Or is DH? 13 year DSD unwell and has just got into our bed...

[user1487364179]

13 year old DSD has been suffering with her first period. Came in half hour ago crying with stomach pain and got into bed next to me.

Due to me being 8 months pregnant with twins and having a tiny double bed- DH has sulked off to the sofa and is muttering under his breath like a spoilt child

[Sallystyle]

I am not unpleasant. I will be very sympathetic to my daughter's period problems as I get awful periods as well.

I just won't have her sleeping with me at 2.00am. I will talk to her, get her some pain killers and send her back to bed. I don't think that's unpleasant.


It's fine for different people to feel comfortable with different things and the fact that you have a pair of ovaries doesn't make you an expect on how other people experience their periods.

Just as well that no one said they were an expert on how other people experience periods isn't it?

The OP isn't wrong to have her in bed, it's lovely of her. Her husband isn't wrong for moaning under his bead while moving to the couch because his 13 year old daughter wants to sleep in his bed. It most certainly doesn't mean he will be shit at looking after his newborns

[Sallystyle]

breath*

[Llanali]

I completely agree with U2!

I was at boarding school by then; we didn't crawl into bed with our boarding mistresses and it didn't ruin my relationship with my mother by not having sympathy.

And someone earlier said DSD was probably confused..,., really? Confused about what. Biology and sex Ed definitely covers menstrustion by age 13.

[BaconMaker]

Just as well that no one said they were an expert on how other people experience periods isn't it?


People said periods are just a "minor discomfort". That may be true for them but not for others.

[BaconMaker]

Also I didn't say you personally were unpleasant but the people claiming they know how painful all periods are and the people claiming that it's inappropriate to get into bed with your mum. No one is claiming everyone should do it - we can by sympathetic in different ways but to claim it shows a "lack of boundaries" is unpleasant.

[BaconMaker]

Also Llanali most people don't want to send their children to boarding school exactly because they won't have a parent to hand to offer love and sympathy. I'm sure lots of kids thrive at boarding school but many absolutely hate it. Lots of 13 year olds aren't ready to grow up and live without emotional support.

[Badhairday1001]

U2 I also sleep with my friends if the opportunity arises and my sister, I'm really not fussy. I'm 35 with 3 kids and not particularly immature. I just find comfort in having people I love close. My kids are always in my bed and can't ever imagine a time when I will discourage it. I wouldn't force it either though, I'm not that bad 😂