Or is DH? 13 year DSD unwell and has just got into our bed...

[user1487364179]

13 year old DSD has been suffering with her first period. Came in half hour ago crying with stomach pain and got into bed next to me.

Due to me being 8 months pregnant with twins and having a tiny double bed- DH has sulked off to the sofa and is muttering under his breath like a spoilt child

[annabe1]

I don't think anyone was being unreasonable, it's fine to have a moan about being kicked out of bed, it's nice of you to let her in, and fair enough to her dealing with her first period!

[coldcanary]

I'd prepare a bit today - find a hot water bottle, paracetamol, night time pads or whatever you think she might need that makes for a more comfortable night for all of you tonight.
First periods are weird, you can prepare all you like but you never know how it will actually go when they start. Mine were small trickles with no pain at all - that started later on, some people just flood from the start. Now she knows that she has some pain and discomfort involved she can be more prepared.

[diddl]

So who ended up changing the sheets?

I agree that she's plenty old enough-although either one of us would have helped her to get it done & everyone back to bed.

[JustSpeakSense]

I love a lovely step mum

If I was the mum, I'd feel so secure sending my DD to your home knowing she was being so loved and well cared for.

[Floisme]

I taught my son to do his own washing when he was 11 but I wouldn't expect anyone to change their own sheets in the middle of the night if they're not feeling well.

It's getting on for 50 years since my first period but I can still remember how crap I felt and how upset and mortified I was when I had a leak. It's lovely that she felt secure enough to turn to you for comfort, op.

[isupposeitsverynice]

Actually I think pp said OP was entitled to be a selfish bitch being in the late stages of a twin pregnancy, rather than the stepdaughter.

Anyway! Bit unreasonable of dh to whinge, but whinging not the end of the world. Hopefully everyone is well rested and cheerier this morning

[Isitjustmeorisiteveryoneelse]

(Completely missing the point of all PPs...) you should get a waterproof protector, next do a nice soft towelling one, so you don't have to worry about these little accidents ruining the mattress in future. Also DD1 has v heavy periods (14 yr) so we put on an alarm for halfway through the night so she can get up and change. She finds that a good solution as she gets quite upset if she wakes up having leaked on her clothes and bed. She gets back to sleep easily enough.

[SemiNormal]

Someone will be along soon to say its emotional abuse and to LTB.

[Bubbinsmakesthree]

I can't believe anyone would expect a 13 year old having their first period and painful cramps to change their own bedsheets at 2am. Utterly heartless!

I also think it is lovely that OP has the kind of relationship with her DSD. I remember feeling mortified with embarrassment and hated even talking to my own mother about them. I remember having some awful cramps in the middle of the night and suffering through them because the painkillers were kept in my parents bedroom and I wouldn't disturb them. It's my real hope for my own DC that they will never feel like they couldn't come to me in similar circumstances.

[diddl]

"I can't believe anyone would expect a 13 year old having their first period and painful cramps to change their own bedsheets at 2am. "

I know-but who should have done it?

Ridiculous imo that someone is on the sofa because no one can be bothered to change a bed!

[ParisGellar]

You sound lovely OP

[Rufus27]

OP You sound like an amazing step mum

[bummymummy77]

Good grief, just because some of you have been blessed with easier periods please remember that some people have an awful time. My first periods were terrible. They were so painful and heavy and I was terrified. Not everyone reacts the same emotionally either.

My Mother was harsh like some pp's and it didn't teach me 'emotional resilience' or 'self reliance' or whatever other bollocks you think it does. It made me feel sad, scared and unsupported when I was extremely confused and vulnerable. What was a defining moment in a relationship ended up being very negative.

[PageStillNotFound404]

I wouldn't change a bed at 2.00am if I didn't have to. I suffer from insomnia and getting up and having that level of activity would wake me up sufficiently that I wouldn't get back to sleep again that night.

I don't think anyone was BU either. Just so long as DSD or DH changed the sheets this morning and didn't automatically leave it for you to do!

[HookandSwan]

She's lucky to have such a kind step mum. I think dads are a bit icky about periods they don't really understand.

[deblet]

Some horrible people on here. I remember my first period painful and messy and they stayed that way until I had something done about it at 42. Thankfully you are a lovely step mum well done. She will remember that in the years ahead. As it is her first time she won't be prepared. I would have a towel and a clean sheet ready for next time and two painkillers in her room and make sure she knows where they are. Explain you will have the babies so she will need to make up her bed and take her tablets. If she is on before bed check she can make up a hot water bottle. I'm a step mum, my boys are men now and they do remember the nice things you do. Have fun with your babies.

[witchofzog]

My sdd, same age, has been having her period a for a while now. When she leaks on her bed she leaves it and goes home without telling us until we discover it later. The amount of arguments dp and I have had over this. He feels it is ok as she is probably embarrassed. I feel she either needs to strip the bed herself or at least ask one of us to help her (though she is capable of doing it herself)

At 2am on a first period I would be ok with this op. However I would not want this to be a regular monthly occurrence. Especially after the twins are born.

[Floofborksnootandboop]

Unless I've missed something the OP never said her DSD wasn't willing to change the sheets? She may have done it when she woke up? No one wants to do it at 2am especially a young girl struggling with their first period.

[TondelayaDellaVentamiglia]

Get a bigger bed....it's not like you won't benefit with twins in the house!

[diddl]

I can't be the only one who slept on a towel to try to avoid this?

That & the rush to the bathroom first thing in the morning?

[user1487364179]

Thank you everyone

DH got up this morning and changed the bed before work so assuming he is feeling a little less grumpy about the situation!

[coldcanary]

Well that's a job jobbed then! How is SD this morning? And you as well - did you sleep? DD is 11 and is all arms and legs, the last time she came in for a cuddle it was like snuggling with Bambi..

[LadyPW]

it was like snuggling with Bambi..

[minisoksmakehardwork]

Aw bless him. Perhaps he had the 2am grumps so can be forgiven? I'm not s rational person when awoken from a deep slumber either.