To ask your views on children sharing

[Nicpem1982]

i think it's important that children learn to share but not feel as though they can't say no occasionally.

A friend flat out refuses to get her child to share his toys when we're there and we have to take toys for our dd to play with

Another friend today took a ball to the park for her dc but wouldn't let any of the other children in our group play with it, when the ball was kicked to another friends dd as the dd tried to kick it back the mum shouted "no no that's dcs ball he doesn't share"

What's the right lesson?

The kid is going to have a crap game of football that's all I can say.

Sometimes if my niece comes over my eldest will move his Lego sets out of the way so they don't get broken but everything else is pretty much free for all!

I have three kids though so they have figured out they have a bigger choice of toys if they all share together! More fun that way.

Giving a child the label "doesn't share" is wrong. When hitting school he is in for a big shock as there is a lot of sharing goes on. Wonder if he had his own hand towels in his house for drying hands on.

Manic - I don't think it's good either.

Children should not be labelled especially with "doesn't share "

Its a 2 way street isn't it.
His mother is going to lose him friends and 'play dates' if she refuses to let other children play with his toys.
That's all part of the excitement of a play date for them isn't it. Oh I wonder what toys hes got. You think back to your own childhood and everyone's toys looked more fun..
However the toys are his property. How would you like it if I came into your house and started using your make up

Well I don't know you Awwlookatmybabyspider. No-one expects kids to share with strangers. And you don't need to share everything either. But I would let a friend borrow a book, use my phone, have a spray of my perfume etc. It's friendly behaviour.

Awwlookatmybabyspider Expecting to use a strangers makeup is not the same thing as sharing toys with your friends and taking turns now is it.

And besides I remember as a teenager getting ready for going out at a friends house and we would share each others makeup, nail polish, hair accessories, clothes, shoes. I dont do that with my friends now because I'm an adult obviously! But having said that if a friend was over and we decided to go out and she had forgotten her makeup, i'd have no issues with her using any of mine.

Sharing makeup is really not hygienic and not recommended.