To be annoyed by the delivery man?

[dontpullyourbrotherswilly]

I know I am BU actually but still feel annoyed!
The delivery man (who has been delivering parcels here for a while) yesterday decided to address me by my first name.
Why? I don't know your name why the bloody heck should you address me by my first name (or any name, but the use of first name by strangers always grates me)?! To me delivery situation is very simple- no need to use anyone's name (unless id required for passport or similar). Not saying I'm usually rude, I obviously thank the person and sometimes there's comments about weather etc that's quite usual i think.
Then he came back today- firsty he rang the doorbell and immediately banged on the door which is frustrating as LO napping but obviously he wouldn't have known that.
Then he told me i look tired today !
Since when is it ok for a virtual stranger to tell you that you look crap basically??!?
Makes me irrationally angry right now!

Please tell me I'm being ridiculous and how would you react in similar situations??
Next time hold out my hand and say " nice to meet you and your name is?"
Or
"You look shit too, thanks!"

I'm just about done with my unreasonable rant!

You don't like strangers addressing you by your first name? Why ever not? It's your name, right? People in this country are weirdos- in most other european countries you don't have all this rubbish about Mr So and So and Mrs X. Just call people by their first name and stop pretending you're someone special.

(But I am quite happy to chat to delivery men and women if they are friendly.)

Would you prefer him to tug his forelock and call you ma'am?

I wouldn't be bothered by being addressed by my first name.

I don't like being told I look tired though, except by those I know we'll.

It is really impolite to address someone (especially someone who is paying for your services) by their first name without being invited to do so, yes.

If somebody addresses me as Mrs X, I will always invite them to use my first name, but doing that off the bat is such poor manners.

I wonder how some of you were brought up tbh.

Blimey, why all the anger over such a trivial thing? Very unhealthy.

Yep, their head office (really) customer service told me they don't need my name when delivering a parcel.
They don't know my full name, my deliveries have an initial and a surname - any more information they demand they're not going get.

YABU

He has seen you a number of times so the relationship feels familia to him I assume he feels comfortable in using your first name now and making chit chat.

You sound very angry over something so trivial. Maybe something else is bothering you in life and you are taking it out on this situation?

Atheist - you'd hate my hospital consultant who gives me a warm hug at the end of consultations (and it makes me feel that he's sees me as a person not just another 'case' and cares about me)

But as for what is appropriate - society is an ever changing thing - it used to be inappropriate for women to wear trousers, have jobs, vote. It would have been totally inappropriate for people of different races to marry, for children from working class families to go to university. Etc etc etc.

I welcome an all inclusive society, I hate exclusion and treating people a certain way because of their job. It's called respect for persons. I see beyond the particular task a person is doing to the human being. And any human being has a right to talk to me as long as they are pleasant and their aim is to be friendly. I suppose it depends on your definition of rude - I don't consider someone using my first name or being chatty as rude.

Obviously I wouldn't tolerate aggression or anything that made me feel threatened or vulnerable. But that isn't friendliness.

This drives me mad too. Overfamiliarity! All over the place at the moment. Don't talk to me like I'm your mate when I don't know you and we are engaged in a professional transaction. I don't want to be your mate, I have those already, what I want is some respectful and good customer service!

The whole practice is bloody rude and annoying. All started by annoying sales people, in an effort to establish "rapport". Well it doesn't work with me I can tell you, the exact opposite!

The worst is actually the "can I call you by your first name?" question. Leaves me in a position where I have to say "no" as I am then forced into saying I would rather they didn't.

What has happened to good customer service and a proper level of respect for customers!

Grrrr!

PS I give out my name now as Mrs .... now and avoid giving my first name wherever possible. Seems to get the message across most of the time.

I would however love a doctor that gave me hugs though! That sounds great...

Olivia
Yes he has seen me exactly as many times as I have seen him, yet I don't know his first name nor his address
I feel he was being overfamiliar and now i will be somewhat dreading to get deliveries from him as I don't know what would he comment on next time.

I'm friendly with everyone and don't care what people say to me or call me as long as it's not rude - usually have a laugh with delivery people/post person/shop keepers etc ... never had any airs and graces - but rude people I hate with a passion!

Look that's nothing my asda delivery guy ninja hugged me!

I was so suprised that I didn't even react?

I think he was just happy I was his last drop off and he didn't seen remotely creepy before the hug and didn't behave creepy after it.

I had never met him before or since so it's just become a random and slightly wierd story.

there was not meant to be a question mark sorry

If everyone 'lets go' inappropriate behaviour, then it ceases to be inappropriate and crosses over into being a new norm

Saying a polite hello to someone using their name, when you have reason to know their name, is not inappropriate behaviour unless you are the queen

There's a young guy who often brings my supermarket shop who goes on endlessly about really boring shit like lego and game of thrones. I understand making conversation but he keeps me at the door with his 'anecdotes' long after I've taken in the shopping. Last week he knocked the door and when I saw him through the window I said 'oh no it's the boring lego guy'. When I opened the door I realised he must have heard me . I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I'm slightly relieved that I won't have to stand at the door while he goes on any more!

I don't get this even though I shop online lots (disabled); DH says it's because I naturally look grumpy even when I'm not. Sigh...

When it's this, on phone or in person:

Sales person: Is it o.k. to call you [forename]?
Me: Mrs [surname] is fine thank you.

I smile even when it's on the phone, I've been told it comes over in the voice. I wish I could make it come over in email... or a forum post...

dontpullyourbrotherswilly Fair enough.

Maybe next time if he says 'Hello Your First Name' you could reply 'I would prefer Mrs Surname please' with a smile?

How dare the 'service' address you by your first name.

(I'm from the North and we enjoy being friendly to strangers up here. Honestly, it's quite pleasent)

Maybe he Judy wanted a bit of human interaction, and is really bad at it.

Breathe and let go.

Bloody Judy, she keeps popping up every where.
Just, I meant just

Really hoping your name isn't Judy, and I've basically done what the delivery man did.

A worker? Being friendly?! What an arsehole!

Meridien - whether they are calling you by your first name or surname seems irrelevant one you start refering to yourself in the third person!

Actually maybe all these overly friendly folk are living in fear of getting the Mrs/Miss/Ms wrong and therefore think first names are safer territory....