Wear what you want it's your day

Lambbone · 28/02/2017 21:36

I was married in green silk satin. Loved it.

I did try on a couple of traditional wedding dresses but looked completely ridiculous.

(And before anyone says green is unlucky at a wedding- this was 26 years ago and I haven't stabbed the bigger yet)

daddyorchipsdaddyorchips · 28/02/2017 21:41

Wear what you want/like/love/suit. It's YOUR wedding!

I've chosen a floral wedding dress and frankly don't care what anyone else thinks because I love it.

AIBU to not wear a white dress for my wedding?
Kintan · 28/02/2017 21:46

Mine was silvery grey. Wear what you feel happiest in :)

Whatsername17 · 28/02/2017 21:47

That dress is beautiful daddy!

daddyorchipsdaddyorchips · 28/02/2017 21:49

And it has pockets!

Thank you!

Flappyfishy · 28/02/2017 22:26

I'm getting married in July 2018 and am wearing black. .. black veil and everything. It took a while to find a shop that didn't look at me like a total freak... and some I emailed just never bothered replying but that's their loss...

I'm happily surprised at the other women also wearing black. ... where did you guys find your dresses as I found it a nightmare to find a nice one!

AIBU to not wear a white dress for my wedding?
OnceMoreIntoTheBleach · 28/02/2017 22:32

Daddyorchips that's is beautiful!!

justilou · 28/02/2017 22:44

I wanted to wear a green dress. I wasn't into the whole "bride" thing either. When I told my husband, he looked shattered. I ended up choosing a really simple white dress and even sewing tulle onto a hair comb (veils are RIDICULOUSLY expensive considering it's a mosquito net on a hair comb). While I felt great on the day, and I've never regretted it, I do wonder if I would have felt less like I was playing dress ups if I'd chosen the green one.

Honeybee79 · 28/02/2017 22:49

Yanbu. Wear what you like. I wore a bright pink and black 1950s style dress with big black petticoat. Went down a treat with the v traditional ILs.

Foslady · 28/02/2017 22:52

I worn a red bodice with gold embroidery and gold skirt with red beading and embroidery - felt fab in it!

siilk · 28/02/2017 22:56

Wear what makes you happy. Mine was a traditional (we'll sort of) shape but a very untraditional colour. I felt glorious!! Remember up until
Queen Victoria brides wore their best dress. White dresses were a trend introduced then

sockgate · 28/02/2017 23:03

I wore a coloured forties style dress. My normally very sane mum also had kittens in advance about the many ridiculous 'traditions' I was breaking (no top table, not having bridesmaids, not being walked down the aisle etc etc). I told her if she didn't zip it we would elope. They stopped speaking to me for three weeks, realised I was serious, and started acting vaguely like grownups. They ended up loving the wedding and admitted that it was exactly right for DH and I.

tinytemper66 · 28/02/2017 23:25

My wedding dress, veil and shoes were shell pink.

LightDrizzle · 28/02/2017 23:37

I wore pink tartan. I'm not keen on pink, or tartan, however I found second-hand eBay Vivienne Westwood Gold Label pink tartan persuaded me. I looked as fabulous as it is ever going to get and I felt wonderful.