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To want to get my grocery delivery driver sacked?

150 replies

EveryLittleBitDoesNotHelp · 26/02/2017 16:12

So basically ordered my dm's weekly grocery shop online to her house for today.

She is not very well suffering with hip problems so I'm helping to take care of her. I also have my ds with me.

Delivery was late but not really arsed about that even though it was inconvenient.

The driver had parked at the back of her house then scaled her back garden gate to unlock it. He dragged the shopping cart thingy down her patio steps and banged at the window (there's no bell, knocker or letterbox ect as it's a back door leading straight to the lounge). I was bfeeding ds in there.

My dm opened the door ajar and said "please could you come around the front as my dd is bfeeding". The driver shouted at her! said "well the satnav told me to come this way, why can't you just take the shopping here?". dm explained that I had my breasts exposed and the baby was getting cold, and that she couldn't carry the shopping to the front of the house due to her disabilities.

Driver reluctantly brought the shopping around to the front door and left. dm laughed him off as just being a miserable git.

So heard the back gate banging in the wind as he left it open. Just went outside to close it and he has lifted one of dm's patio slabs on her steps and just left it!

Complained to the customer service line but they just said they'd pass it onto the store manager. I'm fuming! my poor dm she is elderly and vulnerable. What should I do next? should i escalate my complaint and hope this selfish twat gets sacked?.

OP posts:
HappyFlappy · 26/02/2017 19:03

"Her breasts are exposed my good man!!"

Now Bugger Off and Good Day to You!

Original poster
EveryLittleBitDoesNotHelp · 26/02/2017 19:17

My initial reaction was wrong. It's been really hard and my emotions are v high seeing my dm become so frail and vulnerable so quickly, and it is in no way a justification for my cunty overreaction but I guess the reason why I reacted badly, especially after hearing someone shout at her.

I agree that the paving slab was an accident, most likely caused by the trolley. And I imagine he didn't say anything as he was peed off for having to hump the trolley back up and around to the front. Getting sorted now and I agree with posters rather that happen than it coming loose under dm.

I have no probs feeding anywhere or infront of anyone. And for the posters asking about why was I "exposed" ds likes to pull off and grin up at me regularly while feeding (think its for reassurance or whatever) thus exposing nipple. It was dm's observation and possibly she was just trying to hide my modesty. I guess maybe she doesn't feel as comfortable as I and most of the world do about it. She's always been a bit prudish.

My initial complaint will be withdrawn as I was BU. lesson learned on my part.

Now how do I go about getting a thread removed Blush. Grin

OP posts:
Original poster
EveryLittleBitDoesNotHelp · 26/02/2017 19:30

70s @ HappyFlappy 'jolly' good comment Wink

OP posts:
AYankinSpanx · 26/02/2017 19:32

Well taken OP. Glad you're withdrawing the complaint.

Nicknacky · 26/02/2017 19:32

I cannot believe two posters have said call the police. Christ almighty. Seriously, this is so far removed from a police matter that I actually wish the OP would phone them then tell us what they said!

youredeadtomesteven · 26/02/2017 19:36

Welcome to Mumsnet, OP.

DrunkenMissOrderly · 26/02/2017 20:04

I'm glad you've calmed down and decided not to try to get the men sacked op, nice one.

DrunkenMissOrderly · 26/02/2017 20:05

Man

NavyandWhite · 26/02/2017 20:38

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

UmmNo · 26/02/2017 20:57

FairPlay OP. Thanks

I think you are way too reasonable to start a post on AIBU 😂

MuseumOfCurry · 26/02/2017 21:01

He carried the shopping to the back door of the house and you asked him to carry it to front door?

I can't wrap my head around this.

WateryTart · 26/02/2017 21:04

I cannot understand why you are going to with draw your complaint. He shouted at an elderly lady. He shouldn't get away with that, it's abusive.

MuseumOfCurry · 26/02/2017 21:06

I cannot understand why you are going to with draw your complaint. He shouted at an elderly lady. He shouldn't get away with that, it's abusive

I'd be tempted to shout at someone if I delivered groceries to the back door, only to be asked to move them to to the front door.

MongerTruffle · 26/02/2017 21:07

dm explained that I had my breasts exposed and the baby was getting cold

She said that to the delivery driver?!

novemberontrumpwatch · 26/02/2017 21:42

Could this be the OP?

To want to get my grocery delivery driver sacked?
CaffeineBomb · 26/02/2017 21:57

I'm struggling to understand why so many people think it's normal for delivery drivers to climb over gates and yell at old ladies. I would have thought it was fairly obvious he needed to go around the front of the house, unless he thought she liked all of her visitors to do a krypton factor style challenge to get to the house. I would be pissed off if somebody climbed the fence into my back garden and tell them to go around the front of the house too. OP imo the complaint should stand for him shouting at your poor dm.

TessTube · 26/02/2017 22:07

I think it's fair to complain for the shouting.

I've had murder with all supermarket deliveries apart from Ocado. They are brilliant.

BaronessBomburst · 26/02/2017 22:32

If it's any consolation, my DM would have flapped about me BF and said that my breasts were exposed.
She was a cracker at drawing attention to me whilst I was discreetly getting on with it.

UmmNo · 26/02/2017 22:45

I wonder if the driver thought the OPs mums was hard of hearing? So was speaking loudly and impatiently rather than 'shouting'

BurningBridges · 27/02/2017 00:06

Scaling the gates wasn't a noble act, he was just being an arse. FFS who in their right mind would do this? and the OP is supposed to be grateful? WTAF? What if the patio door led to a bedroom, what if the DM had been on her own? Its not ok to scale a gate?! can you imagine him thinking "hmm,I might be in the wrong bit so best thing to do is climb over this gate".

If that's ok then I'm surprised he didn't throw each individual item over the fence and then say well be grateful you have your shopping!

Amandahugandkisses · 27/02/2017 00:17

Did she really say to him you had your breasts exposed? Grin
It just sounds like bad day all round. Hope your Mum's ok. I'd just leave it.

seven201 · 27/02/2017 00:24

Sounds like he got all confused trying to find your house and finally found what he through was the entrance. All that effort climbing over a gate then to be told to take all the shopping back etc and come round the front, all because a lazy breastfeeding mother didn't want to get up and move to a different room! I'd be mad if I were him but he shouldn't have shown it. He's only human though. Paving slab is odd. Doesn't seem like the kind of thing you'd do in revenge. Maybe it was just really loose so he moved it.

sweetkitty · 27/02/2017 00:31

The scaling the fence and bringing the shopping to the back door ok is a bit off but couldn't you just have unlatched the baby, handed him/her to your DMIL taken shopping in then latched baby back on then unpacked the shopping? All sorts of things happen when your BFing which means you have to unlatch the baby for a moment or two? He does sound like a bit of an arse though.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 27/02/2017 00:39

Why are you crawling up his arse. Do you owe him anything. Just because of a bunch of faceless wonders on the internet said YABU. It doesn't mean you are. AIBU is based on opinions not facts. If some one had screamed at my elderly mum for what ever reason. Or how ever much of a bad day he was having. I'd be fucking apoplectic.
No one on this thread who has said YABU would accept it for their parents. Why should you.
That's the British culture. No one complains.

bumsexatthebingo · 27/02/2017 00:40

I'd leave it tbh. You were being a nightmare customer expecting the driver to load your shopping back into the van, drive it to the front door and unload it all again rather than just leave it inside the back door. That probably made him late for his next delivery.
If he really screamed at your dm and frightened her then maybe say something but I can understand him being a bit annoyed tbh as you were being very difficult.