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Parking, assaulted. AIBU to report to police?

410 replies

newnamenew · 23/02/2017 17:33

Car parked in disabled spot. Only disabled bay on site. I politely pull up alongside and down my window. Person does same. I ask if they are disabled, they reply no, I ask if she would please move as I use a wheelchair and really need the spit.

I'm to,d I'm arrogant and she was refusing to move due to my attitude. So I park alongside. She'd parked, if you imagine an inverse T shape, she would be the I part. She had a car parker behind her but room behind. So I parked I. The T of the inverse T. I got my wheelchair out and displayed my disabled badge. Person 2 comes and asks me what the fuck I'm doing and to move my fucking car. Goes into my car and takes my disabled badge saying I wasn't disabled anymore and goes to their car. I start wheeling to the shop, comes up behind me, drags me back towards my car by the back of the seat. It tilts, back at my car, chair still tilted hits me in the back, tries to get in my car again, puts finger in my face saying I give disabled people a bad name.

I go into shop, came out to find badge on back of car wiper thingy and they'd gone. Should I go to the police? Was I bring unreasonable not to move my car to give them move room to exit the disabled spot (mind they exited the spot anyway)?

OP posts:
gingertigercat · 23/02/2017 20:49

You poor thing. Nothing excuses such vile behaviour.

I'm so sorry this happened to you and I really hope the police can provide some help and these terrible people are brought to justice.

flippinada · 23/02/2017 20:54

Good lord newname sorry you've had to put up with some dickish posts here on top of everything else you've had to deal with today. Take care and be kind to yourself Flowers.

Blazedandconfused · 23/02/2017 20:55

Hope you and your daughter are getting over the shock.

I'm shocked and saddened that this kind of thing happens.

40somethingwonderful · 23/02/2017 20:56

How awful. 💐💐

bunnylove99 · 23/02/2017 20:57

Elvish do you really think your advice to OP to 'have a laugh with them' and implying she has brought this on herself are a help here right now, after what she has been through today?

ElvishArchdruid · 23/02/2017 21:03

I said I wasn't victim blaming, the comments you are referring to was in relation to people making comments in general.

People have made comments that would make you gasp, but have a laugh and joke, you've got two happy people, over a person thinking their being clever and the disabled w/c user thinking my life is so shit. By having a laugh you show the person more than they are expecting.

Pigflewpast · 23/02/2017 21:08

Right Confused so when OP got abuse thrown at her by someone refusing to move so she could use the shop, she should have had a laugh and a joke with them before having to go home instead of shop? Or was it when they were assaulting her she should have?!

RedSauce · 23/02/2017 21:20

I don't go on to ask 20 questions about their medical history, not my business

Neither does OP. She said she politely asked, which is basically the same as flashing your badge with a query face.

I don't know why you're talking about "redsauce says we can't be friends" or whatever - you seem a bit defensive. I simply pointed out that you were saying you agreed with somebody while disagreeing with them in the exact same post.

BridgeRiverTower · 23/02/2017 21:21

God there are some right tits on this thread. WTF is wrong with some of you.

OP you clearly were not in the wrong. You were assaulted and I hope the police can find and prosecute the scum who attacked you.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 23/02/2017 21:21

Elvish it is classic victim blaming to imply that the situation would never have happened to you because you handle these things differently. You have no idea how well this horrible person would have responded to "a laugh and a joke".

I get that it is a self protective thing to tell yourself, well this wouldn't happen to me because I do this. ..But it is quite offensive to the OP and to be honest, you are just kidding yourself.

bunnylove99 · 23/02/2017 21:22

Elvis The OP doesn't need to be showing people she can have 'a laugh' and certainly shouldn't be worrying about exceeding peoples 'expectations' of her as a disabled preson. She has the right to live her own life in peace and to be able to park in a disabled parking bay to go shopping and go about her daily life without suffering assault and abuse.

JeepRenegade · 23/02/2017 21:25

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ElvishArchdruid · 23/02/2017 21:26

Twas in response to the comment about people making comments. Teresa has deserted me, so I guess it's just me for the witches pyre.

Physical abuse never ok, under no circumstances, no, no, no.

Cherrysoup · 23/02/2017 21:27

Fucker. Hope he's charged.

PoorYorick · 23/02/2017 21:28

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RedSauce · 23/02/2017 21:29

Woe is you, Jeep. So hard done by.

Calling somebody a liar isn't "a difference of opinion".

TheFairyCaravan · 23/02/2017 21:29

If you don't believe it Jeep report it.

JeepRenegade · 23/02/2017 21:31

Dawn I get that as well! I'm 32 but look much younger and when I get out of my car in the Disabled space and then get my toddler out I practically get chased with pitch forks! They think I'm just some selfish Mummy! Then when I show my Badge I get asked if it's mine!!!

PoorYorick · 23/02/2017 21:31

It's OK, Jeep. I found the fitting online tribute to your noble, tragic quest for truth, honour, justice and stuff like that.

www.sadtrombone.com

JeepRenegade · 23/02/2017 21:32

RedSauce WHEN in God's name did I say I was "hard done by?!" Hahahahaha

JeepRenegade · 23/02/2017 21:33

Poor What on earth are you rattling on about?!

I'm a fellow Disabled person that dared to say that I don't believe we've heard the full story! Well drag out the big bag of stones.....

Grow up

PoorYorick · 23/02/2017 21:35

Oh shut up Jeep. You accused a disabled, assaulted woman of lying, your nasty post got canned, end of. Yes I know you're disabled too, it's entirely irrelevant.

Deal.

JeepRenegade · 23/02/2017 21:36

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JeepRenegade · 23/02/2017 21:37

No this isn't a playground little boy. This is real life and people are entitled to their opinions. This is a public forum.

Deal.

PoorYorick · 23/02/2017 21:39

Oh good God. Freedom of speech means the government can't imprison you for what you say. It doesn't mean Mumsnet can't moderate an internet forum.

Here you go, Cassandra: xkcd.com/1357/

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