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To not want to leave DD aged 4 alone in a hotel room.

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Chamonix1 · 16/02/2017 17:01

Going away this weekend, DH's parents are coming and have very generously paid for me and DH to go out for a meal, they said they'd watch DD in the hotel we are all staying in so we could have some time alone. Lovely.
However they've recently announced that they are going to settle DD in our room, call their room from our room and go back to their room and listen out for dd through the phone.
This doesn't sit right with me because surely hotel staff etc could access our room, what if they don't hear dd?
I'm trying to work out if I'm being precious here or if other people agree. It is making me feel a bit uneasy. They don't want to have to sit in the room with her as they'd need to be quiet so they didn't wake her... what the verdict mumsnet?

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DriftingDreamer · 16/02/2017 17:57

DD falls asleep on their bed and gets transferred to your room when you get back.
Poor you.
Gosh some people make things so difficult....

Giddyaunt18 · 16/02/2017 17:58

What if the phone disconnected? How would they know?

Onthecouchagain · 16/02/2017 18:00

No way. Not at all. Not in a million years.

PollyPerky · 16/02/2017 18:01

They sound dim. Thick as bricks. Can't they use their common sense? In 20 minutes your child could open the door and go walking around, scald themselves on hot water, choke, be sick, use a mini bar (if there) , open a window (if that sort), fall over and split head open.....need I go on?

PuppyMonkey · 16/02/2017 18:01

Tell them it's against hotel policy so it's out of your hands.

callmeadoctor · 16/02/2017 18:02

I would ring the hotel up myself and check this all out, they may even have a family room or suite that your inlaws could have, either that or they will be able to juggle things around so they are next door and you can use a video baby monitor. I think that they may not have pushed reception on this, so I would check all this out direct. Sometimes people (the inlays) just don't like to ask!

Purplebluebird · 16/02/2017 18:02

No way.

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Chamonix1 · 16/02/2017 18:02

Giddy I'm guessing they assume it would bleep or something. I don't know.
It's for dd's birthday this weekend away and they insisted on this meal and that they'd take dd. They are staying up two more nights too so can have plenty of adult time just don't understand why watching tv quietly with some wine etc is so much to ask not that we did

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diddl · 16/02/2017 18:03

No.

I wouldn't trust them now either.

Blimey, if they can't sit with their GD for a couple of hrs either awake or asleep!

Thirtyrock39 · 16/02/2017 18:03

I can tell how awkward you feel I've been there! Just say you're really worried and you won't enjoy it if she's in the room alone and that you could get in trouble with the hotel

callmeadoctor · 16/02/2017 18:05

inlays!!!!!! Inlaws!!!!!!

PollyPerky · 16/02/2017 18:05

They have arranged the weekend away for your daughter's birthday? She's 4. Why isn't she having a party at home and not weekend in a hotel? Or have I got it wrong?

JigglyTuff · 16/02/2017 18:06

Great! Next door but one means you don't have far to carry her back to your room.

Do not negotiate. It's either she stays in their room while they shag in the shower/empty the minibar and watch dark swedish drama or you don't go out.

Anything else is not an option.

JigglyTuff · 16/02/2017 18:06

If she were a baby, every 20 mins would be okay. But at 4, she's too likely to wake up and go wandering if she's on her own.

Sunnysky2016 · 16/02/2017 18:07

No way. What if God forbid there was a fire for example?

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Chamonix1 · 16/02/2017 18:07

Polly
We are taking her to a zoo, we got 1 night and zoo on an offer and dh works near said hotel/zoo so I thought it would be a nice treat for the whole family.
She is having party when back. We don't get to go away much, is just an excuse to do something nice. I arranged it and stupidly invited them

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thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter · 16/02/2017 18:08

second what PuppyMonkey said, they might check with hotel but they might just buy it.

The 20 minutes thing sounds like a right faff plus bet they'll only do it once then not bother...

Chickoletta · 16/02/2017 18:09

No way!

timeisnotaline · 16/02/2017 18:10

I completely agree with how you feel but would be bloody annoyed that you had only focussed on this a night or two before hand when you've had ages.

Quartz2208 · 16/02/2017 18:10

Stop worrying about what they think of your judgment, it's yours to make and it's a perfectly valid choice that a lot of parents would make.

You invited them so they could spend time with their granddaughter on her birthday and see her enjoy the zoo, that has not changed.

PollyPerky · 16/02/2017 18:10

I think hotels and small children don't really mix unless the adults are prepared to sit in the hotel room in the evenings. I'd have chosen self catering- Airbnb - or similar with 2 bedrooms.

Cloeycat · 16/02/2017 18:10

Even if you were ok with the leaving the room on her own business with 20 min checks why would you rely on some dodgy phone system? Just bring your baby monitor with you and set it up between the two rooms?

FannytheW0nderDog · 16/02/2017 18:10

YANBU. No f-ing way!! What planet are they on?? The hotel management would in no way support this. (You might want to quote their policy on no children under 16 alone in hotel rooms). The first time my own DD stayed on her own in a hotel room was at the grand age of 15.

user1484578224 · 16/02/2017 18:11

they sound selfish and useless, no

Lugeeta · 16/02/2017 18:12

I wouldn't do it and I have left my 3yo dc in a hotel room whilst we had dinner. But we used the hotels baby listening system AND we had a baby monitor with a live video feed to my phone which was on the table and we could see at all times.

I would let the grandparents take the table and get room service and have a fun night with your dd in the hotel room!