'D'h on a night out by himself

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'D'h went on a night out with one mate. That mate messaged me nearly 2 hours ago to say he was going home and that 'D'h was in a bad way but was refusing to go home. I cannot make contact with him and he isn't home yet. I'm very worried about his state of mind as if he was that drunk then what will he be like now. He has history of being hospitalised after a night out.

Of course this bloke has a right to get so shitfaced he has his wife up all night worrying about his safety like he was her teenage son, not her husband

Just like she has the right to not tolerate it. I wouldn't.

I went out the other night, got home at 4.30. If my DH had called police and hospitals I'd have been furious! I'm in my 40s and a mother of two. I'm an adult not s bloody teenager FFS

BattyTwatty

I would be the same if it were a one-off, but it wasn't. May I draw your attention to the last sentence of the opening post:

"He has history of being hospitalised after a night out."

Personally though, if I were the OP I'd have been calling a locksmith, not the emergency services, but I have a very low tolerance for adults that act like teenagers and would not continue to share my life with one.

It's easy to say "I'd be out the door" when you don't know the backstory.

On the surface I agree, but it is never usually as clean cut as all that.

My DH did it once not too long after he became a father.

Thank god my reaction was enough to get through to him that he is a father now and if he goes and gets hurt or worse while drinking it doesn't just affect him.

I would have left if I had seen him like that again. 7 years on with 100% good behaviour with alcohol he probably has generated himself another strike, but only one!

HerOtherHalf. Actually I was going to come back to say, on this occasion, as he has ended up in hospital in the past, yes I would be worried. However there are plenty of posters who's DHs don't have form who seem to have them on a curfew. One, who said when she got married made it clear that this was a deal breaker. I would HATE to be told I had to be home at a certain time. THAT would be a deal breaker for me

One, who said when she got married made it clear that this was a deal breaker. I would HATE to be told I had to be home at a certain time. THAT would be a deal breaker for me

And that's fine. Both halves of a couple are allowed to have boundaries.