Saving car park space

[madmoon]

Today whilst I was taking my five year old to
Hospital appointment I circled the car park 3 times looking for some where to park . It was getting closer to His appointment time , I spotted a space being emptied in my rear view mirror so drove around again (4th time ) I noticed a black vw pull in to the car park behind me stop and a lady in her late 40's jump out when I got around to the possible available space , said lady was stood in the car space I indicated to enter it , wound down my window and asked if she could move please . She said she couldn't as she was reserving the space .
I pointed out that you can't just stand in a spot to reserve it and the only way the spot could be reserved is by the hospital policy she carried on standing there , I admit I did at this point lose my temper and told her to move her effing ass or I will be at liberty to mow "ur bitch ass down " she told me her husband is waiting to get in the spot to which I told who effing cares I plonk my car ; as much as I could in the space. Me and my little boy got out and got a ticket to my return to a very very angry husband who if I didn't move my car was going to report me to the hospital security. He banged my car , kicked the wheel , I put the ticket in and walked off car half in half out .
I never been so angry with them and my self why does parking make us all insane !

Is it just me that's confused, is mad moon and no fucking room on my broom the same poster? 🙄🙄🙄

You were both BU. She was for reserving the space, you were for being really aggressive. I appreciate how infuriating it can be though! If you have future appointments is there a car park or Street parking a bit further away that you could walk from, to reduce stress and aggravation? Most hospitals have very limited and stressful parking ime.

Disagree Pat. This kind of situation is what swearing was invented for .

YWNBU. What they did was inappropriate and not acceptable. What if they did this to a woman in labour or someone with an emergency? If I ever saw anyone do this and I had my children with me and was in a hurry I don't think I would be very nice to the couple either. And if the husband tried to damage my car I would have called the police. That's so ridiculous that anyone would think doing that is acceptable.

These people who never rant and rave and never loose their temper and would meekly drive away and find another space, are you for real, are you robots?

Rent and bills the hearing aids seemed to work before he cud hear minimal sounds ( he can barely talk properly because he's had years of incorrect hearing) he can none pick up the sounds so hopefully after speech and language he might be able to chat away to us.
Cat therapy sadly isn't any thing to do it's cats , it starts with going into your child hood working out how that effects how you are now for example I was often dismissed as a child by my parents and I can be very dismissing of my self as an adult , you then find your patterns and behaviour and the make new patterned and behaviours ( if I explained that right ),

YANBU OP.
I would probably have said the same !

Although you sound as if you you've stepped out of the The Wire or something and were OTT aggressive you were totally in the right. You can't go round standing in park spaces to "reserve" them - its not how it works. It is queue jumping and just wrong!

I would have done the same but hopefully in a more Radio 4 type way. Though I have been accused of "getting very cross mummy" in similar situations so who knows

Bluntness: nope definitely not

She was wrong in the first place. You were utterly abusive.

I'm rather inclined to feel for the cat involved in your therapy. I hope you don't scream and shout at it.

I once saw a member of staff practically in tears after she had tried to reserve a space by standing in it, and a different car had forced its way in. She'd been trying to help a woman whose son was at death's door and was afraid they wouldn't get there in time.

Not the same I know, but emotions are heightened at hospitals.

Thanks guys

No Bluntness, no been anywhere near a hospital car park for some time...
Not sure why you'd be confused, I clearly stated I wouldn't have responded to the crazy stood in the space-clearly you missed that.

Ah. Cross post. Thankfully no cats involved.

move your fucking arse or I'll mow your bitch arse down"

I understand your frustration. I really do. But wow. There's a lot of angry people in car parks abound on mumsnet at the moment isn't there?

YANBU, either in your anger or your response. Car parking spaces cannot be "reserved" by standing in them! The woman involved sounds like a completely unreasonable bitch, and her husband sounds like a fucking animal.

Well done for standing up to those bullies.

LadyHelen that was kind of my badly made point

I meant just because OP swore at the space knobs doesn't mean they weren't in the wrong.

The blue badge parking at my local hospital is batshit crazy, there's no etiquette, people usually the elderly just go for the first available space regardless of how long you've been waiting.

You were BU to shout and swear like that at someone, you lost the moral high ground right there. The woman and husband were a bag af dicks.

I'm wondering if LurkingHusband was the owner of the other car.

I am normally the mildest of people, but say YANBU. Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself, and if you aren't used to it, it comes out wrong. If the other people felt they had greater need of the space, she could have got out and pleaded her case with you instead of setting up a confrontation with the expectation you would back down.

Think hard about some better phrasing for another time and try and get some therapy with some real cats (or substitute your favourite de-stressor)

Just to say I feel your pain OP. At a time when you could least do with it parking is a huge problem. I've had to take dc out of school extra early to allow for the extra time it takes to wait for a space or if possible to park far away and walk the rest of the way. At my last appointment the staff were wondering where patients were only to be told a few had phoned to say they were having trouble finding a parking space!

TBH, although your language wasn't great, she deserved a gob full off someone!

Cheeky bitch standing in a parking space.
Car not there yet? Tough shit!

I've also had a deaf child (can hear now, just ignores me) and of all the many, many downsides being able to tell a fucker to fuck off is about the only upside.

If you want to reserve your parking space you put your CAR in it. Frankly anyone else deserves to be run over so being sworn at seems pretty mild.

Yanbu op and I admire your brass ovaries 💪

Anything not anyone.

So many times on here people say 'tell them to fuck off'. Now someone had done it they're being slated.

OP, YANBU.