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Original poster

To think this is suspicious

147 replies

Fireandflames666 · 13/02/2017 10:13

Partner has been messaging woman from work, old messages have been deleted but i managed to seenone this morning saying

"Hello Mrs, hope you're ok today? x "

I hope I'm bu.

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DevilMakesWork · 13/02/2017 23:42

Do you have any secrets from your partner? Any at all?

If yes...stop reading his phone messages.

NavyandWhite · 13/02/2017 23:44

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PyongyangKipperbang · 13/02/2017 23:46

Does her name begin with B?

Sorry to be cryptic but there is something about the original message.

MillionToOneChances · 13/02/2017 23:48

Sorry to hear that :(

BifsWif · 13/02/2017 23:49

Sorry to read that OP. How are you feeling?

MuvaWifey77 · 13/02/2017 23:49

Theres something there in my opinion. Laughs and jokes with female ,really? He works with her for gods sake. If he feels he need to nurture this friendship past work hours there's more to it, is he leaving you to be on his phone ? I have no sympathy for men sometimes arrgh

wooster16 · 13/02/2017 23:59

Flowers for you op.

TheOnlyColditz · 14/02/2017 00:17

Dude I'm sorry. But you will be ok, I promise. You will be ok.

RaeofSun · 14/02/2017 00:22

Oh shit what a bastard am sorry to hear.

Bahh · 14/02/2017 00:23

This too shall pass. Look after yourself until it does. CakeWineFlowers

AddToBasket · 14/02/2017 00:26

You poor thing. Do you have RL support?

Are you sure it is over? If it just started at Christmas it may not be a real thing.

altiara · 14/02/2017 00:31

Hope you're ok OP Flowers

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Fireandflames666 · 14/02/2017 00:48

We were together twelve years. Our kids are only 5 yrs and 18 months, it's not fair.

Turns out that he's fallen out of love with me because I'm anxious, he's obviously in lust/love with girl at work.

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Original poster
Fireandflames666 · 14/02/2017 00:50

No family here, mums in france, brother is three hours away and my father died a few years ago.

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TheMaddHugger · 14/02/2017 01:26

soft soft ((((((((((Hugs))))))))))) OP 🙀 😿 😾

smegsmeg · 14/02/2017 02:18

Thinking of you OP FlowersFlowers

FritzDonovan · 14/02/2017 02:34
Flowers He's a shit. Can you ask him to go somewhere else while you sort out what you want to do? Lots of advice on what to do next on threads on here. Importantly, if he can string you along for months and only admit when confronted (at least he did admit it), you know you can't trust him. Look out for yourself and the kids, don't worry about keeping his affair secret for him - you need as much support as possible from friends and family. Would your mum come over for support? Flowers
EmeraldScorn · 14/02/2017 03:24

What an absolute dick but at least you know and he will no longer be able to deceive you and run about behind your back.

Always trust your instincts especially if lines like "Can I not have female friends?" when confronted are used as that often amounts to nothing more than weak deflection from men (women) who've been caught out.

Put yourself and your two children first, take the lead and tell him what you want ie; pack your bags etc.

Olympiathequeen · 14/02/2017 04:04

What a bastard. Typically blaming you for his shit.

Tell him to leave immediately and change the locks,

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zigzagbetty · 14/02/2017 04:20

So sorry to hear this op Flowers

Farandole · 14/02/2017 04:57

Very sorry OP 💐

LindyHemming · 14/02/2017 06:35

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Sugarpiehoneyeye · 14/02/2017 08:07

I'm so sorry OP, you must be feeling wretched. ☹️
What a weak excuse, using your anxiety, to justify his sordid little secret.
Please be kind to yourself, you sound so lovely, and genuine. 💐🍷
One day, this will all be behind you.

pishedoff · 14/02/2017 08:18

Oh what a shit!

Sending you a very unmumsnetty hug xx

Halle71 · 14/02/2017 08:46

I never understand this.
I get falling out of love, but starting a new relationship before the last one has finished when you are a 'grown up'.
He has kids, kids who will find out one day, kids who he may have trouble seeing, a partner who has probably given up a lot to have those kids.
Surely the enormity of breaking a family apart is more important than his next conquest?
If you have to do it, at least do it compassionately.

Sorry OP, for what you are going through.