Upwolves part of me agrees with LucklessMonster "Your child isn't a timeshare to be divided up scrupulously fairly. Do whatever is more appealing to you."
But realistically, I think it is fairer to treat each adult as a unit and give them a week each. The parents still together will therefore get two weeks between them. The parents who are divorced will also get one week each. Fair.
TheStoic if 'Third each' is fair to you because you think anything else is
'... to punish them for being divorced'; I'd say that third each looks like punishing the ones that stayed together!
I agree with potoftea, "I'd say half each family. Otherwise the together parents get less alone time with child. They have to share with their partner. Whereas separate grandparents each get a week of one on one time."
and Trifleorbust "Split by 2. The person with parents who are together shouldn't get less time with their family as a whole than the person with parents who have split."
I'd also agree with Witchend "... don't let them know how long you're staying with the others."
You do not need to make the time exactly equal, one family may end up with half a day more or less this time, it doesn't mean it will happen every time. Don't set up the expectation you will always be able to do everything totally equally.
Do you trust any parents enough to leave the child with them for the day, the night, so you and your dh can have some alone time?
IF you trust one parent or one couple more (e.g. think they will do a better job) don't feel you need to tell the other parents about it, you don't! Baby can't talk yet!
PS what kind of jobs do you do that you get 4 weeks holiday all together!!
